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Mar 12, 2019
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This is my fist time posting.

In the last 12months I’ve had quite a lot going on some negative some positive. In March last year my partner had a miscarriage, shortly after I got laid off, I found work straight away doing the same job for a different company. Then me and my partner got engaged (positive). A couple of months later my partner was pregnant(positive), we are having a girl due next week. Over the last few weeks we found that my brother in-law has a brain tumour (he’s had surgery today and all seems to have gone well), his wife (my sister in-law) has been diagnosed with skin cancer, they have 4 kids one of which is only 4 months old.

Me and my partner want to help out as much as we can but we are expecting a baby any time now.

I have been depressed for at least a year now. I was on Mirtazapine a few years ago (only for a couple of months, I didn’t realise it was supposed to be more of a long term thing). I didn’t like them either. Ive been on Sertraline since August and recently upped my dosage to 100mg (I’m in for a review tomorrow).

I should be happy I’m having a baby and planning a wedding but I find myself really down and struggling. Am I just struggling with change?

Thank you, I’m just looking for people’s opinions and wondering if others are going through anything similar.

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New Member
Jan 19, 2019
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Hi...i suffered a misscage as well in May and it can be hard. Me and my boyfriend are trying for another baby but we have had no luck; however, I know you will pull though because you have positive things going for you. Yes it sucks that so many bad things have happened but you are strong I can tell... at times you need to take a breather for you and then do one task at a time, you got this!


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Mar 15, 2019
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Sounds like your life is full of stress right now. I would have to imagine that is the cause of your depression. It seems you have everything else in place for a happy life. Just have to let this storm pass without putting too much pressure on yourself to be Superman.

I wouldn't try to be happy right now if it were you there is just too much in your way. When your daughter comes you won't be able to help but feel the happy feelings.

Just try and work at a normal pace and accept the depression for what it is, a temporary effect of being overly stressed. Thing will get better.