When visitors won't leave

[John Snort]

I hate it when someone drops by unannounced and they want to talk. When I am in the middle of something and it's not some emergency I'll tell the visitor I'll see them later. If they want to hang around, that's fine. I remember in 2006, a relative who owed money loan sharks some money called and said he needed a place to stay for a week. He didn't leave for two months but I couldn't send him packing because I knew he was in trouble. At times annoying though it might be, you can let a visitor stay as long as they want.

 

[VanM]

Whether the visitor is a friend or an acquaintance, I try my best to maintain a positive attitude knowing the effort it took for them to visit someone like me who I'm sure they know isn't really fond of being visited at home. I try to treat them the way I would prefer to be treated so that when the inevitable comes and it's my turn to pay them a visit, I know that they would return the favor.

 

[111kg]

I don't really have a problem with people coming to my house, but what's really annoying is that most of them just want to hang out and waste time, and I really hate wasting time, especially nowadays when I am tight with money.


One friend asked to stay on my couch for 2 weeks and he only left after 3 months.

 

[DDNatureLover]

I had this happen with a friend before. She was in the throes of a bad breakup and decided on the spur of the moment to come for a visit. In the past, her visits were usually for a weekend, or a week at most, but since it was the Summer and she was a teacher, she ended up staying around 6 weeks. In the past, my circumstances were different, and I always had an excess of food and drinks in the house, and could afford to go out shopping, for coffee, etc., but even providing food and beverages for two was difficult, and it highlighted to me just how much my situation had changed. She was happy to pitch in once I explained the situation to her, because prior to me speaking up, she was oblivious. I think she was just so immersed in her break up that she wasn't picking up on cues she normally would have seen.

 

[Humphrey247]

This kind of behavior gets on my nerves. The more time I spend around people, the less I'm inclined to conversation so I usually set limits to my interactions. I've told most of my friends and they've been understanding. I also avoid getting work done at home. Rather, I go to the nearest library which makes it easier to avoid these situations.

 

[janemariesayed]

This is a difficult one. You would think that you could just say to an unexpected visitor, 'hello, yes I've got time for a quick cuppa but need to get on with something'. But I find guests don't listen and stay for as long as they choose. This leaves me feeling that I just want them to go, and my conversation drops as all I end up thinking is that I want them to leave.


I made a friend with a neighbour and he was keeping me up all night talking which I didn't want to do as I'm an early bird. I got out of all nighters' by telling him I turn into a pumpkin at midnight so I had to go to bed. It worked and now he only see's me until midnight and then leaves, or lets me go without a fuss.

 

[explorerX7]

Yes, people overstaying and encroaching on someone's important time is a universal problem. They may visit sometimes just to make a quick stop and eventually get comfortable and don't just want to stay a while. I don't see it as a big problem in getting them to leave because I could just tell them that I have somewhere important to leave to in a short while and that should be enough to get them going.

 

[SirJoe]

This is really and easy question for me because only my best friends are dropping by and they never bother me. They are not many and they are like my brothers and sisters. If they have no where to go I would just get another blanket and if they would start to bore me with talk I would say that to them and they would shut up. I mean' date=' they do not feel like guests in my house. As for the rest of so called friends I really don't have to worry about that because I clearly state who I consider a friend and acceptable in my home. I can be rude that way. I don't care and I really do not like to pretend just to be nice. If I like you I will listen to you and help you if not just walk away from my place.[/quote']
I think that is different, after all they are more like family then friends. Like you said it told them to keep quit they would but if needed you wouldn't have a problem with them spending the night, you normally don't do that to people that you barely know.