Depressed about everything

[Rana]

I want to say I finally found therapy that I was looking for. I think it really work for my ocd but at this point I feel it won’t matter. I feel like I’ve had this best years of life taken away from me. I’m gonna be 35 this year I feel lost and depressed. I know the thing I’ve always wanted was to love to have a guy love me o know though reality it ain’t gonna happen why keep pretending it is. I’ve read how much guys don’t want women over 30. I even read all the things guys are attacked too in a woman and I have none of those. It all seems age based and I’m just tired of it all. When i was young guys didn’t want me then either now I’m not gonna be good enough cause of my age. I had many things i wanted to do and life I had in my mind. I look same too as I did younger and I finally like the way I look but still my age is my age and guys ain’t gonna want me. I’m just never what guys want i shouldn’t need to be young to be loved. I know having a guy is not most important thing but it’s what I always wanted and I cannot make myself not want a guy now getting older I want a relationship I’ve seen everyone around me have a relationship while I have never not even any contact from a guy and it’s really sad. I feel sad even though I’m finally gonna get help for what made me miss out on years but now I feel like it don’t matter. I really need advice someone to talk to since no one around me understands

 

[bin_tenn]

What 30-something guy wouldn't want a 30-something woman? That's absurd. IMO age isn't a huge deal, so long as both are legal age and the gap isn't massive (but if it's a large gap and they're both adults, ultimately not my problem, that's just my opinion). I say any legitimate guy (or woman) in their 30s would want someone the same age or maybe a bit older. When I was in my late 20s I was talking to a woman who was barely into her 20s. I knew rather quickly that was a mistake, because she simply wasn't mature enough yet. We had fun, but that's all she cared about. She didn't care about career, and the finer things in life. So I put an end to it.

I know that doesn't answer everything, but I wanted to point that out specifically.

 

[TruthHurts]

I want to say I finally found therapy that I was looking for. I think it really work for my ocd but at this point I feel it won’t matter. I feel like I’ve had this best years of life taken away from me. I’m gonna be 35 this year I feel lost and depressed. I know the thing I’ve always wanted was to love to have a guy love me o know though reality it ain’t gonna happen why keep pretending it is. I’ve read how much guys don’t want women over 30.

That's very far from the truth. I'm sure that many men would love to find a sweet woman like you. Just be careful and don't rush into a relationship with the first guy that you end up going on a date with unless you truly think he is the one that you want to be with. Give it sometime you will find love.

 

[Rana]

I know though it’ll be hard to find a guy that hasn’t been married or has kids I thought these days it’s actually not that rare doe lots of people to be single in their 30s but others experience says not that many available.

 

[Doug97]

I found my 35-year old wife on a dating app. It took a lot of dates before I found her though! You've got to get out there, you won't find him if you don't make the effort.