Im in my 20s & live with my parents because its so hard to afford to live on your own as a young single person here nowadays. I love my parents and please don’t get me wrong I am so grateful to have somewhere to live considering some people I’m sure don’t have that luxury.
But it’s making my anxiety awful. I have been told by numerous mental health professionals that all of my problems are because i live at home (long bad family history/childhood, won’t get into now), and that they can’t do anything for me because I need to move out from my parents.
My father is very racist, homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic, the lot. And he’s a mental conspiracy theorist. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for people to have their opinions even if they are very different to mine, each to their own. But he shoves it down my throat all the time, along with his hatefulness. It’s like I can’t be in the same room as him without a lecture and honestly I don’t want to know about this stuff because it’s all stuff out of my control which obvs triggers anxiety!
I’ve tried telling him ok I respect your opinions and I’m not disagreeing with you but please I do not want to hear about them because it makes my mental health bad. I also always hear him talking and swearing to himself and insulting us when he thinks no one is around.
My mother is an amazing woman. She does almost everything round the house, as well as being a healthcare worker sometimes more than 60 hours a week. My dad does decorating 5 days a week and just comes home, chain smokes and drinks coffee in his shed, watching Donald trump videos and stuff. So mother does all the cooking, cleaning (of what I don’t do/we share chores) she even does home improvements like decorating, she even took a wall down by herself, dug up the front garden and laid a drive! Honestly this woman is insane, I don’t know how someone in their late 50s gets the energy! The only issue is… she’s kind of nuts. A good kind but sometimes she is just too much/too loud for me. But I know that’s my issue of course, she is who she is and that’s not her fault. But the point is I do have issues and I just often find myself wishing for a quiet life on my own, but it is literally impossible in this economy. Mum also has BPD so there are times when she literally flips out and that’s not fun to be around as someone who’s a nervous wreck most of the time.
Tbh no one in my family seems to be able to control their emotions. Everyone gets very angry easily in my house and gets violent. It is a family curse, which I have luckily managed to avoid for myself as an adult.
I just wanted a chat I guess because it’s a tough situation where (as confirmed by multiple MH professionals) my situation is what’s killing me, but then I can’t be ungrateful as I’m not homeless or anything.
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But it’s making my anxiety awful. I have been told by numerous mental health professionals that all of my problems are because i live at home (long bad family history/childhood, won’t get into now), and that they can’t do anything for me because I need to move out from my parents.
My father is very racist, homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic, the lot. And he’s a mental conspiracy theorist. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for people to have their opinions even if they are very different to mine, each to their own. But he shoves it down my throat all the time, along with his hatefulness. It’s like I can’t be in the same room as him without a lecture and honestly I don’t want to know about this stuff because it’s all stuff out of my control which obvs triggers anxiety!
I’ve tried telling him ok I respect your opinions and I’m not disagreeing with you but please I do not want to hear about them because it makes my mental health bad. I also always hear him talking and swearing to himself and insulting us when he thinks no one is around.
My mother is an amazing woman. She does almost everything round the house, as well as being a healthcare worker sometimes more than 60 hours a week. My dad does decorating 5 days a week and just comes home, chain smokes and drinks coffee in his shed, watching Donald trump videos and stuff. So mother does all the cooking, cleaning (of what I don’t do/we share chores) she even does home improvements like decorating, she even took a wall down by herself, dug up the front garden and laid a drive! Honestly this woman is insane, I don’t know how someone in their late 50s gets the energy! The only issue is… she’s kind of nuts. A good kind but sometimes she is just too much/too loud for me. But I know that’s my issue of course, she is who she is and that’s not her fault. But the point is I do have issues and I just often find myself wishing for a quiet life on my own, but it is literally impossible in this economy. Mum also has BPD so there are times when she literally flips out and that’s not fun to be around as someone who’s a nervous wreck most of the time.
Tbh no one in my family seems to be able to control their emotions. Everyone gets very angry easily in my house and gets violent. It is a family curse, which I have luckily managed to avoid for myself as an adult.
I just wanted a chat I guess because it’s a tough situation where (as confirmed by multiple MH professionals) my situation is what’s killing me, but then I can’t be ungrateful as I’m not homeless or anything.
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But company is good to have. If it is the right sort of company. You dad and his views would probably drive most people crazy. Though I do know a few who would hold the same views. If it is shoved in your face all of the time you will simply get fed up with it. Fed up hearing it.