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I don’t think it’s going to ever get better...

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I don’t feel like this anxiety will get any better... I really don’t. I don’t feel that at any point in my life that things will calm down in me. It is almost constant. I work full time. I’m in therapy. I do breathing techniques. I let myself cry if I feel bad enough. I try to be a good person. I walk with God. I’m doing everything I’m supposed to do yet I feel horrible constantly...

When does it end?
 

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What medication do you take, if any?
I do not take medication. I tried Zoloft before. Didn’t work for me. Valium worked. But I don’t take it anymore cause I don’t believe in being on benzos all the time. Not worth the addiction.
 

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I have been with my anxiety for 30 years now. I think we learn to exist with it. Not that it will ever vanish. All about trying to manage it. Which is not easy. And never the answer people want to hear. Once I accepted that I found I could have good long periods of time without any anxiety. I simply stopped thinking it would just go away. Looked for other answers. How could I exist alongside my anxiety.
 

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I do not take medication. I tried Zoloft before. Didn’t work for me. Valium worked. But I don’t take it anymore cause I don’t believe in being on benzos all the time. Not worth the addiction.
I understand, however, until I got on klonopin, I was stuck in my home for 10 years. It has been worth it for me to have a life. I do have an addiction, but not where I ever take more than I’m supposed to, simply because being on them long term does cause dependence on them. It’s really a question of if it’s worth it to you.You walk with the Lord, so you will appreciate this:
“I have filled him with the Spirit of God, giving him great wisdom, ability, and expertise in all kinds of crafts.”
Exodus 31:3
 

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I have been with my anxiety for 30 years now. I think we learn to exist with it. Not that it will ever vanish. All about trying to manage it. Which is not easy. And never the answer people want to hear. Once I accepted that I found I could have good long periods of time without any anxiety. I simply stopped thinking it would just go away. Looked for other answers. How could I exist alongside my anxiety.
I know my anxiety will never go away. I just want to have more good than bad days. That’s all. I don’t ever expect to feel normal. Or even generally good. I just want to have a little more decent ones than bad ones. I don’t feel like that is asking for much, but apparently it is
 

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I do not take medication. I tried Zoloft before. Didn’t work for me. Valium worked. But I don’t take it anymore cause I don’t believe in being on benzos all the time. Not worth the addiction.
Valium is the only thing that worked for me but only take if i feel like im going to have anxiety attack. I tried other anti depressants but the side effects made my anxiety worse. Valium is safe if you do not take all the time. My doctor prescribed 10 mg i quarter the pill and that works for me. I still have shortness of breath when try to do normal things like walking the dogs but i did read that it can take from weeks to months to regain your energy. Due to the fact that anxiety is extremely hard on your body. Another thing my doctor did was give me all the tests i needed to eliminate other health issues which did give me peace of mind.
 

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Hi!
My anxiety has been pretty bad recently. It was triggered by the coronavirus pandemic which put me in a constant fear of infection and death of a loved one and I hardly ate for about 10 days. I sort of handled it with Xanax which allowed me to at least sleep during the night. Also my panic became more intermittent, not so constant. Then yesterday I was playing with my dog and noticed a small lump in his mouth. Being a vet, I immediately assumed the worst and have been back in panic mode ever since. I am so tired, mentally and physically... like I have zero control over myself and nobody understands. I have been to a psychiatrist who didn’t think it was a big issue, I’ve been to some other therapies but nothing works. It’s like a spell that’s all over me and I don’t see a way out of this.I don’t want to depend on Xanax forever, so if anyone has any idea or experience that worked for them, please tell me...
 

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Hi!
My anxiety has been pretty bad recently. It was triggered by the coronavirus pandemic which put me in a constant fear of infection and death of a loved one and I hardly ate for about 10 days. I sort of handled it with Xanax which allowed me to at least sleep during the night. Also my panic became more intermittent, not so constant. Then yesterday I was playing with my dog and noticed a small lump in his mouth. Being a vet, I immediately assumed the worst and have been back in panic mode ever since. I am so tired, mentally and physically... like I have zero control over myself and nobody understands. I have been to a psychiatrist who didn’t think it was a big issue, I’ve been to some other therapies but nothing works. It’s like a spell that’s all over me and I don’t see a way out of this.I don’t want to depend on Xanax forever, so if anyone has any idea or experience that worked for them, please tell me...
What, specifically are you worried about? The same things? The dog?
As far as the virus. It’s not something anyone can really tell you, except you have to go by the real numbers. You have to remember that PLENTY of people have, or have had this, without even knowing it, or just thinking they have a cold. They’re perfectly fine. Keep your hands washed, don’t touch your face, and wear a mask around the house if you’re worried about infecting someone there.
I’m not sure about the dog, but there’s no sense in worrying about something until there’s a reason to.
 

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Thanks for the reply! I’m worried about catching the virus and spreading it to my parents. I’m worried about losing my job due to this crisis. And about my dog possibly having a tumor in his mouth. I know it sounds silly and it is unreasonable. But even though I am aware of it being unreasonable, I am somehow unable to adapt my behaviour or at least divert my attention to something else... to other people, it looks as if I am not even trying, but honestly, nothing has worked so far
 

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What, specifically are you worried about? The same things? The dog?
As far as the virus. It’s not something anyone can really tell you, except you have to go by the real numbers. You have to remember that PLENTY of people have, or have had this, without even knowing it, or just thinking they have a cold. They’re perfectly fine. Keep your hands washed, don’t touch your face, and wear a mask around the house if you’re worried about infecting someone there.
I’m not sure about the dog, but there’s no sense in worrying about something until there’s a reason to.
Do you live alone? I do, only have my 2 dogs and unfortunately that gives me more time to think the worst which made my anxiety high. I also tried therapy all they seemed to do for me was give me stuff to read on how to cope with anxiety and panic attacks. NO HELP. I have a very close friend who i know has been extremely careful during this virus she comes to see me 2 or three times a week for about 3-4 hrs each time and all we do is talk about anything and everything. We take the dogs for walks. For me she has been my life saver. Do you have someone other than a therapist that you can talk with?

I understand your worries about your dog as my two dogs are like my kids.

As far as for the virus not much we can do except be very careful. I do not let anyone in my house except my friend that comes to see me and we never touch each other but our talks has helped me cope with the anxiety.
 

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Hi.
I feel the same as you do.
After a period of normalilty I have been anxious since a month or so with physical symptoms getting worse each day. It's just not the anxiety but also the physical pains that are killing me right now. And no escape
 

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Hi.
I feel the same as you do.
After a period of normalilty I have been anxious since a month or so with physical symptoms getting worse each day. It's just not the anxiety but also the physical pains that are killing me right now. And no escape
Thats exactly how i felt from end of December until mid March. Went to ER 4 times thinking i was going to die. My physical symptoms were racing heart and palpitations, BP raised and short of breath. And every time I got there all my symptoms vanished and I realized it was because while there I felt safe. Therapy does not work for me as I was unable to find a good therapist. When i asked doctor for Valium he gave to me that has helped me when I feel anxious and prevents full blown anxiety attack. It really calms me down but only take if I need to. And i do not take the full amount doctor prescribed and I told him that. Yesterday I did not need to take it and so far not today. I am slowly getting better and so will you. Try to think about things you have to be thankful for and if u can talk to a close friend or relative.
Thats exactly how i felt from end of December until mid March. Went to ER 4 times thinking i was going to die. My physical symptoms were racing heart and palpitations, BP raised and short of breath. And every time I got there all my symptoms vanished and I realized it was because while there I felt safe. Therapy does not work for me as I was unable to find a good therapist. When i asked doctor for Valium he gave to me that has helped me when I feel anxious and prevents full blown anxiety attack. It really calms me down but only take if I need to. And i do not take the full amount doctor prescribed and I told him that. Yesterday I did not need to take it and so far not today. I am slowly getting better and so will you. Try to think about things you have to be thankful for and if u can talk to a close friend or relative.
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Two other things i did was to stop drinking anything with caffeine in it including chocolate and i no longer use any alcohol and I did love having a glass of wine every evening.
 
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I Started Having Heart Palpations Sure is scary.
Calming down and keeping busy helps its starting to work for me
 

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I Started Having Heart Palpations Sure is scary.
Calming down and keeping busy helps its starting to work for me
the good thing is that, your body can only sustain a high level of anxiety for a certain time. It has no choice but to calm down at some point
 

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the good thing is that, your body can only sustain a high level of anxiety for a certain time. It has no choice but to calm down at some point
to some extent you are correct but I had an anxiety attack that lasted over 24 hours ended up in ER could not handle any longer
 

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My friend you have to build your mind up and make yourself mentally strong.
Practice what You're afraid of.
Step outside the box daily.
If you fear something beat the snot out of it.
 

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My friend you have to build your mind up and make yourself mentally strong.
Practice what You're afraid of.
Step outside the box daily.
If you fear something beat the snot out of it.
I'm improving each day. You know sometimes a person has no idea what causes their panic or anxiety attacks. They come out of the blue for no reason. Do you have any idea what it is like to lose 2 husbands and also your best friend? in 4 months I lost my best friend and also my husband. Kind of hard to beat the snot out of that it is all a matter of coping with my loses which I have been doing day by day.
 

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I'm improving each day. You know sometimes a person has no idea what causes their panic or anxiety attacks. They come out of the blue for no reason. Do you have any idea what it is like to lose 2 husbands and also your best friend? in 4 months I lost my best friend and also my husband. Kind of hard to beat the snot out of that it is all a matter of coping with my loses which I have been doing day by day.
Sorry to hear that but I've dealt with loss.
Growing up in street Violence and a abusive home the pain you can't escape.
Best way out is mental strength in my case.
 

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I'm improving each day. You know sometimes a person has no idea what causes their panic or anxiety attacks. They come out of the blue for no reason. Do you have any idea what it is like to lose 2 husbands and also your best friend? in 4 months I lost my best friend and also my husband. Kind of hard to beat the snot out of that it is all a matter of coping with my loses which I have been doing day by day.
I am sorry for your Loss I have heart Palpitations myself trying to cope with any kind of stress keep yourself busy exercise walk if you have any hobbies I sing on smule that helps.your heart has to calm down.
I am glad you are improving .I just joined on here there are lot of people that are going what we are going through
Take care my friend
 
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