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AMcSwain

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So I live in Texas and the furthest I have ever traveled was to Arkansas about 2 years ago and it was a 5 hr drive.. December 31st we will be heading to Tennessee and it is a 12 1/2 hour drive. I was so excited to go because I have never been that far but all of a sudden today all I can think about is what if something happens while we are so far away from home... What can I do to stop this?
 

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So I live in Texas and the furthest I have ever traveled was to Arkansas about 2 years ago and it was a 5 hr drive.. December 31st we will be heading to Tennessee and it is a 12 1/2 hour drive. I was so excited to go because I have never been that far but all of a sudden today all I can think about is what if something happens while we are so far away from home... What can I do to stop this?
Have you got anybody who can house sit while you're gone? Can I ask how long you'll be gone for?
 

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We will be gone for a week.. It's not the house I am worried about...its more of if anything happens to me or my husband or my son while we are gone or if anything happens to my family while we are away.
 

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We will be gone for a week.. It's not the house I am worried about...its more of if anything happens to me or my husband or my son while we are gone or if anything happens to my family while we are away.
I guess my only advice is to try to accept that you're all adults with sound judgement and anything that might happen is out of your hands and will be responsibly dealt with.
 

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I am trying to do that lol.. My mom pretty much told me the same thing.. when I told her I was having doubts about going she told me to stop being ridiculous.. I have never been one to travel so I guess I will just have to wait and see.
 

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I am trying to do that lol.. My mom pretty much told me the same thing.. when I told her I was having doubts about going she told me to stop being ridiculous.. I have never been one to travel so I guess I will just have to wait and see.
Your Mom is very, very bright. The same words coming from an anxiety sufferer like me can be a bit hypercritical. Talk is cheap and honestly, I'd be in the same spot as you, if not worse. I'd also be agonizing over the logistics of the drive, what to pack and all sorts of other junk. If I could just absorb and act on the advice I give here, I wouldn't be here.
 

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Your Mom is very, very bright. The same words coming from an anxiety sufferer like me can be a bit hypercritical. Talk is cheap and honestly, I'd be in the same spot as you, if not worse. I'd also be agonizing over the logistics of the drive, what to pack and all sorts of other junk. If I could just absorb and act on the advice I give here, I wouldn't be here.
I know exactly what you mean. We leave Monday and I think I have calmed down with worry for now... It could all change on Monday so I will be sure to pack my handy dandy Xanax lol... all I can do is laugh about it to keep myself from being upset about it
 

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It is reasonable to have such concern if you're struggling with anxiety. I get all nervous and paranoid when I go on a trip too, even those lame overnight class trips where peeps just get wasted and party all night while I try to sleep-- whoops, too much details. I'm glad you are feeling better now. If anxiety returns, just reassure yourself that you are not a fortune teller, so bad thoughts does not mean a bad trip. I hope you have a nice time!
 

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It is reasonable to have such concern if you're struggling with anxiety. I get all nervous and paranoid when I go on a trip too, even those lame overnight class trips where peeps just get wasted and party all night while I try to sleep-- whoops, too much details. I'm glad you are feeling better now. If anxiety returns, just reassure yourself that you are not a fortune teller, so bad thoughts does not mean a bad trip. I hope you have a nice time!
We are on the trip now and my anxiety is through the roof. I just want to be at home.
 

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Hopefully you're either home by now on your way. That'll provide some relief.
I made it home lol and it was the best thing ever!!!! It does seem like since the trip a lot more things are triggering my anxiety and my doctor said that was normal but it is driving me crazy.
 

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I made it home lol and it was the best thing ever!!!! It does seem like since the trip a lot more things are triggering my anxiety and my doctor said that was normal but it is driving me crazy.
Hi AMcSwain. You're back in a familiar, predictable place thankfully. Concentrate on that if you can. What types of things are newly triggering your anxiety?
 

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Hey, welcome home @AMcSwain ! When I was younger, I LOVED to travel. I've traveled all over the world, and even lived overseas for several years. My "real me" is adventurous and a little bit crazy, honestly (as in, unwise at times....). I started developing travel anxiety within the past year or so, and it's been the strangest experience. I went on a trip to New Orleans for my anniversary with my husband last July, and we had to pull the car over about an hour out of our hometown (it's about a 7-8 hour drive from where we live). I was hyperventilating, heart racing, ears ringing - I was having full-blown panic, and the only thing I could think about was turning that car around and going back home. My husband had planned this whole special trip, made reservations, etc. - so I walked around outside for a bit in bank parking lot and just tried to breathe, then got back in the car and knocked myself out with Benadryl to survive the first part of the trip. We were gone for 5 days, and the anxiety didn't let up until the very last day (you know, when we were heading home). It was like there was some big rubber band connecting me to my house, and the further I got away from my house, the tighter that thing stretched and the more I felt it. I spent a lot of time in the shower on that trip, trying to get my muscles to let go and my heart to slow down. It was miserable. So I don't really have any advice, just wanted to let you know you're not alone. My next trip was to the beach around Thanksgiving, and it wasn't as severe, but it was like the trauma of that trip in July had me on edge, wondering if it was going to happen again. So I have no idea what triggered this in me, especially since traveling has ALWAYS been part of my life, and something that I truly enjoy. I'd really like to understand it more...
 

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Hi AMcSwain. You're back in a familiar, predictable place thankfully. Concentrate on that if you can. What types of things are newly triggering your anxiety?
It just seems like every day life is triggering it... I don't feel like I am stressed out really so I don't think it is that. I just think it's life right now and I don't know how to help it. I have been on Zoloft for 6 months and it has been great but I do still have days when I feel like I have not been taking anything and I don't know how to make it stop.
 

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Hey, welcome home @AMcSwain ! When I was younger, I LOVED to travel. I've traveled all over the world, and even lived overseas for several years. My "real me" is adventurous and a little bit crazy, honestly (as in, unwise at times....). I started developing travel anxiety within the past year or so, and it's been the strangest experience. I went on a trip to New Orleans for my anniversary with my husband last July, and we had to pull the car over about an hour out of our hometown (it's about a 7-8 hour drive from where we live). I was hyperventilating, heart racing, ears ringing - I was having full-blown panic, and the only thing I could think about was turning that car around and going back home. My husband had planned this whole special trip, made reservations, etc. - so I walked around outside for a bit in bank parking lot and just tried to breathe, then got back in the car and knocked myself out with Benadryl to survive the first part of the trip. We were gone for 5 days, and the anxiety didn't let up until the very last day (you know, when we were heading home). It was like there was some big rubber band connecting me to my house, and the further I got away from my house, the tighter that thing stretched and the more I felt it. I spent a lot of time in the shower on that trip, trying to get my muscles to let go and my heart to slow down. It was miserable. So I don't really have any advice, just wanted to let you know you're not alone. My next trip was to the beach around Thanksgiving, and it wasn't as severe, but it was like the trauma of that trip in July had me on edge, wondering if it was going to happen again. So I have no idea what triggered this in me, especially since traveling has ALWAYS been part of my life, and something that I truly enjoy. I'd really like to understand it more...
I have never been one to travel. I just like to be in a familiar place..so when we went to Tennessee and it was 12 hours from anything that was familiar to me I had a full blow panic attack the first night we were there and it eased up a little throughout the trip but it has been off and on since we have been back home and I don't know why.
 

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I have never been one to travel. I just like to be in a familiar place..so when we went to Tennessee and it was 12 hours from anything that was familiar to me I had a full blow panic attack the first night we were there and it eased up a little throughout the trip but it has been off and on since we have been back home and I don't know why.
That's really tough! It's normal for it to continue for a bit, actually - you had kind of a trauma with all the panic, so your body will take some time to calm down now. Sorry it's been so hard - Just breathe through it, and don't fight it, and it will get lighter as you start to feel safer. Hope you're able to get some rest...
 

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That's really tough! It's normal for it to continue for a bit, actually - you had kind of a trauma with all the panic, so your body will take some time to calm down now. Sorry it's been so hard - Just breathe through it, and don't fight it, and it will get lighter as you start to feel safer. Hope you're able to get some rest...
It's hard to get good rest with work and my sons school and sports but I try as much as I can. lol Thank you
 

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It's hard to get good rest with work and my sons school and sports but I try as much as I can. lol Thank you
Oh, I hear you - Parenting is just EXHAUSTING, isn't it? I have a five year old, and he's not really into sports (yet). But I do work full time. How old is your son?

So...I hope you get time to take at least a nice long hot shower. How's that? :D
 
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Amcawain, i would strongly agree with H&H on this one. It is my experience that tells me your mind will get used to being home in a few days. Makes sense if u think about it. Your mind isnt adjusted to being in its safe place yet...it will :)
 

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Oh, I hear you - Parenting is just EXHAUSTING, isn't it? I have a five year old, and he's not really into sports (yet). But I do work full time. How old is your son?

So...I hope you get time to take at least a nice long hot shower. How's that? :D
My son is 9 and he is into baseball.. he played basketball from age 3 to last season and he decided he wanted to stick with baseball full time... and I tell you it is like a full time job lol
 
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