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Been ok all day then bam this evening it hits me. Strange head symptoms, upset tummy feeling and literal panic in my chest and tummy!!!! I couldn’t even tell you what it is or where it came from. That’s what makes me feel like I’m going to die all of a sudden. Surely I can’t be ok all day and then it start in the evening. It’s like this everyday to one extent or another.,someone please help
 

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For some, anxiety peaks at certain times of day. For me, the worst is the morning when I wake up. It’s the realization, after blissful sleep, that another day of anxiety awaits me.

For you perhaps the late day is your trigger for some reason. If you can figure out why that would help, but if not, don’t even try to understand. Just accept it is that way for you.
 

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My main time for anxiety is the evening, when I know I'm going to bed soon. My boyfriend falls asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow, haha, so I'm alone with my thoughts as soon as we get into bed basically, and in the evening I start feeling anxiety about that. It's silly, but deffo where my anxiety starts to flare, I start getting more aware of symptoms etc. You'll be a-okay, I promise, it's totally normal to have that time period where it really hits. Try and keep your mind busy then, watch something funny, or practise some mindfulness! I found some youtubers I really like and have biiiinged their videos before sleeping recently, helps to occupy yourself elsewhere.
 

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My main time for anxiety is the evening, when I know I'm going to bed soon. My boyfriend falls asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow, haha, so I'm alone with my thoughts as soon as we get into bed basically, and in the evening I start feeling anxiety about that. It's silly, but deffo where my anxiety starts to flare, I start getting more aware of symptoms etc. You'll be a-okay, I promise, it's totally normal to have that time period where it really hits. Try and keep your mind busy then, watch something funny, or practise some mindfulness! I found some youtubers I really like and have biiiinged their videos before sleeping recently, helps to occupy yourself elsewhere.
That’s true. I think come an evening it’s been a long day. Stress has hit a level and then night is calmer as well I guess. I think a lot of people suffer of an evening. It’s strange how certain times of the day affect us. Your right maybe I am more aware of my symptoms of an evening than I am during the day x
For some, anxiety peaks at certain times of day. For me, the worst is the morning when I wake up. It’s the realization, after blissful sleep, that another day of anxiety awaits me.

For you perhaps the late day is your trigger for some reason. If you can figure out why that would help, but if not, don’t even try to understand. Just accept it is that way for you.
My anxiety use to be worse in the morning. I use to love going to bed just for the mindful rest I would get. Sleeping was the only time I felt ok. I really wish I nknew what triggered it but I just can’t figure it out
 

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Just throwing it out there. Maybe you were having such a great day, that you asked yourself why you were having such a great day. Or the mind began to think ' this is not right for me '. Then your anxiety began to kick back in. Thus it might feel like it is coming on out of nowhere. All we need is that little seed of doubt. That one thought about a good day not been normal. Can happen. More a case of telling yourself you are allowed have good days. They can happen. Nothing wrong about them happening.
 

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I'm most prone to anxiety in the evening, especially when I get in bed. Furthermore, lack of sleep greatly increases my chances of experiencing some degree of anxiety at bedtime. I've always assumed that's because, when I lack proper sleep and I'm overly tired, I don't have the ability or desire to properly counter the anxiety. I don't have the energy to "fight" it. What I've learned to do instead (and this is a common technique for anxiety in general) is allow it to happen. Accept that I feel anxious, let it run its course, and know that I will ultimately be fine.
 

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I'm most prone to anxiety in the evening, especially when I get in bed. Furthermore, lack of sleep greatly increases my chances of experiencing some degree of anxiety at bedtime. I've always assumed that's because, when I lack proper sleep and I'm overly tired, I don't have the ability or desire to properly counter the anxiety. I don't have the energy to "fight" it. What I've learned to do instead (and this is a common technique for anxiety in general) is allow it to happen. Accept that I feel anxious, let it run its course, and know that I will ultimately be fine.
Hi. bin. You and I have talked before on that other site, and I always found your replies helpful. You are so right about accepting. You may know how I feel about that. Conjuring up the energy to 'fight' it causes agitation which does not help with sleep. Calm acceptance does. Let it come. Give it permission to come. As you say. allow it to happen with no resistance whatsoever.
 

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Hi. bin. You and I have talked before on that other site, and I always found your replies helpful. You are so right about accepting. You may know how I feel about that. Conjuring up the energy to 'fight' it causes agitation which does not help with sleep. Calm acceptance does. Let it come. Give it permission to come. As you say. allow it to happen with no resistance whatsoever.
Yes, exactly! Funny enough, it happened to me last night, as I was rather tired and got in bed much later than I should have. As soon as I got in bed I felt fairly anxious. Instead of focusing on that, I focused on going to sleep, and it worked in no time at all. When I instead think about how anxious I am, and how I just want it to stop so I can sleep, of course it takes forever to fall asleep!
 

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Just throwing it out there. Maybe you were having such a great day, that you asked yourself why you were having such a great day. Or the mind began to think ' this is not right for me '. Then your anxiety began to kick back in. Thus it might feel like it is coming on out of nowhere. All we need is that little seed of doubt. That one thought about a good day not been normal. Can happen. More a case of telling yourself you are allowed have good days. They can happen. Nothing wrong about them happening.
I do find myself sometimes wondering why I don’t have anxiety!!! How strange is that! I definitely get head tension and eye tension. My shoulders are were I hold a great deal of tension always have done. I guess that’s why it’s the last place to leave as it’s the first place to start. Guess that’s where I hold it all
 

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I do find myself sometimes wondering why I don’t have anxiety!!! How strange is that! I definitely get head tension and eye tension. My shoulders are were I hold a great deal of tension always have done. I guess that’s why it’s the last place to leave as it’s the first place to start. Guess that’s where I hold it all
It is not uncommon to have a good day and suddenly stop and wondering ' why is this happening '. As in why so good. Simply because you are not used to it. What can happen next is a bit like looking for that anxiety that is not there. Then it comes flooding back in again. You have what you are used to having. But anxiety doesn't have to happen every day. You are allowed have good days too. If they happen, try and enjoy them. Don't seek out the anxiety. As if it is a lost friend. Once we even think about it, it will come on. Because we are inviting it to come on.
 

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It is not uncommon to have a good day and suddenly stop and wondering ' why is this happening '. As in why so good. Simply because you are not used to it. What can happen next is a bit like looking for that anxiety that is not there. Then it comes flooding back in again. You have what you are used to having. But anxiety doesn't have to happen every day. You are allowed have good days too. If they happen, try and enjoy them. Don't seek out the anxiety. As if it is a lost friend. Once we even think about it, it will come on. Because we are inviting it to come on.
Definitely. I don’t no why night time is worse for me. My shoulders are in agony tonight (I grated some cheese this morning) I think that’s all linked to my lupus (still waiting to see a specialist for that too)
 

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We tend to tense ourselves up big time. Some people worse than other. Ever see a cat on all four paws when it sees a dog? Hair in the air. That is us with anxiety. Imagine holding yourself that way all day long. Like you are fully on guard and waiting for something to happen. It will cause pain. The muscles will hurt big time. With you it seems to in the shoulder area.
 

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We tend to tense ourselves up big time. Some people worse than other. Ever see a cat on all four paws when it sees a dog? Hair in the air. That is us with anxiety. Imagine holding yourself that way all day long. Like you are fully on guard and waiting for something to happen. It will cause pain. The muscles will hurt big time. With you it seems to in the shoulder area.
100% couldn’t agree more. Thank you so much you are extremely helpful and insightful
 

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I do find myself sometimes wondering why I don’t have anxiety!!! How strange is that! I definitely get head tension and eye tension. My shoulders are were I hold a great deal of tension always have done. I guess that’s why it’s the last place to leave as it’s the first place to start. Guess that’s where I hold it all
Hi. In anxiety everyone has what is called their 'weak organ'. With some it's headaches, others may have back pain or leg pains. In health anxiety it could be any organ in the body, if that's where our minds lead us. Twitching all over is a very common symptom. The skin is the biggest organ in the body. Is it surprising it's affected so badly in anxiety. But the realisation and the acceptance of the fact that it can happen goes a long way to helping. That is, of course, if you have been checked out and found to be OK. Supposing none of us had ever heard of sickness or disease. Supposing there was no Dr.Google to go to! The mind would be free of all anxiety. In some primitive societies anxiety is unknown because they are not bombarded with heath information as we are. Even in doctors surgeries (UK) the walls are plastered with leaflets. Have you got this or that? Are your symptoms like this? Is it any wonder we are fearful people. Once again, suggestion implanted in the mind can cause havoc in a sensitised person. Watching medical programmes and horror movies can also cause problems.
 

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Hi. In anxiety everyone has what is called their 'weak organ'. With some it's headaches, others may have back pain or leg pains. In health anxiety it could be any organ in the body, if that's where our minds lead us. Twitching all over is a very common symptom. The skin is the biggest organ in the body. Is it surprising it's affected so badly in anxiety. But the realisation and the acceptance of the fact that it can happen goes a long way to helping. That is, of course, if you have been checked out and found to be OK. Supposing none of us had ever heard of sickness or disease. Supposing there was no Dr.Google to go to! The mind would be free of all anxiety. In some primitive societies anxiety is unknown because they are not bombarded with heath information as we are. Even in doctors surgeries (UK) the walls are plastered with leaflets. Have you got this or that? Are your symptoms like this? Is it any wonder we are fearful people. Once again, suggestion implanted in the mind can cause havoc in a sensitised person. Watching medical programmes and horror movies can also cause problems.
So true! Google definitely inflated my anxiety and made it worse in the beginning when I was first diagnosed. My head/ mouth is definitely my trigger my granddad died of an unknown tumour before I was born and my grandad got mouth C (that’s what triggered my HA) when I look back I’ve had a lot of stress and trauma through out my life from a young age and was always an anxious person before HA started.
 
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