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Constant worry about my family dying (31M)


New Member
Nov 28, 2019
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Hi, to anybody that reads this.

I have had anxiety for a long time but I have managed to control it to some extend. However over the last year me and my wife have had a baby who is 1 year old now. For the most part I went anxiety free for that first year. However my wife recently has had some health scares and it has sent my anxiety through the roof. All I can think about now is loosing my wife or my child. I constantly imagine what I would do if I was alone with my 1 year old. I can't get the image out of my mind of my child crying to see her mom if she is gone. The list goes on of all these worst cases including if I die or both me and my wife die ect. Even anytime my wife goes out for a drive I fear she will get killed in a car accident. I even find myself going to forums of widowed people and seeing how they cope with life and reading some of those posts pretty much puts me at the edge of a panic attack.

This has really started to take a toll on my mental health. I am tired all the time, I can't focus, I can't eat properly, sleep is getting worse, chest pains ect ect. I have been trying to find some self help on this type of thinking but it is rare to find anything helpfull. Has anyone dealt with this and been able to move past this?


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Apr 14, 2019
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I would consider this to me a normal worry for a lot of people. But when a person has anxiety it can be even worse. You are simply playing out things in your mind that you fear the most in life. New baby growing up with one or no parents. Which for now is not going to happen. The health scare your wife had has triggered all of this. I think that much is obvious. Not sure if you have access to a therapist? To talk your fears through. To learn how normal it can be to fear these things after a health scare. To show you ways to try and get back on track again. You should be loving every moment with your new baby and your fear. Enjoying life. Not fearing the ending of it. Small bit of help might be needed. Professional help. It is all related to the health scare your wife had. Putting new thoughts in your head.