It's getting harder to get out of bed

[Guest]

My last 6 months were quite good, despite my depression. I could go out more and meet new people. Met a wonderful person. But now I have the feeling that its getting worse again. It's getting harder to get out of my bed again. I don't want to loose him but I feel that i loose my strength and fall into my depression again. I have not told him about my condition, because I fear that it might scare him away.


I don't know what to do.

 

[Guest]

I have trouble getting out of bed as well at the moment, especially when I have nothing to look forward to and have a rubbish day ahead. Sometimes sleeping is the highlight of my day.

 

[Guest]

My last 6 months were quite good, despite my depression. I could go out more and meet new people. Met a wonderful person. But now I have the feeling that its getting worse again. It's getting harder to get out of my bed again. I don't want to loose him but I feel that i loose my strength and fall into my depression again. I have not told him about my condition, because I fear that it might scare him away.
I don't know what to do.

I would go back to you doctor and ask for different meds this time. Not that same stuff they gave you before.

 

[AliciaH]

Are you taking any medication for this? I would tell this special person about your issue. If this person cares or is the right one, they will help you through it. If not, it's not worth wasting time.


Try to think of positive things about each day. It should help you get out of bed.

 

[Guest]

I have now changed my doctor and talked with him about my sleeping problem. He prescribed me a new drug, but I feel no different. I hope this changes soon.

 

[justsayyes]

Depression really will try to destroy everything we build for ourselves especially our relationships. Just don't let it win. Talk to your partner about this, be honest with him, that way he'd be more understanding of you and won't give up on you. I hope you're doing better.

 

[Alex]

This can and does happen when you have highs and slumps. Sometimes you need to hit a plateau and stick there for a while and get some balance. It sounds like you need to get back to that balance. From my own experience people kept saying you will get better, and you do, but it takes work. I think trying to put pressure on yourself to get better makes it worse. Take a day at a time, baby steps and slow back down. If you try to rush, you may just slip.


As for telling your new partner, be honest and show them the medication you are on and tell them it may affect you and that you hope they understand. I remember telling me ex and it was a relief, but you will be amazed at how many people know someone that has had depression already, but never talk about it.

 

[GeneKaufman]

While I have never been in a romantic relationship in my life as of yet, I have seen many family and friends and family of friends have mental issues and not speak with their significant other about it. This has at times ended in hurt feelings, arguments, and unfortunately because their partner didn't know about this issue, they just presumed they were just a bad person, and would spread word to others about them, causing a really bad hit to their reputation. I'm not trying to be the killjoy here, just saying that it's REALLY not a good idea to be in that kind of a relationship and not telling your partner about it. It may seem to go well for awhile, but when things to downhill, they go downhill and then some.

 

[mauricioq]

If you feel comfortable with him, you should talk about it. Don't make it too dramatic just tell that you're sometimes down in life and don't know how to deal with it. If you like him, and he likes you, I'm sure he's going to help you.

 

[janemariesayed]

My last 6 months were quite good, despite my depression. I could go out more and meet new people. Met a wonderful person. But now I have the feeling that its getting worse again. It's getting harder to get out of my bed again. I don't want to loose him but I feel that i loose my strength and fall into my depression again. I have not told him about my condition, because I fear that it might scare him away.


I don't know what to do.

You need to force yourself to get out of bed. It takes will power but it is really vital that you don't fall into that scenario. With or without someone close in your life. Try going to bed at a reasonable time at least before midnight and set your alarm to go off no later than eight. When the alarm goes off, force yourself to get up and get dressed. It will make you feel better.

If your boyfriend truly loves you then he would understand, or at least accept it and not hold it against you. If you and he are not meant to be together then the relationship will come to an end at some point anyway. Better sooner rather than later when it would be harder to cope with the split.

You may be pleasantly surprised. In the first few months of a relationship, both parties are quite sensitive to the other partner and take in everything they can about them subconsciously. He may have already noticed some symptoms about you and they obviously don't bother him if he has.

Don't feel worried about putting it to the test. You will probably find him to be really understanding, and if he isn't well, hard though it may be, move on. Find someone who is compatible with you. An understanding partner will support you and help you through it. Whereas a partner who is not prepared to understand you will make the symptoms worse. Good luck.