QUESTION OF THE DAY.....

[ladybj]

Do you think two people with Anxiety can be in a good relationship? If yes or no, Why?

My reply is YES, absolutely.

Why..because they will understand each other. They do not have to question or wonder why you are a bit distant. You can let each other know, this is not a good day for me and they will understand. The both of you will make sure each other is ok and you will not get offended when each other need their space. You will be able to freely express how you feel and your partner will understand. There will be ups and downs as in any relationship but you will understand each other. PRICELESS!!!!

 

[Cuchculan]

NO. Think it would be a bit of a nightmare. Two people together who like their own space. Who like to do things in certain ways. Who don't like to do certain things. Who would rather be alone a lot of the time. Which one goes to visit the other one? If going out is a struggle. What exacrlt would a date consist of? Sitting in a dark room. That is me thinking of the things I tend to do.

Will add in that I do know a few people that it did work for. Their anxiety would not have been as bad as that of some other people. That is one thing I think that has to come into play here. Just how bad the anxiety is. Mild anxiety it could work out. Extreme anxiety it would be near impossible. Like I said in another post ' I would not date myself '. Meaning if I knew all about a person like myself I would run the other way.

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

Years ago, I was a rather nervous person. I was dealing with terrible anxieties at the time.

And during that time, I had two friends who also had anxiety issues. But I was friends with both of them for a long time.

So yes, two people can be good friends even if they're both anxious much of the time.

However, I never had a girlfriend with anxiety issues during the years that I had anxiety issues.

 

[Cuchculan]

I'm trying to picture their first date. Two people with extreme anxiety. He takes her to a dark room and they sit there and do nothing. Second date they are sitting in the same dark room. He suddenly asks her ' do you fancy doing something different '. She mumbles an answer ' No, em, yes, em, different, what '. How about we go into the other room and we turn the lights off and sit in the dark in there '. She breathes a sigh of relief ' sounds great to me. Let's do it. '

' Shall we talk ' she asks him. ' You first ' he replies. ' You sound just like my therapist' she tells him '. ' And you sound like mine ' he answers. ' Tell me about your childhood ' she asks him. ' Nothing to tell, it was normal ' he stutters . ' Same as mine ' she says in a low voice. ' Shall we just sit in silence ' they both ask at the same time. And the night grew darker. Darker than the room they sat in together.

 

[bin_tenn]

My anxiety has certainly been more toward moderate / severe in the past several years. My fiancee has some moderate-ish anxiety that seems to be more seasonal. It's never caused us to clash or otherwise be unhappy. I definitely think it depends on the people involved, as well as the severity (and types) of anxiety.

 

[ladybj]

I'm trying to picture their first date. Two people with extreme anxiety. He takes her to a dark room and they sit there and do nothing. Second date they are sitting in the same dark room. He suddenly asks her ' do you fancy doing something different '. She mumbles an answer ' No, em, yes, em, different, what '. How about we go into the other room and we turn the lights off and sit in the dark in there '. She breathes a sigh of relief ' sounds great to me. Let's do it. '

' Shall we talk ' she asks him. ' You first ' he replies. ' You sound just like my therapist' she tells him '. ' And you sound like mine ' he answers. ' Tell me about your childhood ' she asks him. ' Nothing to tell, it was normal ' he stutters . ' Same as mine ' she says in a low voice. ' Shall we just sit in silence ' they both ask at the same time. And the night grew darker. Darker than the room they sat in together.

LOL.... Not sure if it will be like that for all couples with anxiety.
When I had extreme anxiety, I wish my husband understood what I was going through... it would have helped a LOT. But he did not have a clue, therefore I felt I was alone going through it. That's why I say two people with anxiety can make it because they will understand what the other is going through. If someone has mild anxiety and the other have extreme, I think it can work. The worst thing to me is if your partner have anxiety and you are unaware and they suffer in silence.

My anxiety has certainly been more toward moderate / severe in the past several years. My fiancee has some moderate-ish anxiety that seems to be more seasonal. It's never caused us to clash or otherwise be unhappy. I definitely think it depends on the people involved, as well as the severity (and types) of anxiety.

I agree....