Worrying and Feeling Guilty

[justsayyes]

I worry all the time, about my future, about things that could go wrong with me and my family. This is really taking a toll on me as i'm having a hard time sleeping and functioning in my day to day life. I also feel guilty when things go wrong, even if it's not my fault, as long as i'm involved with the situation, i always try to find a connection, the things i did or said that might have to do with why things went south. I wish i don't have to feel this way everyday. :/

 

[Alex]

I think many people can empathize with you. I am the same, but I'm not as bad as I used to be, and would be angry at myself if I didn't do things as well as I could or when that list you made wasn't completed. I started to be more laid back when my dad was suddenly taken into hospital. He is the biggest worrier and even in his hospital bed dying he was worrying about the house insurance renewal. We all had to learn that sometimes things will work out and worrying isn't going to change things.


Now he is out of hospital he still worries, but not on the scale as before as he knows he could have died and that there are more important things to take care of.

 

[Rayne]

I used to be just like you justsayyes. With the help of meds and prayer I've finally come to the conclusion that everything doesn't revolve around me and in most situations there was nothing I could do to change the outcome. I've finally quit worrying and am beginning to enjoy life. I hope you will reach this point as well. Prayer helps a great deal.

 

[fuzyon]

I catch myself doing that too, it's a vicious circle that unfortunately is embedded into our brains. Every human in the world worries about something or thinks about their future, past and their next move. They're always alert and that can be exhausting, people like us with anxiety know that our minds go a thousand thoughts per minute which is mentally taxing.


Lately I've been trying to convince myself that worrying about things that may or may not happen is pointless, it will not change the outcome and it's only going to be detrimental to me. Don't worry or think about the future too much, you'll forget to live right now, in the present.

 

[Piper]

When my daughter is having a bad anxiety attack, she worries so much about everything. She gets to thinking about bills, sickness in the family, problems she has had with her family and almost anything that enters her mind. She used to take medication for this but she stopped because it was making her sleep all the time. Now, I usually have to talk her through her anxiety attacks to help her calm down.

 

[RichE8475]

I have been dealing with anxiety and agoraphobia for over ten years now, and I face the ordeal of guilt and worry constantly. There are days that I feel that I just cannot get out of bed, and my mind races about everything. There are those days when I am feeling so bad that I cannot even read the mail, look online, or turn on my phone. It feels that every time that I do something bad happens. I constantly ask myself; What did I do? Why me? Did I say or do something wrong? Everything is a constant struggle, and when I think things are going well something just knocks me back down. I do not know how to get out of this crazy cycle. So, I understand where your mindset is. I have doctors that prescribe medicines, but i feel like I am a guinea pig for new drugs. The only thing that has kept me in a calm place this past year was staying inside my home, living alone, and trying to keep everyone out. I know that this is not a healthy way of dealing with it, but sadly this is where I am at in my life.


I hope that you are able to find a way to lessen worry and guilt for I am dealing with it as well. I am glad that I found this site, because hopefully I will be able to talk to other people dealing with the same issues I am going through.

 

[beautifullybree]

I worry more then I should. It's always things that could happen or could go wrong. I may be driving worrying that I hadn't checked my tire pressure lately. What if the air is low? I wish I could shake the worrying!

 

[justsayyes]

Thank you for all your responses, It's comforting to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. I'm glad some of you have overcome this and i hope i will too. This is very draining and at times I'm aware worrying about the future is pointless but i can't stop it. I'm not taking meds for this, but i might have to soon.

 

[gracer]

Hi justsayyes! I think all of us in one way or another have felt the same way as you did so many times in our lives. It's just but normal to worry because I think it's one factor that keeps us going through life. Imagine if we're all relaxed and laid-back all the time, then no work or productivity would be done and our chance of surviving in this world would be very slim. Find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and gather strength from the worries and anxiety you're feeling and turn them into positive actions.

 

[hades_leae]

It's really not that hard to worry, I used to have this problem but because I lacked the resources to help me with it, I had to figure things out myself. I remember always telling myself that because I can't get help, I need to figure out my own ways and tactics to use in order to keep from having to think about things that I didn't want to think about.


When you start thinking about them, maybe you should tell yourself that because they have not happened, then you don't need to worry yourself, that was something that started working for me.

 

[joshposh]

Everyone has those feelings of doubt to the point where it becomes a insecurity. There are things that you can control, and the things that you can't. What you need to do is remove the thoughts of the things out of your control, like how people judge you. Just focus on you and what you need to do to get to the next level. Break sweat over things that you can't control is actually counter productive.

 

[cecejailer]

I worry about things that have even been resolved before... I feel guilty about things I've done years ago, like the way I didn't care about my mother's feelings when I was dealing with anorexia. I know I had control over my emotions back then, but still, it hurts to even think how bad I made her feel, even though I know it wasn't on purpose. That's the thing about anxiety, it's hard to let go... It's always there, no matter where you go. It's hard to focus on the good things in your life when you're constantly worrying about the past and the future.

 

[SirJoe]

Uncertainty can really be a problem, most of the anxiety that we feel derives from that. If we are able to create a stable environment it becomes easier to deal with our anxiety.

 

[janemariesayed]

Try not to think about the future so much and try to live in the present. Just take each day one at a time and try to put thoughts of another day out of your mind. It isn't good for mental health to worry so much. The future is not written, you can make it great yourself by focusing on today's events and making them good.