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Super anxious about relationship

Joewolf25

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I’m a 25 year old female. My bf and I have been dating for almost 2 years now.. recently he got a new job and new friends and overall mentally is doing really good. He told me a couple days ago he either wanted to break up or take a break for a few days but also txt to check up on each other. I’m so worried that he’s going to come back and say he doesn’t want to be with me.. we’ve been through so much together and I would be devastated if I lost him. I just don’t know what to do or who to talk to about this.. we’ve always had issues because I’m very bad at showing affection and stuff. I’ve been trying to do better about it but he says I’m just to sarcastic and don’t build him up enough and he can’t trust me to fix it cause I always try to and then go back to my old ways.. is there any way to fix this? I’ve told him I’ll do whatever I have to do to make it work because I love him and wanna be with him and he said he loves me and wants to be with me also but doesn’t know if it will work and wants time to think.. can anyone help me and give me advice on what I should do?
 

Cuchculan

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I am always a bit dubious when I hear of anybody asking for a short break in a relationship. If they were busy and had things to do, I could maybe understand it. Is this a break from you he wants? No other reasons at all. Just never sounds right to me at all. All you can really do is try talk to him and ask why the break was even needed? See what answer you get back. That might lead to more questions. More answers too. Case of can you both come to an understanding that each person accepts. Does not feel let down by.
 

Joewolf25

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He said he needed to take a break and think if he wants to be in the relationship. He said he loves me and doesn’t wanna break up and cried with me and told me he would be away for a couple days to think. I feel like he’s already made his decision to break up and I’m sitting here playing catch up
 

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If people need to think about such things it is never a good sign. In his head, according to him, he does not know if he wants to be in a relationship with you or not. Heck he should know. Simple as that. Not need time to think about it. That means he has his doubts already.
 

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I think saying taking a break is just a way to soften the blow so to speak. My advise is to move on. Learn from the mistake you made in this relationship and don't repeat it in the next relationship.
 
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