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HELL NO (Warning: Intimate Parts Mentioned)

haeshin9

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It's bad enough I need physical therapy and deal with strangers (not at all offensive) touching me, that there are multiple consults to be done before a root canal, therefore dragging out the whole root canal experience, but on top of that...a pelvic exam?

NO. NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO.

They can phrase it however they want, but a pelvic exam is basically having a stranger put their fingers up between your legs and feeling around in there. Chances are they'll do the same to your butt hole too. (Don't believe me? Look it up!) You can ask for an ultrasound, but one type is where they stick an object up between your legs and feel around in there. NO. NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. It's going to be abdominal ultrasound or nothing, people, because all the rest of that stuff is NOT happening!

I'm close to saying that I don't care if my life is on the line. I'm already terrified of social interaction and strangers as it is, but to have one feeling around my insides by going up between my legs? That's going to traumatize me for the rest of my life. 100% guarantee. I'll never call any kind of doctor again. I want to cry just thinking about it. A good part of me wants to skip the physical therapy altogether because of the thought of a pelvic exam. Right now I'm having horrible back pains and loss of appetite during my period, but if I have to do a pelvic exam...NO. I just can't do it. I won't do it. I'd rather suffer the physical pain that lasts a few days every month than everyday mental/physical trauma. NO. Hell NO.

Oh, lovely. Mom just left after trying to pressure me into having one. Now she's blabbing it all to my sister, saying 'what's the point of seeing a doctor then?' in a disapproving voice. I managed to hold my ground, but it feels like it'll be way harder to do that with a stranger and a doctor no less. Thanks to mom I already feel like a know-nothing, self destructive little brat even though I'm thirty years old, so how will I be after going through the same thing with a doctor? I don't think I can look at anyone in the face anymore and I'm willing to pass by food if it means I don't have to sit down with the family and possibly discuss the whole thing with them (Dad included). I just want to quit everything. The tears aren't out but I'm definitely watery in the eyes and nose right now. Congratulations Mom, you just did in a few minutes what horrid back pains couldn't do all year.
 
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Ashleyspicer84

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Maybe you could find an Obgyn that you could go in and just voice your concerns too. Just let her know your fears. They are only there to help. They realize how uncomfortable the exams are for us and they do everything they can to make you feel as calm and respected as possible. As some one who caught cancer cells very early because of a regular pap smear I highly recommend at least going and talking it out with your doctor.
 

Ectopickev

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Maybe you could find an Obgyn that you could go in and just voice your concerns too. Just let her know your fears. They are only there to help. They realize how uncomfortable the exams are for us and they do everything they can to make you feel as calm and respected as possible. As some one who caught cancer cells very early because of a regular pap smear I highly recommend at least going and talking it out with your doctor.
Could something like this be done under general anaesthetic? Just a thought.
 

cheer_mom

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I'm sure they could give you something for nervousness so you could relax. Find an OBGYN that makes you comfortable and talk to her first. Once you are comfortable and she has answered your questions you will be more at ease for the pelvic exam.
 

matisworried

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if it helps, remember that this is what these doctors do all day long. they might as well be looking at your elbow. while obviously, incredibly personal to you, this is another day at the office for your doc and everything about your exam will be forgotten twenty seconds after they walk out of your room on their way to do the exact same exam on someone else.

as a male, i obviously don't know exactly how it feels emotionally to have that exam done, but men have two separate exams that are very, eh, "personal." it's not fun, it's definitely embarrassing but if i had the choice between catching disease early or finding out after it's too late because i was embarrassed or anxious, I'd rather deal with the momentary embarrassment.

if the doctor is male, would seeing a female make it better? if your doc is female, do you have trusting relationship with her? would it be beneficial to contact their office ahead of time and explain your concerns and anxiety over the procedure?
 
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