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The loneliness in depression

Concernedgal

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It has been a really long time since my last thread post. Not many people understand the loneliness that comes with depression. It is a genuine inability to be happy. You smile for loved ones so they don't have to worry about you because let's face it...it just makes things worst when they do. It get's me sometimes...you look around and see people that are genuinely happy or are they faking too? Who can you really talk to about this? I had a therapist for a while and I had high hopes for this but, all they did was ask me if I was doing better than last week and tried to shove medication down my throat. The things that should give me pleasurelike the sun and when it's warm outside...doesn't. To readdress the the fact that you can't talk to anyone about this is if you try to talk to your loved ones about this...they tend to make it about them as if they could say or do anything to "fix me". Do other people with depression feel this way? This isn't about the blues....it's about my brain not wanting to do right. How is it possible to be lonely when you have people that love and care about you ? Who else feels this way. Am I alone in this?
 

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Hi @Concernedgal nice to see you again :)
I think depression is on of the loneliest conditions in the world, because you can never really talk with anyone about it, without getting them too worried, or being looked down on or getting meds down your throat. Doesn't always help really. I suppose it's hard for people to understand, if they haven't experienced it themselves. Therapist a a whole different breed of people, either you get one that will sincerely help you and listen or they make it easy and have you take meds. Not to underestimate meds though, if you have a chemical imbalance in your brain then they can help you. The thing is though that meds alone with not help you in the long run. They will just help with the symptoms, not with the root of the problem.
You are not alone, i bet with you that there are a lot of people, that will read your post and will find themselves in it.
 

Masonm7700

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It has been a really long time since my last thread post. Not many people understand the loneliness that comes with depression. It is a genuine inability to be happy. You smile for loved ones so they don't have to worry about you because let's face it...it just makes things worst when they do. It get's me sometimes...you look around and see people that are genuinely happy or are they faking too? Who can you really talk to about this? I had a therapist for a while and I had high hopes for this but, all they did was ask me if I was doing better than last week and tried to shove medication down my throat. The things that should give me pleasurelike the sun and when it's warm outside...doesn't. To readdress the the fact that you can't talk to anyone about this is if you try to talk to your loved ones about this...they tend to make it about them as if they could say or do anything to "fix me". Do other people with depression feel this way? This isn't about the blues....it's about my brain not wanting to do right. How is it possible to be lonely when you have people that love and care about you ? Who else feels this way. Am I alone in this?
I wish I had something to say that would make you feel better.. Just thought I’d let you know you’re definitely not alone.


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URfine

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You are definitely not alone . Don’t give up . A few things I’ve learned after 35 years of dealing on and off with anxiety and depression.
Human contact is important. Don’t isolate yourself . During tough times having a sympathetic ear is important.
Be good to yourself : Eat right , exercise and be social . Exercising has been my panacea. It releases brain chemicals that elevate your mood.
Lots of research out there about getting rid of processed foods and the positive effect it has on the brain .
Don’t give up on therapy and meds. Finding the right combination can take time.
I’m not an expert and I still battle it , but there is hope.
Saying a prayer for you tonight
 

MarciKS

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Hi @Concernedgal nice to see you again :)
I think depression is on of the loneliest conditions in the world, because you can never really talk with anyone about it, without getting them too worried, or being looked down on or getting meds down your throat. Doesn't always help really. I suppose it's hard for people to understand, if they haven't experienced it themselves. Therapist a a whole different breed of people, either you get one that will sincerely help you and listen or they make it easy and have you take meds. Not to underestimate meds though, if you have a chemical imbalance in your brain then they can help you. The thing is though that meds alone with not help you in the long run. They will just help with the symptoms, not with the root of the problem.
You are not alone, i bet with you that there are a lot of people, that will read your post and will find themselves in it.
I don't understand how some dr. can understand what we go through. I mean yes, he's a trained pro but, how can he really know what is going on with us? How can he begin to tell us how to make it better. I think that's why they shove a bottle at us and tell us it's gonna be fine. Or the well meaning friends and loved ones that don't understand why we can't just "get over it."
 

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I feel you, as of right now I’m laying on my bed unable to fall asleep because I’m thinking about how lonely I feel. The worst part for me is that everyone’s depression is different so even if I try medication I might have to go through a bunch of different kinds before one works and I wonder if I’d even have the confidence to tell my doctor if they weren’t working. Everyone experiences depression differently too, for instance I’m one of the rare few that can trudge on through normal every day activities like going to work, hanging out with friends and getting out of bed in the morning, but the low energy that comes with depression makes these things incredibly difficult and even when I’m the one who planned the night out on the town or a trip to the beach I have a hard time enjoying it sometimes. I think what’s scaring me the most right now is the realization that until I get this under control I can’t have a romantic relationship without risking co-dependency. My brain feels like a hurricane 24/7 scrambling my thoughts and making me feel unfocused and dreary. It’s so hard to describe how I feel I wonder sometimes if anyone really understands and if I can every really understand anyone else. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry all the time. I try to hide my feelings from everyone so much that anything slightly heartwarming or sad on a tv show or movie breaks the emotional dam and has me crying. I falling apart at the seams and barely able to keep it together for my family’s sake. I don’t want them to worry about me they have enough problems of their own and it would only make my issues worse. I just so tired of hurting.


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