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Julieann90

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Good evening everyone,

as I am writing this I am tryi by to stay calm but I can see My fingertips are working very fast to get this out.
I have suffered many years with health anxiety.
a constant fear I have cancer. Last week I had dentist and asked her if she thought I had oral cancer which she said no, a couple of days later I had a sore come up right at the back of my tongue it’s now been there 5 days. Yesterday I had a trip to the doctor’s regarding a lump on my neck which she is sending me off for an ultrasound. I showed her my tongue and she said it looked a bit swollen but nothing to worry about. I was fine and now I’m absolutely terrified I have cancer of the tongue. It’s really getting me down. I spoke to a dentist who have booked me in to be seen tomorrow, which makes me even more anxious as it sounds like they are worried too!It doesn’t look like an ulcer it’s just sore and red. Please anyone else been through this and it’s been ok. I don’t know who else to talk to anymore. I feel like I am getting on everyone’s nerves, I’m constantly googling! I feel like I need to be sectioned or something and really hoping I haven’t got cancer☹☹☹☹
 

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Let me add more to it instead of just that simple sentence.
I had a lump on my neck, same area a year ago. I didn’t even notice it; my MIL did.
But now knowing what I know when I see photos of myself it’s VERY obvious it’s there. And it was large; almost the size of a small pin ball. 3.8 cm to be exact. This triggered and started my HA.
Last year (2019) , was a very dark year for me. Going through the whole thing, ultrasound, biopsy, all that. Everything was benign.
what i’m getting at is even the most bad lookikg things, are always benign in the end.
Don’t worry, it’s going to be ok!!!!!
 

Julieann90

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Thankyou for your reply. I don’t think I am really concerned over the lump as such as it’s still so tiny and can only be felt not seen. I think I’m worried about this weird thing on my tongue, have had the worst nights sleep in a very long time. Up all night worrying about it, feeling sick. Tossing and turning, dreaming about it. Just praying it’s not going to be bad news. X
 

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Thankyou for your reply. I don’t think I am really concerned over the lump as such as it’s still so tiny and can only be felt not seen. I think I’m worried about this weird thing on my tongue, have had the worst nights sleep in a very long time. Up all night worrying about it, feeling sick. Tossing and turning, dreaming about it. Just praying it’s not going to be bad news. X
How big is the sore? Is it still there? Has it changed in size at all
 

Julieann90

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I don’t think it is very big, it’s red. It’s still there. I don’t think so. It’s painful, well when I wake up in the morning I barely notice it and then as the day goes on it gets worse. Last night one half of my tongue was like tingling burning and I had a weird bitter/ metal taste.
 

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Julie, at age 30 it’s incredibly unlikely to be anything bad. People who end up with problems are typically long time smokers, and over 50. Docs just doing their due diligence here. It will be OK.
 

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Good morning, would just like to update you all that have been kind enough to respond to me. I visited the dentist yesterday who confirmed everything inside my mouth looks normal and there is no concern. But my tonsils look swollen and could be a mild case of tonsillitis. I have had the neck lump for about 8 weeks, don’t think it has grown so unsure as to why it is there, I am having some mild pain around that area but also the other side of my neck which feels normal and no lumps. Hoping that nothing comes back from the ultrasound when I finally get my appointment through. Julieann x
 

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Good morning, would just like to update you all that have been kind enough to respond to me. I visited the dentist yesterday who confirmed everything inside my mouth looks normal and there is no concern. But my tonsils look swollen and could be a mild case of tonsillitis. I have had the neck lump for about 8 weeks, don’t think it has grown so unsure as to why it is there, I am having some mild pain around that area but also the other side of my neck which feels normal and no lumps. Hoping that nothing comes back from the ultrasound when I finally get my appointment through. Julieann x
Thank you for the kind update. I LOVE when people update on and it’s nothing but great news. I feel like I can breathe with you guys.
Your worries are my worries. I know what you’re feeling.
Praying for nothing but more good news for you.
God is good.
 

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Thankyou for replying. I’m here to listen too. Aswell as rant off about my worries and fears. Will update again when I can x
 

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Hi there, mouth/tongue sore tend to stay for quite a long time, I think 5 days is a short period of time to decide if it's persistent or not :)
And dentist said you are fine, so <3

About the lump, my experiences with sore/painful lumps says (from what the experienced surgeons/drs I visited said) that if it's painful, moving under your fingers, smooth surface and fine shape = no nasty issues going on.
If it doesn't give pain, if it's very hard and feels weird to touch (like having sharp edges, not smooth surface), and grows rapidly = should be investigated further. All drs said the same thing to me whenever I have a bump going on.
Lumps bumps are mostly benign I assure you, especially when they are sore. May be just an irritated gland, I used to get them a lot on side of my neck.
Hope you feel better soon.
 

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Hello, thankyou for that reassuring message. My lump to begin with wasn’t painful, then after about 5 weeks I suffered neck pain for 2 weeks then cleared up(muscular maybe) but now I just keep getting sharp dull aches and pains in the surrounding area of the lump. Also while I’m on the subject my 4 year old also has a small lump on his neck, I noticed a while back, can’t see it if his head is facing forward but if he turns funny or laughs sometimes I can see it pop up. I spoke to GP on phone few weeks before Xmas who didn’t seem concerned. If I touch his, he just says I’m tickling him so I’m guessing no pain, should I be worried and get it checked face to face? Xx
 
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