Work anxiety.. for no specific reasons!

[Ptinacloud]

Hi everyone,

I’m new here. Looking for some advice or anyone that can relate to me. I have a very supportive fiancé and supportive friends although I’m worried that I’m just mentally draining everyone by my negativity which is why I’m here.

I am 25 and ever since I got my first part time job when I was 15 or 16 at a fast food restaraunt, I’ve had the same issue. Basically afraid of making mistakes or looking like an idiot at work. Mistakes are inevitable I get it but it’s hard for me to accept. Long story short I would quit jobs often basically whenever I made mistakes. Constantly running away. When I was in college my dad told me that running away from a job was fine now but when I’m older and on my own it can’t be that way. That hit me really hard and after I graduated I made sure that I didn’t quit because of stupid reasons. The longest I’ve had is about 3 years. I left my most recent job because of various choices the big bosses were making and I didn’t agree anymore although I loved it there otherwise! I’m at a new job now. Great atmosphere just like my old job. Great people and it’s got a great reputation. Closer to home, better pay, benefits. Super busy like my old job, which I like and have no problem with. Now the problem is I’m saying it’s all great and yet I’m so anxious every morning especially after being away from work even after a weekend. After a long weekend it’s even worse. I don’t know how to relax. I don’t know how to stop anticipating the worst or assuming that I’ll go into work and get in trouble for something. To give you some insight, my boss and coworkers have said I’ve learned things quicker than anyone else they’ve trained. Huge compliment right?! Yet I still feel this way. Not confident at all. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to change the way I think. I’m tempted to quit again and just run away. That’s not an option. I have a wedding to pay for and my whole adult life ahead of me. I don’t want to let my fiancé down either. I need to learn how to cope with this feeling of anxiety and negativity. Does anyone have any tips or does anyone else feel something similar? Thanks for reading! I know it’s long as hell.

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[janemariesayed]

Hello there @Ptinacloud and a very warm welcome to our little community.

It is great that you have support around you as it will give you strength to get through.

Everyone makes mistakes at some point in their career. When I hadn't been working very long at a bakery, in the bakehouse, we had a young lad come to work with us. He was given a job to clean out the fryer that we used to fry the doughnuts in. He did the job amazingly well, but when he came to refill the fryer with oil, he used golden syrup instead. Can you imagine the hassle and the problem of cleaning it up?

Your dad was right, you can't keep running away from a job when you make mistakes.

Before you go to work each morning, try a little meditation. Meditating helps to calm you down and you feel more relaxed in problematic situations. If you don't know how to meditate, just sit quietly and focus on your breathing. Breathe in for the count of 4, hold it in for the count of 2, then let your breath out slowly for the count of 4. The air taken into your body actually helps to relax you. It won't just be when you have meditated, it will help you to relax in all areas of life.