When Things Don't Go As Planned

[vegito12]

I have seen this happen to me quite a bit and it can be stressful especially when someone is late or does not turn up to an event or a place you planned to meet it can make me feel stressed out at times as my time and energy got used and the person is not there and you can feel a bit down as you may wonder if the time you took to get ready could of been used to do something productive, or going out on your own and doing something else. When a plan does not work out it can make you feel discouraged like if you don't pass something the first time like a driver licence and remember the written test took me 4 tries before I passed it and the driving one took me three times as it was kind of difficult to pass, as you had to do a lot of things and some may not be things you would do in your day to day driving which was annoying to do in the test. I try and have a backup plan when things don't work out or do something else so the mind is busy and not thinking of the past when things did not work out how I wanted it to and try and remove the negative feelings which are causing me to not move ahead in life and it can be a long journey and with others the problems can be halved and easy to move on.

 

[gracer]

vegito12 I can relate well with what you said regarding meeting up with someone who either comes late or doesn't show up at all. I think the most annoying situation I experienced related to that was when a friend of mine has been an hour late already then she suddenly texts me to tell me that she could no longer make it. I was thinking, I shouldn't have agreed to meet with her when she asked for us to meet. I could have done other things instead of waiting for nothing.

 

[liselle]

I found out that I have a Type A personality. I'm a natural worrier and I would plan things out more than an average person. I would get extremely nervous if things aren't planned out first before I do it. I don't understand how some people could be spontaneous and go with the flow because that frightens me. Less planning just means more chances for me to mess up.


When I make a plan, it fills up my entire day. If someone ask if I want to go eat, I'm not the person that just goes like sure, especially for people I'm not close with. I need some time to "prepare" myself for an event which is tedious and I sometimes hate myself for being so critical of everything

 

[amy88]

This is something I still struggle with, and still haven't really found a solution for myself. I find that a big part of keeping my anxiety under control is being able to control situations - for instance, something as simple as knowing exactly who will be at a gathering is something I can control. But if for some reason there are extra guests that I wasn't expecting to be there, it's like my anxiety just goes through the roof. It's tough because the fact of the matter is I know life is unpredictable, and I just have to learn to roll with it better...but I find that can be a whole lot easier said than done.

 

[hades_leae]

Over time, I have learned that this could happen every day if you make plans every day. I don't like it, and when things happened that messed up my plans, I got so pissed because I did not want the plans to go bad. I got over that because I told myself that I don't always want to be mad, much of ones time could be filled with bad emotions.


I don't want to be filled with bad emotions because I like to be happy. I accept when something doesn't go my way now, I just find something else to do. I know that there will always be a possibility that something can go wrong, so it's no surprise now when they do. Controlling your emotions can be hard sometimes, but it can be mastered over time with practice.