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Missed out on youth

Rana

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I’m in my 30s now and I’m still suffering with anxiety and depression and I feel like even if I get help now it’s pointless because I’m old. I missed out on all the young carefree times I never had friends or a boyfriend. I feel really sad now that I missed out. There’s nothing for me to look forward to now. I’m lost and I’m scared of aging and I know there’s nothing I could do about it. I miss being a kid which was the last time I was happy. I want to be young again and have the fun. I know there’s nothing I could do about it but I would like advice in ways to get over this and be happy now.
 

triceps

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I’m in my 30s now and I’m still suffering with anxiety and depression and I feel like even if I get help now it’s pointless because I’m old. I missed out on all the young carefree times I never had friends or a boyfriend. I feel really sad now that I missed out. There’s nothing for me to look forward to now. I’m lost and I’m scared of aging and I know there’s nothing I could do about it. I miss being a kid which was the last time I was happy. I want to be young again and have the fun. I know there’s nothing I could do about it but I would like advice in ways to get over this and be happy n ow.
Hi Rana. I started getting anxiety and panic attacks when I was 13 and still am coping with it in my mid-60's. My message to you is that I'm with you in that my only truly happy memories are before I had anxiety, as a young, free-spirited kid. The anxiety makes it difficult to feel very happy but there are extended times when I could at least feel reasonably relaxed and content. Thinking about it, I would have to say that those times where you're in a controlled, lower anxiety state is happiness for an anxiety sufferer. Over the years I've been on numerous medications, some which have really helped for an extended period of time. I've been in group and/or individual therapy most of my life.
My main point is: Even having gone over 50 years with disabling anxiety, would I want to be 30 and do another 50 years? Absolutely. My first 50 years have been well worth the battle.
 
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30 isn’t even old! You have so much time left and can always change your life for the better.
 

Rinka

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The thing with wishing your "youth" back (you are not that old come on!!! ;) ), is that you will miss the here and now. You can't recover what you have lost, you can redo you past. but you can start living now. I had been in a similar situation as you are now. My anxiety and depression was ruling my live, I never had a relationship, was not able to finish my university studies due to depression and have not made social contacts due to my anxiety. It made my live a living hell and i was dwelling too much on what i had lost, what i had never done, whom i had never loved.
At some point i had enough, I needed to change my live, it was suicide or finally taking my live in my hand, because I actually wanted to live, but did not know how. I made a huge step and move into another country (you don't have to change countries, it was just the right thing for me.). Since then my life changed. Im had my first boyfriend and sex with 28 yrs now we are living together and thinking of getting married.

You can start your life at anytime, don't dwell on your past, its gone you can't get it back, but you can take control of your life now and start living now create your own future, try things you though you never could.
 
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