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Hi I’m 35 and suffer from anxiety. It’s been going on for a long time but diagnosed from professions probably when I was 30 could be before.
 

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Welcome to the forum. I’ve had A & D for as long as I can remember with symptoms exacerbating greatly in my early 20’s. I’m 64 and in recovery. It’s not a quick trip to the goal, but I’ve found it to be enlightening beyond my expectations.
 

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Welcome to the forum. I’ve had A & D for as long as I can remember with symptoms exacerbating greatly in my early 20’s. I’m 64 and in recovery. It’s not a quick trip to the goal, but I’ve found it to be enlightening beyond my expectations.
So you guys s study and research about anxiety,?
Can you advise some YouTube channels you like on the subject?
 

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I can’t speak for anyone but Dr Claire Weekes. Now deceased, she developed the acceptance method for anxiety. She has some video on YouTube and has written many books on the subject. They are still available on line at low prices. I like having her book on hand for quick reference when needed. I also found anxietycentre.com, a website devoted to anxiety education. They also have available counselors who have been through anxiety themselves. Between these two resources, that’s how I entered into true recovery.
 

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I can’t speak for anyone but Dr Claire Weekes. Now deceased, she developed the acceptance method for anxiety. She has some video on YouTube and has written many books on the subject. They are still available on line at low prices. I like having her book on hand for quick reference when needed. I also found anxietycentre.com, a website devoted to anxiety education. They also have available counselors who have been through anxiety themselves. Between these two resources, that’s how I entered into true recovery.
Claire Weekes it is. Sounds interesting.
 

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I remember Claire Weekes when she first began to put her books on the market back in the 1970's. When she began to broadcast on ITV there was such a response from sufferers they had to provide a special studio for her. So many had felt isolated and alone, and to find a doctor who understood was a godsend. She originated in Australia, but did her medical degree in the UK. At the time she met with so much resistance from psychiatrists and the like because her methods were 'too simple'.
It may sound simple, but how many have tried and given up because there are no immediate results? One of her key points is 'let time pass'. Allow as much time as it takes. There is no rushing in anxiety. Slow progress is much more sustainable than getting better quickly, only to find we have setbacks. Continually looking for improvement is not good either. We need to stop testing ourselves daily to see if we have made progress. Progress can be very subtle and almost imperceptible. Hope is always present, although at times it does not seem so. In fact the real answer is do nothing! Sounds ridiculous, but it's true. By accepting and not fighting we do the very best we can.
By taking no action and accepting, we are taking the best action possible.
 

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I remember Claire Weekes when she first began to put her books on the market back in the 1970's. When she began to broadcast on ITV there was such a response from sufferers they had to provide a special studio for her. So many had felt isolated and alone, and to find a doctor who understood was a godsend. She originated in Australia, but did her medical degree in the UK. At the time she met with so much resistance from psychiatrists and the like because her methods were 'too simple'.
It may sound simple, but how many have tried and given up because there are no immediate results? One of her key points is 'let time pass'. Allow as much time as it takes. There is no rushing in anxiety. Slow progress is much more sustainable than getting better quickly, only to find we have setbacks. Continually looking for improvement is not good either. We need to stop testing ourselves daily to see if we have made progress. Progress can be very subtle and almost imperceptible. Hope is always present, although at times it does not seem so. In fact the real answer is do nothing! Sounds ridiculous, but it's true. By accepting and not fighting we do the very best we can.
By taking no action and accepting, we are taking the best action possible.
I can vouch for your advice. It’s been a little over a year now since I started practicing acceptance. It’s not easy but by staying persistent, I have come a long way. Everything you said is very important for folks to remember if they embark on this journey. But it is so worth the effort. I know I still have work ahead of me but I’m so much improved at this point. As a matter of fact, I can’t quit at this point, I have nowhere to go but forward. To quit means sliding back into all the old habitual thinking and misery I was in. No thank you! I’ve reached a point where I am back in reality, where the intrusive thoughts, the fearful feelings can’t drag me away from what is real. I am quite aware now of what fear has done to me, how it causes me to react. To really think about this past year, I realize fully how bad off I truly was, a year is but a drop in the bucket compared to how long I suffered. And even though I’m not where I discern I need to be, I know I’m going to get there now. I just want to let folks know that recovery is a process in which time is our friend. It took time to get in this condition, it will take time to recover, all the time it takes. And along the way we will learn a great deal about ourselves that we never realized before. It’s all a learning experience, learning patience, persistence, all the things we never had before. Thanks Jonathan, for having my back, for all the wise words and sharing your knowledge with us.
 

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Buddhist meditation teachers advise the same
Yes. I have always been drawn to Buddhism because of it's wise words. I am very eclectic in my religious views and have found that all religions have something to offer. Wise words are just that from wherever they come. The idea of 'action in no action' is a very Eastern concept and is difficult for the Western mind to take in. We feel we must do something, always busy. Rushing here and there looking for ways out, when all that is necessary is to accept it all, does not come easily. A Buddhist story, many of which have such profound meanings, relates to a pupil and his master in conversation.

Pupil. "I have done it Master, I can walk on water"
Master. "Well done my son., and how long did it take for you to learn that".
Pupil. "Twenty years, Master".
Mater. "What a waste of time when for two pennies you could have crossed on the ferry".

Moral. Don't get too caught up with concepts and ideas. Don't spend time on wondering how, but think about why. Not how can I do it but why would I want to.
 

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Welcome to the forum! I have only recently joined myself and am settling in. I hope you have enjoyed being here xx
 
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Thank you for your advice! I am currently suffering very bad with anxiety. Mostly my heart rate. I can't seem to keep it down. Always fluttering and racing. Always thinking I'm dying or something is wrong with my heart! Feeling like I'm not in control ever! I can barely even go to work now. I am going to look her book up and watch some videos it sounds interesting . Thank you
 
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