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The loneliness in depression

Concernedgal

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It has been a really long time since my last thread post. Not many people understand the loneliness that comes with depression. It is a genuine inability to be happy. You smile for loved ones so they don't have to worry about you because let's face it...it just makes things worst when they do. It get's me sometimes...you look around and see people that are genuinely happy or are they faking too? Who can you really talk to about this? I had a therapist for a while and I had high hopes for this but, all they did was ask me if I was doing better than last week and tried to shove medication down my throat. The things that should give me pleasurelike the sun and when it's warm outside...doesn't. To readdress the the fact that you can't talk to anyone about this is if you try to talk to your loved ones about this...they tend to make it about them as if they could say or do anything to "fix me". Do other people with depression feel this way? This isn't about the blues....it's about my brain not wanting to do right. How is it possible to be lonely when you have people that love and care about you ? Who else feels this way. Am I alone in this?
 

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Hi @Concernedgal nice to see you again :)
I think depression is on of the loneliest conditions in the world, because you can never really talk with anyone about it, without getting them too worried, or being looked down on or getting meds down your throat. Doesn't always help really. I suppose it's hard for people to understand, if they haven't experienced it themselves. Therapist a a whole different breed of people, either you get one that will sincerely help you and listen or they make it easy and have you take meds. Not to underestimate meds though, if you have a chemical imbalance in your brain then they can help you. The thing is though that meds alone with not help you in the long run. They will just help with the symptoms, not with the root of the problem.
You are not alone, i bet with you that there are a lot of people, that will read your post and will find themselves in it.
 

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It has been a really long time since my last thread post. Not many people understand the loneliness that comes with depression. It is a genuine inability to be happy. You smile for loved ones so they don't have to worry about you because let's face it...it just makes things worst when they do. It get's me sometimes...you look around and see people that are genuinely happy or are they faking too? Who can you really talk to about this? I had a therapist for a while and I had high hopes for this but, all they did was ask me if I was doing better than last week and tried to shove medication down my throat. The things that should give me pleasurelike the sun and when it's warm outside...doesn't. To readdress the the fact that you can't talk to anyone about this is if you try to talk to your loved ones about this...they tend to make it about them as if they could say or do anything to "fix me". Do other people with depression feel this way? This isn't about the blues....it's about my brain not wanting to do right. How is it possible to be lonely when you have people that love and care about you ? Who else feels this way. Am I alone in this?
I wish I had something to say that would make you feel better.. Just thought I’d let you know you’re definitely not alone.


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You are definitely not alone . Don’t give up . A few things I’ve learned after 35 years of dealing on and off with anxiety and depression.
Human contact is important. Don’t isolate yourself . During tough times having a sympathetic ear is important.
Be good to yourself : Eat right , exercise and be social . Exercising has been my panacea. It releases brain chemicals that elevate your mood.
Lots of research out there about getting rid of processed foods and the positive effect it has on the brain .
Don’t give up on therapy and meds. Finding the right combination can take time.
I’m not an expert and I still battle it , but there is hope.
Saying a prayer for you tonight
 

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Hi @Concernedgal nice to see you again :)
I think depression is on of the loneliest conditions in the world, because you can never really talk with anyone about it, without getting them too worried, or being looked down on or getting meds down your throat. Doesn't always help really. I suppose it's hard for people to understand, if they haven't experienced it themselves. Therapist a a whole different breed of people, either you get one that will sincerely help you and listen or they make it easy and have you take meds. Not to underestimate meds though, if you have a chemical imbalance in your brain then they can help you. The thing is though that meds alone with not help you in the long run. They will just help with the symptoms, not with the root of the problem.
You are not alone, i bet with you that there are a lot of people, that will read your post and will find themselves in it.
I don't understand how some dr. can understand what we go through. I mean yes, he's a trained pro but, how can he really know what is going on with us? How can he begin to tell us how to make it better. I think that's why they shove a bottle at us and tell us it's gonna be fine. Or the well meaning friends and loved ones that don't understand why we can't just "get over it."
 

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I feel you, as of right now I’m laying on my bed unable to fall asleep because I’m thinking about how lonely I feel. The worst part for me is that everyone’s depression is different so even if I try medication I might have to go through a bunch of different kinds before one works and I wonder if I’d even have the confidence to tell my doctor if they weren’t working. Everyone experiences depression differently too, for instance I’m one of the rare few that can trudge on through normal every day activities like going to work, hanging out with friends and getting out of bed in the morning, but the low energy that comes with depression makes these things incredibly difficult and even when I’m the one who planned the night out on the town or a trip to the beach I have a hard time enjoying it sometimes. I think what’s scaring me the most right now is the realization that until I get this under control I can’t have a romantic relationship without risking co-dependency. My brain feels like a hurricane 24/7 scrambling my thoughts and making me feel unfocused and dreary. It’s so hard to describe how I feel I wonder sometimes if anyone really understands and if I can every really understand anyone else. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry all the time. I try to hide my feelings from everyone so much that anything slightly heartwarming or sad on a tv show or movie breaks the emotional dam and has me crying. I falling apart at the seams and barely able to keep it together for my family’s sake. I don’t want them to worry about me they have enough problems of their own and it would only make my issues worse. I just so tired of hurting.


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Everybgid dam night I go through the same thing. I have good grades and blessed with many thing, yet I doubt my self every day. My brain tells me the problems I have and had. I cry alot dyrinf bbn nights and I just want to give up and some times think of hurting my self. Though my body stops me all of the times. I always think there is some one v b better than me and I do mediocre jobs with school and work. I feel so small and I hate my self fir b b not trying hard yet I'm still here.
I try to talk about it and if I let it out I turn into a emotional wreck. I'm no therapist and I tried it. But I defected the question he asked and got nothing out of it. But I think thier is no one who understands me except me so I trust no one and my love for those around me deteriorated. I put on a fake facade and be .multiple people which is not me but what I really am is a childish lazy coward who truly has no one that I made to like me naturally. I can not love another being with football the hate inside. I don't know what th o tell you except this: find someone or somthing that makes you happy and stick with it. Dont be like me.
I feel you, as of right now I’m laying on my bed unable to fall asleep because I’m thinking about how lonely I feel. The worst part for me is that everyone’s depression is different so even if I try medication I might have to go through a bunch of different kinds before one works and I wonder if I’d even have the confidence to tell my doctor if they weren’t working. Everyone experiences depression differently too, for instance I’m one of the rare few that can trudge on through normal every day activities like going to work, hanging out with friends and getting out of bed in the morning, but the low energy that comes with depression makes these things incredibly difficult and even when I’m the one who planned the night out on the town or a trip to the beach I have a hard time enjoying it sometimes. I think what’s scaring me the most right now is the realization that until I get this under control I can’t have a romantic relationship without risking co-dependency. My brain feels like a hurricane 24/7 scrambling my thoughts and making me feel unfocused and dreary. It’s so hard to describe how I feel I wonder sometimes if anyone really understands and if I can every really understand anyone else. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry all the time. I try to hide my feelings from everyone so much that anything slightly heartwarming or sad on a tv show or movie breaks the emotional dam and has me crying. I falling apart at the seams and barely able to keep it together for my family’s sake. I don’t want them to worry about me they have enough problems of their own and it would only make my issues worse. I just so tired of hurting.


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I'm v v the same, every night I think all that I do is. Not enough and I just want to cry and go away from everyone. I think all my hard work is luck and all the bonds I forged was fir nothing. My lifes is going relatively good but I still think of hurting my self to this day. Not acting upon those thoughts mind you. I keep it internally as well so I don't become a burden. When I do I make everyone horrible and annoy and burden them. I put my self through this and never changed. Just a weak coward who is nothing but to break thing and screw up. I never went out with friends or had a relationship. Just mediocritie and YouTube to keep me company. Who are stronger than me for the fact you possess both courage and people who care for you. Think about bn b the hood things and don't be like. I'm alone and worthless. You feel alone but have a chance to change it. Don't embrace loneliness, fight it and don't fall into the pit.
It has been a really long time since my last thread post. Not many people understand the loneliness that comes with depression. It is a genuine inability to be happy. You smile for loved ones so they don't have to worry about you because let's face it...it just makes things worst when they do. It get's me sometimes...you look around and see people that are genuinely happy or are they faking too? Who can you really talk to about this? I had a therapist for a while and I had high hopes for this but, all they did was ask me if I was doing better than last week and tried to shove medication down my throat. The things that should give me pleasurelike the sun and when it's warm outside...doesn't. To readdress the the fact that you can't talk to anyone about this is if you try to talk to your loved ones about this...they tend to make it about them as if they could say or do anything to "fix me". Do other people with depression feel this way? This isn't about the blues....it's about my brain not wanting to do right. How is it possible to be lonely when you have people that love and care about you ? Who else feels this way. Am I alone in this?
I feel it when I fail orvdisapoint some one. It like when you tell someone the ugly parts of your self and they bvb show thier true colors. It's like a dark feeling on your back a d it reminds you that your worthless every dam day. It gives me anger a d anxity and self loathing. Li kn e the pleasures of life seems meaning less
So I feel your pain and it feels like no one would care if I'm gone the next day. I always compare my self woth other saying that they matter and I do not. I tried everything and and I feel worthless when I don't succeed. The loneliness is you not knowing what your here goes and fearing if anyone truly understands you. I'm like that, it closed so many doors and I don't know why I try sometimes. Your bor a loser like me. You know what wrong and make the effort to change who you are to better your self.
It hurts I know but you can't just give up. It hurts and runs your being and pushes all the good away. Leaving you an empty emotionless husk. So please just let it out. If it doesn't work try and try again. Misfits like us have to use g r.c itvandvwill to go through the world. Despair is easy to have and love a bad joy us a battle to obtain. But its woth it in the end. There are many problems and thier is atkeat one person who can learn to love. You just need to accept the fact in which I refused to do. Love your self, and find peace in that god. Ow until you love somthing other than yourself
 
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