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What are we most afraid of?

Izthewiz

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Not sure anyone would like to open up
I know this can be a Touchy subject but with no judgement just love ,kindness and understanding.
What fears has anxiety thrown your way that you're most afraid of?

For me Recently it was thinking I had bladder cancer.
Yes I did had some real weak symptoms but weak at best.
My anxiety waged a war against my every emotion and thinking,I was safe no where.
All I could do is study other people's symptoms and try to add what I was going through to feed into my anxiety and convince myself I was going to die.
Prior to my doctors Appointment I took out a life insurance policy just in case to make sure my wife would be ok.
I even started to not look forward to a year from now the fear gripped me like no other.
Now that I am fine I am getting my life back together thanks to God and also My wife.
 

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I guess for me it would be the rapid heart beat/pulse, the loss of appetite from the nerves, and the insomnia it causes...
But I would have to say that when the negative thoughts come into play, I try and remember what some of you say on here about it only being plain and simple - "anxiety" and nothing more then that... It's tough sometimes when those symptoms can be powerful... Like today for example here at my job, I felt it come on strong, the pulse went up and I had to move around the building and shake it off...
 

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I've feared a large number of things, but they all have one thing in common: death. That is my ultimate fear, and it's what drives most of my anxiety related to health. Outside of health anxiety, I don't think anything really worries me severely. I have mild social anxiety and generalized anxiety, but nothing like my experiences with health anxiety.
 

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I've feared a large number of things, but they all have one thing in common: death. That is my ultimate fear, and it's what drives most of my anxiety related to health. Outside of health anxiety, I don't think anything really worries me severely. I have mild social anxiety and generalized anxiety, but nothing like my experiences with health anxiety.
Death is mine as well, it just seems so lonely and final. When it comes to life there can never be a happy ending in the end. Lately I've been fearing the thought of a fast pulse from fear or nerves. It always leads me to think the worse I end up feeling weak and sick to my stomach instantly.
 

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It gets easier as we age.
If I was told now at 37 you'll die at 85 I'd say deal.
Its because we can't control the situation.
 
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Definitely death. I've been like this since about 8 years old. I would sit up crying all night scared I was going to die and my parents were going to die. Maybe because it's the ultimate thing we can't control at all?
 

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Definitely death. I've been like this since about 8 years old. I would sit up crying all night scared I was going to die and my parents were going to die. Maybe because it's the ultimate thing we can't control at all?
I used to do the same thing, except not about me, just my parents. Now it's about me as well.

It gets easier as we age.
If I was told now at 37 you'll die at 85 I'd say deal.
Its because we can't control the situation.
I've heard so many times that people in old age often welcome the thought, and the death itself. It does make sense. When you're 85 and you have grown kids, probably grown grandkids, and some great grandkids, what else is there really to do in life? By then you've probably done it all. Experienced all there is to experience. With old age, one is likely frail and unable to enjoy life the way we can now. What's the point in continuing once you get there?
 
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I too fear death. The news of Kobe Bryant's tragic death hit me hard. Having a family to care for and love is a great responsibility and joy in life. The thought of leaving my daughters fatherless and my wife without her partner is one of my greatest fears. Same if I were to lose a child or my wife, the hole in the fabric of family that would create.

I also fear that my current anxious/depressed state is permanent. I have had years of good runs in the past, but not recently.

A good thing for all of us to keep in mind is that anxieties are manifestations, not truth. Our minds are spontaneous thought generators, so don't believe everything that you think!
 

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I have many fears and they all center around health anxiety. I don’t really have social issues, or just anxiety in general - mine is 100% centered around my bodies reactions to things. Example - rapid heart rate. Keeps me from exercising, I’m afraid I’ll keel over dead. Or right now, I am getting over the flu. The cough is horrendous. Took afrin last night to clear my sinuses and sat up in a panic until 2 am because I “felt weird” after using it. Just now I tried blowing one side of my nose and there was blood on the tissue. Rationally I know I’ve gone through 4 jumbo rolls of toilet paper in a week blowing my nose, so I’m sure there’s some messed up blood vessels up there. HA doesn’t make it easy for me to believe it though.
 

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Fear I cant handle another night awake in sheer terror and then the next day in anxiety insanity
 

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Afraid of the next panic attack and severe anxiety that last months at a time.

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Death, disease, cancer, pandemics and being stuck on the freeway LOL
 

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Afraid of the next panic attack and severe anxiety that last months at a time.

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Death, disease, cancer, pandemics and being stuck on the freeway LOL
Freeway could be interesting.
I only really drive to far left lane on highway just in case.
 

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I think cancer, most specifically breast cancer. My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer at 33 and lived to 79 cancer free. I was just 10 years old at the time. She died in a car crash. I'm also afraid of having a heart attack since my blood pressure spikes when I have a panic attack. I lost my father a little over a month ago to COPD. I cared for him for five years and now although I have a wonderful husband and family, I think about nothing but my health. I don't enjoy anything anymore. Nothing brings me joy. I used to be so active. I injured my back and now I'm afraid to do anything that would bring back that pain and muscle spasms. I just want to turn off all these paranoid thoughts
 

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My blood psi spikes too during an anxiety attack. I fear a heart attack. My job and life is very stressful. I go to church, it helps some.
 
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Oddly enough I’m not afraid of death as much as pain. I don’t know why, but whether it’s emotional or physical I’m terrified of pain. As a result I tend to avoid injury at all costs, I’ve actually had thoughts like “well at least if I die here it’ll probably be quick” that have calmed me down. I also tend to be overprotective of loved ones, especially if it’s a romantic partner, I get jealous easily and insist they not take any risks, and if something bad happens to them I always find a way to make it my fault or my problem to fix even when whatever happened has nothing to do with me or is their problem to solve. I rarely think about death, but I’m constantly thinking about what happens to me beforehand. I’ve come to terms with death, it’s suffering I’m terrified of.


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I am afraid of people seeing how fat I've become, and also irrational fear of tummy problems in public. I over pump it in my head, start shaking, sweating, panicking, and just had a feeling I am going to die going out my front door. Sometimes it takes few steps to forget that feeling, sometimes I shiver and shake in the dog park, with my BF cheering me on . " Can you manage another 5 mins?For him? " so I take it 5 mins at a time. But the fear of impending doom, insanity and death is caused by my fear of a little jiggle on my tummy and pooping my pants. So yeah, anybody here dealing with that? meanwhile majority of my family is currently dealing with cancer, doesn't worry me..at all
 

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I'm pregnant and of course I'm worried about all the weight and struggles that come along with raising a child...but I feel I will love so fully and completely that I'll make my way through that.

What DOES make me incredibly anxious is the side effects of such a wonderful addition to my life. The weight gain, the potential of struggling to get it off, the potential sexual struggles after, my partner not finding me attractive anymore, my partner leaving us, my partner leaving for someone tighter and easier and less complicated.
 
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