Lonely, sad, lost...

[Zoeb23]

I had a death in the family of a close relative last year July, and now recently my dog passed away. I feel so depressed and empty on the inside. I'm terrified I'll have to go through another loss in a couple months, and how would i deal with that??? I just can't cope, I feel like two pieces of my heart are gone

 

[Marnie]

Im so sorry for all the losses you been dealing with. Its normal to worry about the future, esp. after dealing with so much, but you need to take care of yourself. Think of all the good things/times you had with your family member and remember your dog could have had an
entirely different life except he/she lived with you. Having this site to "talk" to others is a great help too - stay in touch.

 

[Zoeb23]

Thank you
My brain has just had to deal with so much, and I also have bad health anxiety too so I'm constantly worrying something is wrong with me, these deaths have really not helped the matter. I just pray that the rest of 2020 goes smoothly

 

[smilingsoul]

I lost my dog last summer. Its an aching, awful feeling - but your feelings of loss are proportional to the love and companionship your dog brought you, and reflect well on you as a person. Be gentle with yourself in your grief, its entirely reasonable and normal. I also lost my father-in-law, which hit doubly hard since my wife was grieving in addition to my loss of his relationship. Again, its a measure of the value of that relationship, and the closeness and familiarity of the people we've parted with. The pain does ease with time, although it can pop up unexpectedly along the way. When it does, you can again be gentle with yourself in your self-talk about it. Honor your pain, and remember your lost ones.

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

Losing a pet hurts. People love their pets, and with good reason. Feeling sad about losing a pet is normal and can last a long time.

 

[ScaredyKat]

When people or pets you care about pass, its normal to feel saddened and miss them. Every time I miss someone I remember I good moment I had with them; not the bad moments. I was with the family cat at the vet in her last moments. She was, of course, the best cat ever. I felt I owed it to her to be with her. She had been like my little sister, even though she was a cat. None of the rest of the family could go in with her. She took an almightly swipe at the vet and actually drew blood even though I was holding her. I quickly apologised but the vet said it happens all the time and not to worry about it! The family cat had cancer - a bulge on her head. But I don't remember her like that - I remember her spirit and her personality and all the special moments we had together, and now I smile every time I remember she is gone. And since that moment with her, that's what I feel when people I love die. I am sad they are gone, but I am happy to have known them, to remember all those funny and good times (because some of those funny moments were not so good at the time). And I can't be sad any more. Its weird. I've never felt like that in the past - not until the 16 year old family cat died and I was with her at the last.

 

[StressRelief-talk]

So sad to know, you are going through a challenging time. But you have to engage yourself with some positive way to look forward. What is your biggest responsibility at this moment?
Think less about your past and painful memories.