Xmas Carol, How Are You?

[XmasCarol52]

That's against the law!! They couldn't kick them out. That's obsered. It sound like your landlord is bipolar but, not manic depressive type like me.. I mean the Wacka doodle type like the most severe cases.

my landlord has nothing not even a brain get this one she told me I need to liven up my place.No thank you i do a lot of decorating for christmas other then that nH my friend came by today Someone on tv was talking about brains i told her i wish i could open up my head and see why and how my brain works .she told me if she could she would look at my brain and help me,also I looked at her straight in the eye and i told her just saying you do know that you can talk to me about anything guess what no smart remarks or anything like that.she said she knows and when i told her I only want to help her she said I know.Even with that I can tell just by looking at her something is serioulsy wrong i think she doesnt want to tell me because she doesnt want to upset me.She is afraid it will make me sick.I told her that is what I am here for,but for some reason she wont tell me anything,i do know this though she said she has more problems to worry about then eating chocolate and making her sick Ijust hope she isnt really sick.I had tears in my eyes when I told her she could talk to me anytime.she clearly is upset by something and yes it bothers me because she wont tell me what it is.I only want to help her if I can.Today she even took one of my boxes folded it up and threw it out for me. I must say I was a little bit nervous when she first came she said she doesnt like talking on the phone me either five minutes is enough. I was so depressed this weekend not only because of her but because bob and i did things together on the weekends like go for long car rides and to the marina i miss that...

 

[Concernedgal]

It sounds like she has marital problems if you ask me. She knows that you are there for him and that means the world to her. Just keep being there for her and she will talk when she' ready.

 

[janemariesayed]

In the UK we have a council that checks the rent to see if it is reasonable. Do you have that? Perhaps there is someone who can come and check that your rent is reasonable from the council?

 

[janemariesayed]

.she clearly is upset by something and yes it bothers me because she wont tell me what it is.I only want to help her if I can

The fact that you have told her that you are there to listen will mean so much to her. Some people need a bit of time to talk about things. It may be something she feels ashamed of. The thing is that she knows she can come to you when she does feel like talking and all you can do is be there for her when she is ready.

 

[XmasCarol52]

It sounds like she has marital problems if you ask me. She knows that you are there for him and that means the world to her. Just keep being there for her and she will talk when she' ready.

you know i think she does to but she doenst need to get nasty either.However yesterday when I told her she could vent and I will be there for her she said I know.I do feel sorry for her cause she said again there are problems at home,I wish I could comfort her but she just wont let me.

 

[XmasCarol52]

The fact that you have told her that you are there to listen will mean so much to her. Some people need a bit of time to talk about things. It may be something she feels ashamed of. The thing is that she knows she can come to you when she does feel like talking and all you can do is be there for her when she is ready.

You know I cannot stay mad at her for long,yesterday she took one of my boxes folded it up then proceeded to carry it way up to the trash for me,all the time she was doing this she looked like she was about ready to cry,I just hope she isnt seriously sick.All I want to do is help her but she wont let me in.Maybe someday she will she is one of those who doesnt like to let people see how she is feeling when she is sick.I dont either but sometimes it is better to talk about it.I just flet like when she said last week she has a husband like she was suggesting she dont need me as a friend.

 

[janemariesayed]

You know I cannot stay mad at her for long,yesterday she took one of my boxes folded it up then proceeded to carry it way up to the trash for me,all the time she was doing this she looked like she was about ready to cry,I just hope she isnt seriously sick.All I want to do is help her but she wont let me in.Maybe someday she will she is one of those who doesnt like to let people see how she is feeling when she is sick.I dont either but sometimes it is better to talk about it.I just flet like when she said last week she has a husband like she was suggesting she dont need me as a friend.

That annoys me when people talk like that. Like she is too busy to bother with you because she has someone else taking up her time and you are getting in the way. Well, that isn't fair. Or nice. But then again, she is going through something that is upsetting her and she isn't ready to reveal it yet. Maybe her husband is having an affair or one of them is very sick. Give her time and try to ignore if she makes a nasty comment. Although I know that is not as easy as it sounds. Things get to us when we care.

 

[XmasCarol52]

That annoys me when people talk like that. Like she is too busy to bother with you because she has someone else taking up her time and you are getting in the way. Well, that isn't fair. Or nice. But then again, she is going through something that is upsetting her and she isn't ready to reveal it yet. Maybe her husband is having an affair or one of them is very sick. Give her time and try to ignore if she makes a nasty comment. Although I know that is not as easy as it sounds. Things get to us when we care.

Well when she told me she had a husband I not only felt like I was kicked in the stomach but i felt like going into the bathroom and cry.I know I am not the only one she gets nasty with.So she has a husband so did I and i never told my friends that I had a husband matter of fact my husband was glad I had friends.It sounded to me like she was saying since I have a husband I dont need you.JUst a couple of weeks ago she told me we need each other.I do know one thing though she does have a temper even with that said she should not be snapping at people get this she told me how someone got nasty with her and she didnt like it and she let them have it.I just feel bad she wont open up to me. I looked at her right in the eye and said just saying if you need me to talk to it is okay she said i know i told her if she needs to vent go right ahead she didnt say a word.That is what friends are for.She couldnt even face me when i said that

 

[janemariesayed]

Well when she told me she had a husband I not only felt like I was kicked in the stomach but i felt like going into the bathroom and cry.I know I am not the only one she gets nasty with.So she has a husband so did I and i never told my friends that I had a husband matter of fact my husband was glad I had friends.It sounded to me like she was saying since I have a husband I dont need you.JUst a couple of weeks ago she told me we need each other.I do know one thing though she does have a temper even with that said she should not be snapping at people get this she told me how someone got nasty with her and she didnt like it and she let them have it.I just feel bad she wont open up to me. I looked at her right in the eye and said just saying if you need me to talk to it is okay she said i know i told her if she needs to vent go right ahead she didnt say a word.That is what friends are for.She couldnt even face me when i said that

It seems that relationships, whoever they are between has one giver and one receiver. You are obviously the giver and she the taker. She seems a very difficult friend to have and you are being very strong to offer her help only to have it thrown back at you time and time again. Don't let her get to you, Carol. I know it isn't easy when we are feeling sensitive but remind yourself that it isn't your fault. Keep your chin up and ignore her jibes. I know you would like her to open up but she doesn't seem ready or willing. Okay, so let her talk her worries through with her husband then. You are too good a friend for her. She would miss you if you were not friends.

 

[XmasCarol52]

It seems that relationships, whoever they are between has one giver and one receiver. You are obviously the giver and she the taker. She seems a very difficult friend to have and you are being very strong to offer her help only to have it thrown back at you time and time again. Don't let her get to you, Carol. I know it isn't easy when we are feeling sensitive but remind yourself that it isn't your fault. Keep your chin up and ignore her jibes. I know you would like her to open up but she doesn't seem ready or willing. Okay, so let her talk her worries through with her husband then. You are too good a friend for her. She would miss you if you were not friends.

I know she loves me but watch out for her temper at times.I aint going to say anything more to her about it she knows she can talk to me.She just dooesnt seem happy about anything anymore.You know I just wish she would let me help her.I feel so useless when it comes to helping her.I am sorry but I am not going to chance the way I am I love helping and doing things for people that is who i am,She says she got a husband but when she was talking about the power outage last Friday she couldnt get her husband to do anything no play board games ,cards nothing then she waves her hands around in disgusts.

 

[janemariesayed]

I know she loves me but watch out for her temper at times.I aint going to say anything more to her about it she knows she can talk to me.She just dooesnt seem happy about anything anymore.You know I just wish she would let me help her.I feel so useless when it comes to helping her.I am sorry but I am not going to chance the way I am I love helping and doing things for people that is who i am,She says she got a husband but when she was talking about the power outage last Friday she couldnt get her husband to do anything no play board games ,cards nothing then she waves her hands around in disgusts.

It seems like she has a problem with her husband. If it is her marriage that is suffering she really may not feel like talking about it yet. Talking about it means admitting failure. You have let her know that you are there for her so I hope that she does come to you when she is ready. You are a good friend to have! I wish I was your neighbour!

 

[XmasCarol52]

It seems like she has a problem with her husband. If it is her marriage that is suffering she really may not feel like talking about it yet. Talking about it means admitting failure. You have let her know that you are there for her so I hope that she does come to you when she is ready. You are a good friend to have! I wish I was your neighbour!

She also has a son with problems sometimes he can be so nice to her and other time so mean.Wouldnt that be nice if we were neighbors we could have some ice tea maybe some hot dogs or hamburg on the grill.Oh ya we would have to watch days of our lives.Very interesting story going on right now,w woman has a split personality.sometimes when I am yelling I think i have a split personality cause it sounds so demonic not like me at all.We had another storm my power wnet out twice only in my living so annoying I hope I an not getting cick my throat is burning but it feels more like it is very dry and i have funny taste ugh.IN any case I wish you were my neighbor too.oh no my heat hasnt run for about an hour it says it is 76 in here oh just as I say that my heat goes on.Oh did I tell you that my aunts neices husband is dying he has cancer and other problems i heard that he could go any day now.My god in heaven I think he is my age or younger.I lit a candle for him Did you know that they have site where you can lite a candle i go there a lot.

 

[janemariesayed]

She also has a son with problems sometimes he can be so nice to her and other time so mean.Wouldnt that be nice if we were neighbors we could have some ice tea maybe some hot dogs or hamburg on the grill.Oh ya we would have to watch days of our lives.Very interesting story going on right now,w woman has a split personality.sometimes when I am yelling I think i have a split personality cause it sounds so demonic not like me at all.We had another storm my power wnet out twice only in my living so annoying I hope I an not getting cick my throat is burning but it feels more like it is very dry and i have funny taste ugh.IN any case I wish you were my neighbor too.oh no my heat hasnt run for about an hour it says it is 76 in here oh just as I say that my heat goes on.Oh did I tell you that my aunts neices husband is dying he has cancer and other problems i heard that he could go any day now.My god in heaven I think he is my age or younger.I lit a candle for him Did you know that they have site where you can lite a candle i go there a lot.

Oh dear, I'm sorry to hear about your Aunts, Neice's husband. That is so nice that you lit a candle for him. I didn't know there was an online site where you could do that. It's a great idea. I'm sending my prayers for him.

so your friend has a problem with her son! There you go then, maybe the problem lies with him and she doesn't want to reveal it.

It would be good if we were in the same village even! I would pop in most days for a quick cuppa! I come and sit with you during storms too. I'd have you counting the miles between the claps of thunder and lightning. I did that with my brother's children. It was a thunderstorm and the little one was crying scared. So I arranged loads of pillows in front of a window and I made them see it as fun. With each fork of lightning, we would shreek out 'WOW!' and then start counting to see how many miles away it was.

 

[XmasCarol52]

I would love you as my neighbor then you could tell the land lady off for me.My friend was in a great mood no more yelling or sadness she was even laughing at one of my jokes she does have a great sense of humor.thanks for the prayers I hoep he is going to be alright.http://www.lightingacandle.org/ here is one of the sites where you can light a candle