What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger?

[MainerMikeBrown]

Their's that old saying that states what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

I don't think that's always the case. I believe that some experiences in life don't kill you but don't necessarily make you stronger either.

Yet at the same time, I do think that their's a lot of truth to it. Many things in life that doesn't kill you really does make you stronger, I believe.

What do you think about that classic saying? Do you believe it or not?

Discuss.

 

[FinneousRex]

I agree and disagree. Somethings, such as trauma, does affect your life negatively for the rest of your life (for the most part). But I do believe that these situations can make you think differently, learn and adapt more in some ways, but leave you broken in others. So it’s more like a balanced outcome versus a stronger or weaker standpoint.

I don’t believe that they’re are stronger and weaker people in the world, I think people are balanced in their own ways. I just feel that some attributes are looked upon as more acceptable and validated more regularly, which is why some people are held on a pedestal, but in reality we are all of a similar make up, just our strong and weak percentages are divided differently. Kind of like everyone is a cookie. Not all cookies are made the same. Some you love and some you hate. Just about balance so that the cookie is cooked right.

Not sure if any of that makes sense, I just feel like that saying is just a generalized statement over a very complex subject.



Also — I posted my first thread today in the anxiety forum, I’d appreciate if someone could take a look. Thank you

 

[Joe diesel 09]

I've heard that my whole life. That doesn't apply to 44 magnums! They kill you. Lol. Just a little gun enthusiast humor. I don't think my anxiety has made me stronger. Not at all. On and off for since I was about 24-25 yrs old. It's constantly evolving. It keeps me on my toes but always one step ahead of me. It's like 1 step forward and 2 steps back most of the time. I have good days. Not good weeks. I'll never have that many days in a row. But what it has done, was gave me the experiences to cope. And to help others cope. People just diagnosed or seeing someone whom I may not even know in a store or somewhere and recognize the signs that they are struggling. And often times, a few kind words or some advice may really help them out of that anxiousness and I find it helps me too by helping them. I see them smile, or see their mind ease a bit instantly makes me feel better too. My job is a lot of my problem. And im gonna have to do something about that. Soon. I still love fixin big engines And stuff but the stress of it all has just gotten way too much. Im 46 yrs old. I've made a very decent living but I've made zero preparations for old age. None! I was young, knew I had kids to raise, I paid taxes but never really thought about social security. I figured, I still had time. Well here we are. That is on my mind daily and im sure accounts for a lot of my anxiety. Some stress is good for us. But too much is just bad. And as we age, we need to think about keeping it minimal. Also we need to work to live, but not live to work. Simply put, work isnt all there is to life. Sure we have to do it to survive, but there are other equally important aspects of life too than many people like myself put on the back burner to keep the customers with the broke down rigs or farm equipment happy. Guess what? The truth is, if I die or give it up and quit, they gonna go somewhere else. They don't necessarily need me. I'm glad they have chose me all these years but honestly, I've let it rule my life. That will no longer be an issue. It ruined my first marriage of 24 yrs. Yeah she cheated but so what! Had I came home early, or went and did things with her or whatever instead of climb in around onnrigs day and nite, would she have cheated? Had I focused on her a little more, instead of a truck, maybe things would have turned out different. I knew I had babies to raise so I turned away no work and busted ass to complete it properly and quickly. And it pd off In a way. I have people bringin things to my shop from miles around. Even other states on occasion. Im proud of that I guess. But it had a price. Now im remarried to an amazing little lady I've known many years. Beautiful inside and out. Helps me tremendously. But over the last 2 yrs I see a pattern returning with the work thing. And ive got to stop it. I believe it will help my anxiety too. God bless you all. Sorry for the long post.