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how do the other guys do it?

dmacdizzles

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I am a 25 year old virgin, lots of anxiety issues and everything. I asked a coworker to coffee, it was ok, but I didnt think she was into it so I left it at that. But when shes at work two of my male coworkers seem to be flirting with her all the time, and she loves it. They tease her, playfully touch her, and she does the same back. I cannot imagine ever doing this. WHat is wrong with me? I wish there was a drug i could take to fix myself. I am afraid of her. And beginning to resent them.
 

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I am a 25 year old virgin, lots of anxiety issues and everything. I asked a coworker to coffee, it was ok, but I didnt think she was into it so I left it at that. But when shes at work two of my male coworkers seem to be flirting with her all the time, and she loves it. They tease her, playfully touch her, and she does the same back. I cannot imagine ever doing this. WHat is wrong with me? I wish there was a drug i could take to fix myself. I am afraid of her. And beginning to resent them.
Hi dmacdizzles and welcome. What's wrong with you is that you think somethings' wrong with you. Having anxiety sure doesn't help our self-esteem and your self-esteem doesn't allow you to be confident with yourself. So you become shy with women and resent those yahoos who aren't shy. They aren't any better than you and you were able to ask that co-worker to coffee, that's pretty dang good. You've got the rest of your life to not be a virgin. If you can concentrate on being a good person, live by the golden rule, and don't use hairgel, I promise that women will take notice of you. The other men have shown a great ability to make shy guys like you and me look pretty good. So hang in there, instead of being discouraged, look forward to improving yourself and you'll be noticed.
 

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This one is a lack of confidence walk taller hold yourself higher not really anxiety this is something thats usually dealt with in highschool talking to girls etc redo your wardrobe get some chains workout theres lots of things you can do to boost your confidence start with talking to girls your not attracted to this will boost your confidence and kinda show you were you stand
 

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and a little tip opening with dates are so early 2000s it may seem bad but theres so many resources to find better more confident men on the internet (tinder pof etc) but i can honestly say being confident even a little bit of idc attitude will get you a chick
 

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I am a 25 year old virgin, lots of anxiety issues and everything. I asked a coworker to coffee, it was ok, but I didnt think she was into it so I left it at that. But when shes at work two of my male coworkers seem to be flirting with her all the time, and she loves it. They tease her, playfully touch her, and she does the same back. I cannot imagine ever doing this. WHat is wrong with me? I wish there was a drug i could take to fix myself. I am afraid of her. And beginning to resent them.
just gonna say if this girl you like is flirting and loving the touchy feely of your other co workers...DITCH THAT ONE! shes probobly not a very "good girl" anyway ..shes one that thrives on attention. no no no....please, you are better than that. your considerate of her feelings, enough to shy away. which is probobly the best thing you could do...she doesnt sound like a girl that you would wanna be with. theres alot of fish in the sea...GO SWIMMING!!! #YOUR UNIQUE AND SPECIAL AND YOUR FIND THAT PERSON THATS RIGHT FOR YOU :)
 
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