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Not sure if you are seen a therapist or not. If so, maybe your husband should take a session or two with you. If you are not seen a therapist, maybe now is the time to find one. You will get help for your anxiety. But again, your husband can tag along for a few sessions too. You might be seen together a few times. Alone a few times. Then asked openly how each of you are feeling right now. Can be a good way to sort problems like this out.
I agree completely with Cuchculan's advice. I would also tactfully point out that you would provide as much support as possible if he had a chronic disease. Until he accepts that your anxiety is a real disease, he'll always provide little support and get frustrated.
I seem to have the exact same issue.... my husband and I are going through an extremely rough patch and as we go along it seems the anxiety and “crazy thoughts” (has he calls them) get worse.. hang in there that’s what I’m trying to do.
Folks who do not struggle with anxiety have no comprehension of how real the struggle is. They often think we can just "not focus" on whatever the issue is and forget about it. As we know, it simply isn't that easy - they don't realize that anixety is an illness just like any other disease. My wife, who NEVER worries about anything, fortunately understands my struggle and is very supportive but not everyone does that.
I suggest going to a doctor and getting some help - meds, counseling, etc.and perhaps having your husband go with you at least once so the doctor can explain that the struggle is a real medical issue - not just "in your mind"
As you’ve read you’ll get some really great advice from people on here who understand what you’re going through. I don’t have anything I could add to what has already been said but I do wish you the best. I’ve been there with my husband and it was really rough. Thankfully he’s come to realize that my health anxiety isn’t just something I can shut off whenever I want to. But it took about 5 years for him to get to the point of trying to understand and help me instead of just getting frustrated with me about it. Hang in there.