What kind of life is this?

[Concernedgal]

I don't expect to be happy and giddy all the time but, never? Sure I havr my almost normal days but, I rarely go 1 day without having some type of anxiety type symptoms. Sometimes I feel like taking my own life would be such a easy way to end the suffering but, as it has been mentioned to me before, suicide is a temporary solution to a long term problem. When I do finally get the courage to seek help, I don't want to except it because the solution the offer is an ssri. I hate ssri. I express this to my doctor and all they say is (not all ssri are created equal ). I can't afford a therapist. The place I go to doesn't provide 1. You guys have helped me alot throughout these months and I wouldn't have been able to get through alot of the things I have without you guys . It helps to talk to those that has experienced what I have, someone who knows how it is. I don't see the point of living anymore sometimes. I pretty much hate my life. My latest problem is my refusal to take these medications they want me to. So my choices are. Stay the way iam now?. Or, . Risk the terrible side effects. My doctor tell me that if I don't take the medication then he can't help me and to not to bother coming back. He says he's tired of making suggestions and recommendations, when I refuse to follow them. They don't understand that it's hard to trust and that when it comes to my body, I don't want to do any harm to my body or risk intensifying my anxiety symptoms with no benefit. Has anyone here ever taken paxil and had success with it? Do I have anything to worry about? I know you guys have shared advice with me about this before but, i'm just so tortured with this decision. Anyway.. thanks for letting me vent.

 

[janemariesayed]

I see you remember the poem that I posted @Concernedgal Suicide, a permanent solution to a temporary problem? Truly the problem, any problem, is temporary. As time moves on, problems change and are overcome. We have to be strong. Push and push and my true honest belief is that therapy works. By hook or by crook, go and get therapy. Change your Doctor if you are not happy with him. You do have that right, where ever it is that you live, there are other doctors. If you are not happy with your meds, then there are loads more you can try. I suggest changing your Doctor because his reaction to you seems to be quite unprofessional.

 

[Concernedgal]

I don't know if it's a mental health professional job or not, but, this doctor seems to show no emotion when I talk to him. It's like he'd a robot or something. I don't like that. What supplements di you say we're good for anxiety and mood?

 

[janemariesayed]

When I remember, I take St. Johns Wort. It's a gentle mood lifter and as it is a herb, with zero chemicals, it is harmless. The other one is Ginkgo Biloba. It is really good for memory loss, but I read somewhere that it is also great for depression. Again, it is a natural drug which you should be able to find easily enough at your local herbal store. Like Holland and Barratt, or you could probably find them online.

I don't much like the sound of your Doctor! My own Doc, is a bit of a robot too, but I think differently about it. I understand that he is pretty busy, and a friend told me that he doesn't have time for tears. They advised me to just be completely straight with him, so I was. I told him a quick A - Z of my problems and said I wanted help. It was obvious to him that I wasn't expecting him to give me councelling but that it is him alone that can help me to get it. I'm lucky that he is a good doctor, he understands without having to spend heaps of time on me. Perhaps don't expect your Doctor to show you emotion, remember he must remain detached as part of his profession. He cannot afford to get, be, or show emotions. He has to remain strong to be able to deal with the numerous cases that he has to deal with in any one day. Doctors and nurses are trained I am sure to be able to detach themselves from the problems of their patients.

Considering this, you can go back to him and tell him about your pills. As he seemed to have been a bit blarzay and rude to you before, I would change him. You have that right.

 

[Concernedgal]

He won't listen to me either. I tell him I hate ssri and he still prescribes them. He's wasting his time when he does this. Because I simply refuse to take those evil chemicals.

 

[Zeesi]

I don't know if it's a mental health professional job or not, but, this doctor seems to show no emotion when I talk to him. It's like he'd a robot or something. I don't like that. What supplements di you say we're good for anxiety and mood?

Certain people in general just get on my nerves, whether they are doctors, cashiers at a fast food place, people standing in line at a check out in a store. That's terrible, I know. Not just random people though, but people who give me a reason to feel that way, like your doctor here.

Sometimes people get on such ego trips, it's beyond incredible, and this doctor certainly seems to be on an ego trip. How rude of him to tell you not to bother coming back, did he actually say that?

To be fair though, since the doctor sees hundred of people every week, who probably give him all kinds of trouble, I can empathize with the doctor's feelings of being tired of making suggestions that you (or anyone for that matter) refuse to follow, however... it is not your fault that he has to see hundreds of patients every day who might be giving him a hard time. As a doctor, it is his job to listen to you and at least try to understand your concerns and apprehensions. That's why he gets paid the big bucks.

 

[Alex]

There are other ways to find therapy, online or are you prepared to travel? Depending on your area there are charities that can offer therapy too, but I am aware that it depends on where you live.

I know it's hard in that you have to look for help, but you can also 'help' yourself' by looking for help and not dismissing things. I tried to help a friend who lived in Connecticut and each time I suggested something she came up with an excuse/reason, that she tried it or she didn't want to go to a place where she may know someone. I feel that sometimes you need to put things to one side and be brave and try something. The doctor probably doesn't have much else he can offer except meds, so perhaps ask for a referral?