Thank I am already getting CBT via zoom is it worth mentioning to her as I believe the gambling is treated with CBT?Online gambling? You are in the UK, right?
The practical - Request a block on gambling transactions on your debit cards with the bank. Sign up to Gamstop, it will stop any new accounts being opened with your name and address for a set period of time, and install Gamban on the devices to book the sites and apps. Might be worth seeing if you block the accounts your wife has as well if it's a problem - and she is okay with that, obviously.
I would also make an appointment with your GP as well. As you said, it's an addiction in the same way as alcoholism and they will be able to refer you for support.
This is a god example of an addiction. I know you won't mind me saying so because you have admitted it yourself, which is such a good sign. So many people with addictions will not admit it. often from a feeling of shame. The alcoholic who says, 'of coarse, I can stop any time I want to'. Can they? The same applies to gambling or any other addiction. There is always the chance of wining. 'I am on a wining streak'. There is no such thing. You are being manipulated by some of the best psychologists going. Getting money out of people is an art, and they have mastered it for sure. The only ones laughing are the directors and shareholders of the gambling companies.I kept telling myself past few weeks I can play casually not addictive but I stayed up to 4am. Until now not put a block on my wife’s accounts but perhaps need to close these too. I keep some open in hope I will go back to football betting. I totally lost interest in football betting as you win much less and smaller stakes sometimes. I do feel anxious when I go out. I suffered anxiety for years before it so no idea of if it’s the slot machines but perhaps it’s making it worse? I work about £100 in two days felt that’s good but within one night I lost £140. I feel those losses are not worth it. I mean I don’t earn much money work part time so like idea of extra cash but sadly any time I win I just want to play. Almost every time I lose the winnings despite trying other sites. I know how these addictions are up there with Alcohol. I once went about six weeks without gambling felt much better for it. Always takes big loses for me to quit how I handle the withdrawal process better as I keep wanting to go back on?
I use to go to bingo but not for 10+ years. Also football betting I was betting very low stakes under £1 so no big issue. I went off all gambling when playing slot machines as it was easy to win. Big wins big losses but now I am off these sites last night I couldn’t even think of playing as every site closed. My focus is paying back the money I lost but that will take a month or so at work. Being honest I started last year I would always come out on top then any wins were smaller £100 most and they could in take it back so I never came out on top. Over the month since 2022 I never made any money atall. So yes it’s correct they let you win at first then stop. I believe it was fuelling my anxiety I felt good if i won but but when I lost I got depressed stressed anxious so it was best to stop. I can update in a few months and hopefully I have stayed off this site rather than went back like before.Still mention it to your therapist. It is important to do so. Many other forms of gambling out there. If you get help now, you might be able to avoid getting sucked in again.