When A Good Friend Dies

[Sweed1]

Over this past weekend one of my best friend's died. It was a freak accident that happened out of the blue. One minute he was fine and the next minute he had fallen and hit his head on rock. I am still in shock. I am depressed and sad, lost and confused by it all. His family does not know why he fell, as in was he dizzy or ?? so many unanswered questions.
I have strong faith that I will see him again some day but even in that I am sad cause he was such a wonderful man.
So has this happened to you and how did you break this cycle of depression and sadness?

Please add comments below I could really use some guidance.

 

[Rinka]

Hi @Sweed1 I'm so sorry that this happened.
I have not myself gone though this, but wanted to let you know that you are not alone. We are here for you.
You seem to be still in shock, which is understandable under the circumstances. You need to take your time with your bereavement, it will be hard but you can do it. The pain might not go away forever, but it will ease and with time you will make your peace.

 

[janemariesayed]

Oh! @Sweed1 I am so sorry to hear about your loss. What a sad and tragic accident.

About twenty years ago my best friend in the whole world committed suicide. I even had a dream about her the night that she did it. I saw her in my dream, her blonde hair was falling around her face with a red square surrounding and she couldn't get air. She was moving her head from side to side gasping for air.

I had a phone call from her Dad later that day. She had committed suicide in her red car with a hose to the exhaust. So I actually saw her doing it in my dream, maybe even at the time she did it.

It took me a good year and a half to stop crying over her death. I missed her terribly and still do. It does get easier with time. My advice is if you are feeling like bawling your eyes out, then let the tears flow. Cuddle a dog or a teddy bear when you are feeling low, and cry if any tears come.

There are some agencies that can help with bereavement. I am not sure where you are in the world but if you google bereavement help you should be able to find some help. They will see you for a couple of months and give you coping techniques as well as give you an understanding ear.

You can always find an understanding ear here too. You aren't on your own with this, we are all here to listen.