• Welcome to the Anxiety Community Forum, a friendly space for discussion, help and support with mental health issues. Please register to post and use the extra features available to members. Click here to register.Everyone is welcome!

Feeling Inadequate

sellis

New Member
Joined
Sep 17, 2020
Messages
3
Reaction score
0
I am reaching out in hopes that someone will offer some words of wisdom. I struggle with health anxiety and it’s gotten worse over the past few months. I am recently married and feel like my HA is taking over my mental wellness. I want to feel like a free spirited and strong wife but I often feel racked with anxiety and dread. How can I feel like and adequate wife while still dealing with eternal worry? My anxiety has taken a huge toll on my confidence. I feel like I can’t escape from it and every day I worry about something new. What are some ways I can ease my mind in the middle of an episode? How can I communicate to my husband that I just need him to listen to me and I don’t expect him to fix it or find a solution? Thank you for all the help.
 

suzzeeb

Member
Joined
Sep 5, 2020
Messages
62
Reaction score
14
I wish I had a good answer. I've been married for 35 years and the last several have been the worst with my anxiety. I know my husband gets frustrated, and I think men just want to fix everything and feel helpless when they can't, and that leads to frustration. I always tell him I don't need him to do anything but listen and let me vent, but I can tell he gets tired of it all. I'm tired of it all too. I know we all just want to feel like we can have a normal life. I guess the only thing we can do is the best we can do. On good days I enjoy every second of feeling normal, and on bad days I have to accept that's how it is. I pray a lot and do all of the things they say to do like relaxation techniques, exercise when I can, but I know it's not going away at this point. I use anti-anxiety medication sometimes to help with sleep, since that is a huge issue for me, and I see a counselor to get things in perspective, which does help sometimes.

I wish I could help you more, and everyone else on this forum. It's not an easy thing to deal with. I hope you have better days ahead.
 

sellis

New Member
Joined
Sep 17, 2020
Messages
3
Reaction score
0
Thank you so so much for your encouraging thoughts. It’s helpful just to know that I’m not alone in my feelings. I think you’re right about men wanting to find a solution and wanting to fix things. I need to remember to tell my husband that even his presence can be helpful at times and that there is no easy fix. I am sending you lots of well wishes and hope you find rest.
 

suzzeeb

Member
Joined
Sep 5, 2020
Messages
62
Reaction score
14
Thank you so so much for your encouraging thoughts. It’s helpful just to know that I’m not alone in my feelings. I think you’re right about men wanting to find a solution and wanting to fix things. I need to remember to tell my husband that even his presence can be helpful at times and that there is no easy fix. I am sending you lots of well wishes and hope you find rest.
Thank you, same to you.
 
Top