Tips for dealing with anxiety/worries over the future?

[Russellmania]

It's been awhile since I logged on to this site, but my anxiety has been triggered again. 3 years ago I joined this community when I was dealing with anxiety for a few weeks, where I was just crippled with anxiety and worried thoughts. Eventually kind of went away on its own after some time without needing therapy or medication. But for those few weeks, I was just plagued with worried thoughts about the future, worrying about losing loved ones (even if there's nothing to be worried about). I don't know how those thoughts just stopped infiltrating my mind, but it did, and for the next 3 years didn't have to deal with it.

I don't even know if what I have is an anxiety disorder, since it seems to resolve on its own after some time, but the issue is that it comes back when it gets triggered by something and it messes with my mind for some time.

Anyway, my anxiety was triggered again 2 days ago when I heard about a health concern re: my mom. It made me so worried and anxious for her. I couldn't stop worrying about the future. It then made me start worrying about my dad. My sister. My grandma. etc. I worry about losing my loved ones and how it's going to affect me. I'm plagued with worries and fears about the future.

Anyone have any tips for on how to deal with these anxious thoughts/worries? I could really use some uplifting advice, prayers, and thoughts.
I am hoping that this will resolve on its own again.

Thanks for reading.

 

[Jonathan123]

Welcome back. If the cause of anxiety is not dealt with it will return. You may be of an anxious disposition in which case anxiety will be present even though it may not affect your life at the time. 'Triggers' are no more than events that remind the unconscious of some previous event that caused anxious feelings or even a trauma. We may not consciously realise it is happening and that is why anxiety can be so frustrating. It may resolve itself for a time, even many years after the event occurred that caused it, but it will return given the right circumstances.
We can certainly send you our prayers and hope, but it is down to you how you deal with it. I would suggest a visit to your GP if only for reassurance. Short term medication can often help a lot. You are adding fear to fear. I suggest acceptance as being a good way to deal with this, or better still some counselling to try and determine the cause of your anxiety. We all fear for our loved ones. but the fear is not allowed to get out of hand. Anxiety is normal emotions greatly exaggerated. Get the book from Amazon by Dr. Claire Weekes, 'Essential help for your Nerves.'. She shows ways of dealing with all forms of anxiety. You can build on the good times when you felt better.

 

[Russellmania]

Welcome back. If the cause of anxiety is not dealt with it will return. You may be of an anxious disposition in which case anxiety will be present even though it may not affect your life at the time. 'Triggers' are no more than events that remind the unconscious of some previous event that caused anxious feelings or even a trauma. We may not consciously realise it is happening and that is why anxiety can be so frustrating. It may resolve itself for a time, even many years after the event occurred that caused it, but it will return given the right circumstances.
We can certainly send you our prayers and hope, but it is down to you how you deal with it. I would suggest a visit to your GP if only for reassurance. Short term medication can often help a lot. You are adding fear to fear. I suggest acceptance as being a good way to deal with this, or better still some counselling to try and determine the cause of your anxiety. We all fear for our loved ones. but the fear is not allowed to get out of hand. Anxiety is normal emotions greatly exaggerated. Get the book from Amazon by Dr. Claire Weekes, 'Essential help for your Nerves.'. She shows ways of dealing with all forms of anxiety. You can build on the good times when you felt better.

Thanks Jonathan, for your insight and kind words. The last couple of days have been up and down with anxiety. I have my moments of relief and I can sleep just fine, but then it'll come back worse in the morning and throughout the day. I know it's up to me to get the treatment I need, but I often worry about medication and becoming dependent on it, to the point that I can't function anymore without it. I'm thinking of therapy; I just have to find one that's affordable.

 

[shay1988]

I also have these worries at times, loosing my parents, family, husband or my kids! Even been having severe anxiety over my dog that has been having some health issues. I talk to my mom all the time about my worries because like me she has bad health anxiety. Idk what I would do without her. We all have these worries I think, nobody wants to loose their loved ones. Just cherish every moment you have with them! We can't control the future but we can control how we spend our time in the present. No since in worrying and being miserable all the time! It's not going to change what happens. But I totally get how u feel. And I hope u find relief soon!

 

[MARCC]

My internal medicine and GI physicians told me not to look past today.

 

[MARCC]

A number years ago, I lost my mother, father and uncle in a years time. My friend was murdered a number of years ago. A friend of mine committed suicide over a divorce a number of years ago. A client of mine was murdered who owned a liquor store in Maryland a number of years ago. Three weeks ago my former coworker committed suicide. I have been thorough and seen a lot and it is no fun.

 

[Jonathan123]

A number years ago, I lost my mother, father and uncle in a years time. My friend was murdered a number of years ago. A friend of mine committed suicide over a divorce a number of years ago. A client of mine was murdered who owned a liquor store in Maryland a number of years ago. Three weeks ago my former coworker committed suicide. I have been thorough and seen a lot and it is no fun.

What you have described is life! The cycle of birth, life and death. Now there is not a thing we can do about it other than accepting it is as it is. If we get on with our lives and make the most of it irrespective of all the pitfalls that occur, then we may be able to be happy. To dwell on past trauma is not a good idea. Buddhists say that life in all things is 'coming to be, ceasing to be'. That is an inescapable fact. I am not suggesting this is about you, but self pity is out in anxiety. 'Poor me. look what I have been through!' All of us, without exception, have been or will be there in upsetting times. It's how we react to events that determines what effect it has on us.

 

[MARCC]

A friend of mine who is a psychiatrist once told me that if a person is trying to control life, that it can't be done and is a waste of time. He said that the root of many types of anxiety is the inability or unwillingness to accept uncertainty. In addition he told me that you can't expect everyone to react the same way in any given situation as one size does not fit all.
Everyone is different so to expect everyone to accept things and get over it is being reasonable and unrealistic.

 

[Russellmania]

Thanks everyone! I met with my GP who is going to provide me with a referral to a therapist soon. Hopefully that will help me a lot with my anxiety.

 

[michaeljunior]

My name is Michael, and at 65, I’ve learned a lot about dealing with anxiety, especially through my wife’s experience. She struggled with anxiety for years, and it often felt overwhelming. One of the most helpful things we found was the use of healing frequencies. My son sent me a blog link one day, and it opened our eyes to new ways to manage stress. The healing frequencies helped bring calm into her life in ways we hadn’t imagined.

If you're worried about the future, my advice is to focus on the present and find small ways to calm your mind each day. Practicing mindfulness, exercising regularly, and sticking to a routine made a huge difference for my wife. Introducing healing frequencies into her daily routine was a game-changer. It’s a natural and gentle approach that allowed her to take control of her anxiety.