Worried husband has HIV and gave it to me

[Christmaslovinmama]

My husband and I met about a year ago, got married in March. I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant and I'm worried my husband may have contracted HIV before he met me, and now gave it to me. When I met him, he and his mother, claimed that this man has the "immune system of a horse!" Well, shortly thereafter, in December, he got very VERY I'll with strep throat. To where he was on the couch for about two weeks, not working, etc. Antibiotics helped and he got better. Now, all of a sudden his hand is SUPER swollen and infected. There is no cut or wound on his hand anywhere, but the doctor said it's really infected and put him on antibiotics. How does a hand RANDOMLY get infected without a cut, sore, wound, bruise, etc? He's 32 and the last time he had unprotected sex with someone before meeting me was August of last year. I have a doctor's appointment on Monday for my monthly OB check up, and I'm going to have them do a full panel STD testing at that time. I just wish this all wasn't happening.

 

[FlipperK]

While anybody can get strep throat, you should still get tested anyways.

A swollen infected hand doesn’t really sound like a typical symptom of HIV. If it were that bad then I would guess that other symptoms that were more obviously linked to HIV would have manifested it self.

when my wife and I got pregnant (both times) we got the full list of STDs tested for. Even though we knew we didn’t have anything and we were faithful, it’s the smart thing to do because you just never know.

I think both of you should get tested regardless of how your tests come out. When it comes to taking care of kids, you want to make sure you cover everything now. That way if something is there, you can take care of it and the baby.

 

[kivyt73]

I think they test you when you get pregnant at the OB GYN at least they used to (my daughter is 23). Maybe look in to that, but I would think it would be something the OB would think was important to know for your health and the baby's.

 

[matisworried]

even healthy people can get really sick. it happens... and strep throat can be really nasty. healthy people get infections, too. just because you don't see a wound doesn't mean there isn't (or wasn't) one. something as small as a pinprick can let bacteria in. it's very likely that by the time the infection took hold and was noticeable, the wound had already healed. i'm guessing no one went over every millimeter of his hand with a magnifying glass.

have you had this discussion with your husband? i definitely don't mean to overstep my bounds, but please be careful - this is an example of how HA can impact relationships and marriages. your anxiety is the driving force behind why you're wanting to do this but to the non-HA suffer, this has huge potential to look like mistrust. just try to imagine if this were reversed and you found out your husband wanted to get an HIV test because he was afraid you gave him a disease.

good luck but it really doesn't sound like anything to worry about aside from your anxiety.

 

[Christmaslovinmama]

Hah. Yes, he thinks I'm crazy.

 

[matisworried]

i'm assuming that means he's pretty understanding about it, which is good. if my wife told me she was going to get an HIV test, we'd definitely have problem!