Feeling pathetic and useless

[samstersrocker_92]

Hi everyone. I'm 26 years old and I think I've had anxiety or some form of it since I was a child. It's gotten worse as I aged. I fear talking to or being around people. I also have a stutter and sweaty hands. They both get worse whenever I'm near people. I also get a gassy feeling and my stomach starts to make sounds. It's really embarrassing. I haven't finished college because of it and I'm currently not working. I feel I need a job where I dont have to talk on the phone (cuz my stutter activates horribly) and where I dont deal with the public. Since that's hard to come by and with just a high school degree I haven't been working for 2 months now. I'm always in bed and dont like going out even with family. I feel my husband deserves someone better than me. Im just tired of dealing with this and feeling this. Nobody knows about my issues except my husband and I dont know what to do.

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[Cuchculan]

For what it is worth I always used to trip over my own words. Take me ages to say what I wanted to say. For so long it wasn't nice at all. On the phone I was brutal. But then I began to tell myself there is no rush at all. I saw that as my main issue. I wanted to get the words out as quickly as possible. So I began to slow myself down. So what if I made people wait. This was me taken charge of the situation. Yes I might still stutter from time to time. But overall it worked. The slower I went the more clearer my speaking became. At times I even took a step backwards. To compose myself. I told myself it was not a race to get the words out. It did work. As for the phone? I told myself I didn't even have to look at the person on the other end of the line. Used to joke about it. I could be sitting naked for all they knew. Again I slowed myself down. That helped big time. It takes a practice. It can be done.

As for the stomach sounds? My stomach used to sound like WWII was happening inside of it. Maybe try an ant-acid or something like that. Sounds more peptic than anything else. If it was gassy you would be farting away. Hope you can find an answer.

 

[Whynot_678]

Hello, I’m not diagnosed with social anxiety but I have a lot of the symptoms. Every time I go out to public I always believe people are simply judging me by only looking at me. When I walk into a gas station to buy a snack for the road I feel like people call me fat or disgusting. I fear a lot of ideas rather solid or things that can actually chase you. I have thanatophobia; the fear of death. And, the fear of being rejected. My love life is very great because we both care and love each other but I feel like they are cheating on me or blabbing to they’re friends about how pathetic and gullible I am. I never talk about this to anyone. Heck my arm is shaking while I’m typing. I’m so glad I found this so I can talk about this to someone who is going through the same thing. I feel like I can never tell my parents because the last time I said I thought I have social anxiety they said that everyone goes through it or its just a phase. And I felt hurt and untrusted, now I feel like I can’t talk to them about anything. They say I can talk to them about every little problem but I don’t because of that.

 

[samstersrocker_92]

It's bittersweet to hear I'm not alone cuz I wouldn't wish this on anybody. I also haven't been diagnosed but I just know something is wrong with me because I can't function like a normal adult. I mean I could fake it like I always have but it takes a toll on me. For example, I may come off as personable in person but then I'll stutter or have a panic attack feeling and we'll laugh it off (whoever I'm with) but then I'll go home wanting to disappear from life. It used to be cute and I could get away with my shy personality when I was younger but I'm getting older and it's just embarrassing. I have a strained relationship with my dad so good riddance to him and my mom is a good mom but we're not emotionally super close so I never told her especially cuz I come off as a "tough girl" in my family. My husband and I love and care for each other as well. He knows about my problems and tries to make me feel better (bless his heart) but hes doesn't know anything about it. I also have irrational thoughts and jealousy/anger issues and I just feel horrible about it. How do u function in life?? Do u work? I feel hopeless

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