Anxiety and stress

[Chelsea2020]

I always stuffed with anxiety and stress but I feel like I am getting much worst and I know my work has caused a lot more issues for me and has caused additional pressure as they often singled me and made me do additional work which wasn't required and also there was an issue with a bullying and I went to HR but nothing was done and this women has stopped with the bullying.

Now, I got a new job which is great starting it in February but my anxiety over it is killing me and I keep asking them questions about whether they will honour existing hoildays because I wasn't asked about them in the interview. I feel like I am bugging them to the point I wonder if they will withdraw their offer

I wish there was a role to cope and I feel like crying all the time and so pathetic and so alone.

 

[Cuchculan]

Welcome to the forum. I would firstly just accept that I have a new job and will be getting away from the job that I hated. That much I would be happy about. Less stress in your life. With work, everybody is entitled to holiday time. I would not keep getting in touch with them. Sort it all out once you begin the new job. Just see out the last few weeks of your existing job. Look at the positive side of things. You are moving on to better things. Let that thought alone carry you forward. Once in the new job, have a word with somebody then. If you worry about the new job now, it may become something you start to do when you begin working there. So no more worrying about the new job. Just look at it as you getting away from your old job.

 

[zoemartin]

i am also suffering from same help me please

 

[smilingsoul]

Even positive job changes can be stressful! I've been going through one for about 6 months now, and trying to find my place, understand the expectations of the people around me, and learning to lead and collaborate at a higher level cranked up my anxiety a lot. Its a transitory thing though...just like my earlier positions I'll figure out what the expectations are, develop new skills to meet the demands, and in the meantime I lean on more experienced colleagues, the professional development staff in HR, and of course my long-suffering wife . These are things that everyone goes through, but those of us who have mental health issues on top of regular stressors need to navigate in our own way.

 

[Chelsea2020]

I just can't stop feeling sick thinking about all the new change such as driving a new route going on the motorway and obvs a new job.

 

[Anna70]

I just can't stop feeling sick thinking about all the new change such as driving a new route going on the motorway and obvs a new job.

It always is a nervous time when you start a new job or a new school, etc. In my experience, it took me about a month or two to get used to the new routine. Good luck on your new job, Chelsea2020.

 

[smilingsoul]

It might be helpful to schedule a time each day to worry about it. That's a tool I've never had to use myself, since despite having an anxiety disorder I'm actually pretty mellow. Its been something that comes up in advice for dealing with excessive worry when I go looking for it, so maybe it could be useful to you? If you schedule the time (maybe 20 min?) and stick to it for a few days, giving yourself that time to fret without feeling annoyed with yourself, maybe during the rest of your day those thoughts will be less intrusive. You can use it to rehearse the things that worry you and what you might do to solve them. Write down your worries and their solutions, and you can refer it it when your worries resurface. Don't do any new work on them outside of your designated worry time though (unless its implementing one of your solutions, like buying a parking pass or something).

 

[Chelsea2020]

It might be helpful to schedule a time each day to worry about it. That's a tool I've never had to use myself, since despite having an anxiety disorder I'm actually pretty mellow. Its been something that comes up in advice for dealing with excessive worry when I go looking for it, so maybe it could be useful to you? If you schedule the time (maybe 20 min?) and stick to it for a few days, giving yourself that time to fret without feeling annoyed with yourself, maybe during the rest of your day those thoughts will be less intrusive. You can use it to rehearse the things that worry you and what you might do to solve them. Write down your worries and their solutions, and you can refer it it when your worries resurface. Don't do any new work on them outside of your designated worry time though (unless its implementing one of your solutions, like buying a parking pass or something).

I will try that and see if that helps. My brain never seems to stop though and I find when I was given tablets by the DR it didn't work either