Why can't people seem to understand

[XmasCarol52]

Why can't people seem to understand that I cannot go out especially in a car? Now I got my mothers nurse telling me I should come and see her I just got through telling her the other day I cannot because I am homebound i thought she understood that .Shoot now I have to worry about her now.She said come and you will see that nothing will happen to you.Well I cant go i just told don't I wish,she knows I have anxieties and am afraid to go out. She got mad and said goodbye look I certainly do not need her crap.I do love my mom why do they think i call her everyday?I mean I could be a lousy daughter like some people I know and not even bother with her after the way she abused me when I was younger and she still did at times even before she got sick.Now I am afraid to call there because I dont need this woman hounding me to come there,I am so sick and tired of having to explain myself to everyone .Nothing will happen to me oh ya the minute she even mentions coming there my anxieties sky rocket and she just made them worse.Now what am i suppose to do I am afraid to call there now. I just do not need anymore pressure from anyone else. Should I email my son and have him explain to her my problem?I dont know what to do because he really doesnt understand it either >I am afraid why cant they see this? I would like to see how she would feel if she suffered with anxieties and someone was pressuring her.You cannot pressure someone who suffers with anxieties.I have been shaking ever since I hung up with her,she didn't have to be so rude and stop talking.Like I said I am afraid to call now I dont need her attitude.Just for once let someone be really scared like we are and see how they like it.Maybe I can just email my kids for now to see how she is.I cannot deal with this crap. I cant go out .I cannot help it that I am this way.It stinks I never asked for this.

 

[Concernedgal]

I hate it when people do that.
Just because they don' k ow how it feels to be in a car...shut in ..nowhere to go if you have a panic attack...they never had to feel the derealization and the pure fear for our lives. Nobody understands that it' not that we don' want to be out in the world because we do its just that **** happens when we go out and there' no way we can control it. At ho.e when we feel anxiety and panic ...we can get up ...walk around and Co troll it better. The car is my enemy and I can completely understand what you are going through. This life isn't ideal...but...it's the one we have been given and people need to be more understanding. They always take it personally like we are doing this on purpose.
Hello!!it's not about you.
We just simply can't do it..
I haven't been 15 miles from my house in 5 years.

 

[janemariesayed]

Why can't people seem to understand that I cannot go out especially in a car? Now I got my mothers nurse telling me I should come and see her I just got through telling her the other day I cannot because I am homebound i thought she understood that .Shoot now I have to worry about her now.She said come and you will see that nothing will happen to you.Well I cant go i just told don't I wish,she knows I have anxieties and am afraid to go out. She got mad and said goodbye look I certainly do not need her crap.I do love my mom why do they think i call her everyday?I mean I could be a lousy daughter like some people I know and not even bother with her after the way she abused me when I was younger and she still did at times even before she got sick.Now I am afraid to call there because I dont need this woman hounding me to come there,I am so sick and tired of having to explain myself to everyone .Nothing will happen to me oh ya the minute she even mentions coming there my anxieties sky rocket and she just made them worse.Now what am i suppose to do I am afraid to call there now. I just do not need anymore pressure from anyone else. Should I email my son and have him explain to her my problem?I dont know what to do because he really doesnt understand it either >I am afraid why cant they see this? I would like to see how she would feel if she suffered with anxieties and someone was pressuring her.You cannot pressure someone who suffers with anxieties.I have been shaking ever since I hung up with her,she didn't have to be so rude and stop talking.Like I said I am afraid to call now I dont need her attitude.Just for once let someone be really scared like we are and see how they like it.Maybe I can just email my kids for now to see how she is.I cannot deal with this crap. I cant go out .I cannot help it that I am this way.It stinks I never asked for this.

Make a complaint to the hospital she has come from. It is a shame that you suffer agoraphobia. she had no right to talk to you like that in such a patronising way.