Why do I feel like everyone is ignoring me, and the toxic people I’m ignoring won’t leave me alone?

[Strawberry Banana Sundae]

It seems like nowadays I only get the bad kind of attention from toxic people yet everyone else outright ignores me and walks over me like I’m a doormat. I try so hard to get someone’s attention without looking like a borderline narcissist, yet still I remain in the users’ shadow. I wouldn’t be surprised if they already believed I am. I am a magnet to those who want to attack me yet everybody else avoids me like the plague. I keep climbing up yet I still fall down. It’s driving me crazy. It makes me feel like something is wrong with me.

 

[Jonathan123]

It seems like nowadays I only get the bad kind of attention from toxic people yet everyone else outright ignores me and walks over me like I’m a doormat. I try so hard to get someone’s attention without looking like a borderline narcissist, yet still I remain in the users’ shadow. I wouldn’t be surprised if they already believed I am. I am a magnet to those who want to attack me yet everybody else avoids me like the plague. I keep climbing up yet I still fall down. It’s driving me crazy. It makes me feel like something is wrong with me.

The old saying that we get what we give is still true. If we give out bad vibes then people will not want to be with us. If we give love then that will be returned. If not then we have done all we can. We attract those who are on the same mental level as us. Now I am not for one moment suggesting you are like that. 'Toxic people'. I doubt there is any such person. There are anxious people, confused people and some nasty people, but they are all human. 'There but for the grace of God go i'. You say you are a magnet for those who want to attack you, but is that the perception you have about others and life? We see what we want to see and think. What makes us feel comfortable. If I may suggest, with respect, that the only thing wrong with you is your perspective on life and those around you. Try and see the good in people, and stop looking for the bad.

 

[audaparizeau]

It seems like nowadays I only get the bad kind of attention from toxic people yet everyone else outright ignores me and walks over me like I’m a doormat. I try so hard to get someone’s attention without looking like a borderline narcissist, yet still I remain in the users’ shadow. I wouldn’t be surprised if they already believed I am. I am a magnet to those who want to attack me yet everybody else avoids me like the plague. I keep climbing up yet I still fall down. It’s driving me crazy. It makes me feel like something is wrong with me.

Our experiences are reflections of our thought processes also, Change to a positive attitude takes time but gives a good outcome.

 

[Jonathan123]

Our experiences are reflections of our thought processes also, Change to a positive attitude takes time but gives a good outcome.

Yes indeed. But a positive attitude may be difficult to come by in anxiety. Actually, negative or positive makes no difference if we accept both as being part of recovery. We live in a world of opposites. Where there is light darkness will surely follow. Where there is hope despair may well come into the picture. Acceptance allows you to see them all in the same light, and your response to both good and bad will be the same, you will not be moved by either. 'As we think so we are'. Over the portal of the Oracle at Delphi are the words, 'Man, know thyself'. How many of us really know ourselves? How many stand back and take a good impartial look at ourselves? Anxiety can force us to do that. None of us is perfect, (I can only speak for myself!! ), but mistakes in life will be made by all of us.
It's good to recognize those mistakes and try not to repeat them. I have said before, anxiety can be a friend as well as a bogeyman if we look to it as a teaching experience, a trial if you like, to which we so often find ourselves wanting.

 

[Strawberry Banana Sundae]

Our experiences are reflections of our thought processes also, Change to a positive attitude takes time but gives a good outcome.

Anxiety has a big impact of thought processes. But when someone keeps telling you “why can’t you ever be positive?”, it doesn’t help as they assume that I can change my own mental illness when for the majority it’s not possible.

While there is nothing wrong with being positive and being happy, and while trying to become more positive is an effort, it secretly invalidates your negative emotions like fear and sadness. It’s ironic how the forum exists for users to vent about their mental health struggles, yet they contradict themselves by claiming “just be more positive” as if our mental health is a choice. For the most part, it’s not.

 

[Jonathan123]

No one ever chooses to be like this. It is thrust upon us by circumstances and life experiences. Anxious people are so often sensitive people. What as a so called called 'normal' person would shrug off we tend to hang on to. Sensitivity does not allow us time to think. We may watch a sad news event, or a sad movie and find it stays with us for days after. It's our temperament! Learning to live with it and accepting it is so can help. Being sensitive allows you to help others without thought of yourself. Empathy is a rare virtue. Sympathy is easy, empathy is not.