kelden
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It's important to first of all note that you cannot control the thoughts you have or how much anxiety a spike causes directly. But you might influence it over time. The response which is only natural is to try and neutralize the fear and escape it. For example, the instinctive response would be to:
The problem is every time you engage in the instinctual response, you've alleviated your anxiety at the cost of legitimizing the fear you're experiencing. You've sent a very clear message to your brain that this particular thought is a legitimate threat, and to watch out for it in the future.
The therapeutic response is also known as the 'extinction response'. Rather than trying to escape these thoughts, you accept them and you choose to live with the ambiguity. You allow them a place in your mind, and you allow yourself to feel the anxiety they bring. You're not giving in, and you're not going to try and get rid of the thoughts. By being accepting to your anxiety and these scary thoughts, you're telling your brain that they're not important. Over time, the thoughts and anxiety gradually drop off!...
- Google information about illnesses to confirm that you don't have them.
- Obsessively evaluate your level of arousal to determine if you're gay.
- Avoid anxiety triggers which cause you to have scary thoughts.
- Switch off the lights and return to the room for a while to make sure they're off, turn them on again to check everything is in order.
- Wasting time during a math or physics test attempting to draw perfect shapes when is not needed.
The problem is every time you engage in the instinctual response, you've alleviated your anxiety at the cost of legitimizing the fear you're experiencing. You've sent a very clear message to your brain that this particular thought is a legitimate threat, and to watch out for it in the future.
The therapeutic response is also known as the 'extinction response'. Rather than trying to escape these thoughts, you accept them and you choose to live with the ambiguity. You allow them a place in your mind, and you allow yourself to feel the anxiety they bring. You're not giving in, and you're not going to try and get rid of the thoughts. By being accepting to your anxiety and these scary thoughts, you're telling your brain that they're not important. Over time, the thoughts and anxiety gradually drop off!...