What’s bothering you right now?

[naustin]

I completely understand. We recently moved this past weekend into a new home on land for our horses. The anxiety prior to the horses moving was so bad I threw up thinking up every worse case scenario. They had been in a same place for 7 years and I was terrified something would go wrong. They moved fine and have settled in fine. I am still panicking and think I have triggered something. I should be over the moon about this move and sadly I am an anxious wreck. I had my anxiety fairly under control for a while and I feel as its been triggered. I hope yours gets better with time. I downloaded the audio book"Dont feed the monkey mind" today with hopes of bringing it down to a point I can enjoy all the new changes instead of freaking out internally.

 

[Shonenboy123]

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) You guys should check this out, it'll change your perspective on Anxiety.

 

[MuggleStruggle]

Job hunting.
My partner and I moved to a new city a month ago, and he already had a job here. I've been sitting at home sending out resumes every day, but I'm very limited because working makes me SO anxious. Also dropped out of school because of anxiety, so yeah I only have a few options. I'm very picky.
Sometimes an employer will call me back, but I won't pick up, because I've been thinking about it too long and decided I don't really wanna work there anymore.

So now I'm struggling to make ends meet, struggling to find a job and struggling with my health anxiety / physical anxiety/nightmares and feeling "doomed " and depressed all the time.

 

[Shonenboy123]

Job hunting.
My partner and I moved to a new city a month ago, and he already had a job here. I've been sitting at home sending out resumes every day, but I'm very limited because working makes me SO anxious. Also dropped out of school because of anxiety, so yeah I only have a few options. I'm very picky.
Sometimes an employer will call me back, but I won't pick up, because I've been thinking about it too long and decided I don't really wanna work there anymore.

So now I'm struggling to make ends meet, struggling to find a job and struggling with my health anxiety / physical anxiety/nightmares and feeling "doomed " and depressed all the time.

 

[Shonenboy123]

I know things look bleak MuggleStruggle, but you have to see the Light at the end of the tunnel and hold on to it, no matter what don't lose sight of it. Keep your eye on the way out of your miserable anxiety, if there aren't any doors to get out, go make one.

 

[Catzluvr123]

Going thru a divorce and getting out of a bad situation. My soon to be ex cheated on me online with an untold number of women and he got involved in a scam where he sent about 30,000. He became involved in their activity by being a mule. He was getting packages with other people’s names but our address. He was investigated by the police. My son and I moved out in June. He took pictures of my moving truck and would go and text the pictures to his “friends”like he was so happy that we were moving out. I am getting counseling and meds from a local mental health clinic. I almost had a mental breakdown. Anyway I am trying to get thru this day to day.

 

[Shonenboy123]

Going thru a divorce and getting out of a bad situation. My soon to be ex cheated on me online with an untold number of women and he got involved in a scam where he sent about 30,000. He became involved in their activity by being a mule. He was getting packages with other people’s names but our address. He was investigated by the police. My son and I moved out in June. He took pictures of my moving truck and would go and text the pictures to his “friends”like he was so happy that we were moving out. I am getting counseling and meds from a local mental health clinic. I almost had a mental breakdown. Anyway I am trying to get thru this day to day.

 

[Shonenboy123]

Catzluvr123, I want you to take a deep breath 3 times. It may not seem like much but It's helping you recover from your Anxiety, what Anxiety, it's gone. lol. Anyway you have to remember that everybody is human, that there are some things...That are out of our control, what I'm referring to is our thoughts, whether it be good or bad. Just let them flow through you, surely you'll get the shivers, but that's your body reacting to the thought process in your head. As for your current situation which is the cause of your mental breakdown, it's only an obstacle for you to overcome. One that will lead you on the path to happiness, but you don't give up...Things may seem like an endless abyss and that's ok...As long as you don't give up on yourself or your son. Ok. DON'T GIVE UP! As for your situation, maybe this was suppose to happen, but I know one thing's for sure, we're all moving at the Universe's pace and flow. It's Energy, it's Frequency.

 

[PeggyJoan]

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) You guys should check this out, it'll change your perspective on Anxiety.

Shonenboy, this video is great! I quickly typed his main points: (do you know who this is?)
Our thoughts are very powerful:

Whatever you focus on grows: you can change your brain by what you focus on.. We carry thoughts all the time and most are unnecessary baggage. Negative thoughts create overthinking which creates anxiety.

Perspective - the higher you go, the smaller you look. we are dots on this planet. Put things in perspective.......we are pretty damn lucky. We have a lot to be thankful for. The more thankful we are, the less overthinking we do.

Chronic overthinkers are often deficient in magnesium. Avoid stimulants. Eat healthy.

Surround yourself with people who don't overthink. nervous people cause us to overthink.

Become present. Don't get caught up in the past or future. Meditate helps overthinking and helps you to sleep. You already have everything you need. Slow down. Rushing invariably causes us to overthink.

Total body awareness - we are out of touch with who we are. Try yoga, walking, whatever helps us 'lose our mind and come to our senses'. Anxiety lessens dramatically. Become aware of breath and senses.

We really don't have control over our lives the way we think. Our stress comes from attempt to control our persona, which is a mask.

Practice mindfulness mediation - teaches us to be in the here and now. Tune in to what you are seeing NOW.

Reflection time - allow yourself to overthink. Set a time to do this. You will be bored and realize it's a waste of time.

Surrender! The ego fights this and is the cause of overthinking. It's a control freak. Move into your heart space. Let go of need to win people over. Be kind to yourself. Don't care what others think of you.

Accept yourself 100%. Never compare yourself to others. We overthink when we don't love who we are.

Again, we are not in control. Instead of thinking what could go wrong, think what could go right. The Universe is working on our behalf.

 

[Shonenboy123]

Shonenboy, this video is great! I quickly typed his main points: (do you know who this is?)
Our thoughts are very powerful:

Whatever you focus on grows: you can change your brain by what you focus on.. We carry thoughts all the time and most are unnecessary baggage. Negative thoughts create overthinking which creates anxiety.

Perspective - the higher you go, the smaller you look. we are dots on this planet. Put things in perspective.......we are pretty damn lucky. We have a lot to be thankful for. The more thankful we are, the less overthinking we do.

Chronic overthinkers are often deficient in magnesium. Avoid stimulants. Eat healthy.

Surround yourself with people who don't overthink. nervous people cause us to overthink.

Become present. Don't get caught up in the past or future. Meditate helps overthinking and helps you to sleep. You already have everything you need. Slow down. Rushing invariably causes us to overthink.

Total body awareness - we are out of touch with who we are. Try yoga, walking, whatever helps us 'lose our mind and come to our senses'. Anxiety lessens dramatically. Become aware of breath and senses.

We really don't have control over our lives the way we think. Our stress comes from attempt to control our persona, which is a mask.

Practice mindfulness mediation - teaches us to be in the here and now. Tune in to what you are seeing NOW.

Reflection time - allow yourself to overthink. Set a time to do this. You will be bored and realize it's a waste of time.

Surrender! The ego fights this and is the cause of overthinking. It's a control freak. Move into your heart space. Let go of need to win people over. Be kind to yourself. Don't care what others think of you.

Accept yourself 100%. Never compare yourself to others. We overthink when we don't love who we are.

Again, we are not in control. Instead of thinking what could go wrong, think what could go right. The Universe is working on our behalf.

 

[Shonenboy123]

Yeah. Lol He's lifted the shadows from my eyes you know.

 

[Rinka]

Ahhh let’s rant a bit.

Gosh the last few weeks months have been a real strain on me. First my car accident I still think, that there was something fishy going on, especially since he said that we should just do it privately and not get the insurance involved. After I pushed for insurance he got quite aggressive and said he videoed me. Anyway now he is even claiming for injury, but well my insurance deals with it.

I started shortly after a new job. And that on its own is rather scary. The thing is with this job, that everyone seems to run around like headless chicken and then there is me starting new and needing to find my way. Great

So anyway I went on annual leave for a few days and on the first day I got the notice that my partner and I need to move out of the flat we are now living in. The whole A/L was lovely but draining and stressful so that when I came back from it, I had to take a sick day . On that day my new manager started and since then I have the feeling that she despises me.

Anyway moving forward, we found a flat , we actually will get the keys in 1.5 hours and are moving now, today ahhhhhhhh . So we have to get everything out, clean properly and then paint it white again. Boring old white. Our lovely “happy yellow” walls need to be white . Not to mention that when we moved in the decoration of the flat was kinda, well spotty. They just painted white over spots and left it like that, so that’s what we are going to do.

 

[PeggyJoan]

Ahhh let’s rant a bit.

Gosh the last few weeks months have been a real strain on me. First my car accident I still think, that there was something fishy going on, especially since he said that we should just do it privately and not get the insurance involved. After I pushed for insurance he got quite aggressive and said he videoed me. Anyway now he is even claiming for injury, but well my insurance deals with it.

I started shortly after a new job. And that on its own is rather scary. The thing is with this job, that everyone seems to run around like headless chicken and then there is me starting new and needing to find my way. Great

So anyway I went on annual leave for a few days and on the first day I got the notice that my partner and I need to move out of the flat we are now living in. The whole A/L was lovely but draining and stressful so that when I came back from it, I had to take a sick day . On that day my new manager started and since then I have the feeling that she despises me.

Anyway moving forward, we found a flat , we actually will get the keys in 1.5 hours and are moving now, today ahhhhhhhh . So we have to get everything out, clean properly and then paint it white again. Boring old white. Our lovely “happy yellow” walls need to be white . Not to mention that when we moved in the decoration of the flat was kinda, well spotty. They just painted white over spots and left it like that, so that’s what we are going to do.

So Rinka, a car accident with someone questionable, a crazy new job, moving, painting, and issues with a new manager - so what's the big deal?? Just kidding, you are in the middle of a perfect storm, but you will get through this! Be ever so kind and gentle with yourself, and know better days are ahead. Best wishes, Peggy

 

[Rinka]

Hi Peggy,
Thank you for your kind words!
It really does help to rant sometimes and let it all out.

How are you feeling?

 

[PeggyJoan]

Hi Peggy,
Thank you for your kind words!
It really does help to rant sometimes and let it all out.

How are you feeling?

Hello Rinka!

I agree - rants are good for us! Reading about others' problems lets me know I am not alone.

I am doing pretty well. Numerous posts have helped me a lot - particularly using alternative supplements (I also take Effexor). My anxiety is present but I am learning new ways of seeing it, such as observing, now self-identifying with it, telling my self I am okay and safe, and knowing that I am not alone.

Sleeping is a problem, but I just tell myself when I can't sleep that at least I am resting. I take magnesium, CBD oil, and melatonin at night, and they really seem to be helping.

Hope you are having a better day,
Peggy

 

[JCP]

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) You guys should check this out, it'll change your perspective on Anxiety.

Very useful video, thank you!

 

[Hurt&Hopeful]

Ahhh let’s rant a bit.

Gosh the last few weeks months have been a real strain on me. First my car accident I still think, that there was something fishy going on, especially since he said that we should just do it privately and not get the insurance involved. After I pushed for insurance he got quite aggressive and said he videoed me. Anyway now he is even claiming for injury, but well my insurance deals with it.

I started shortly after a new job. And that on its own is rather scary. The thing is with this job, that everyone seems to run around like headless chicken and then there is me starting new and needing to find my way. Great

So anyway I went on annual leave for a few days and on the first day I got the notice that my partner and I need to move out of the flat we are now living in. The whole A/L was lovely but draining and stressful so that when I came back from it, I had to take a sick day . On that day my new manager started and since then I have the feeling that she despises me.

Anyway moving forward, we found a flat , we actually will get the keys in 1.5 hours and are moving now, today ahhhhhhhh . So we have to get everything out, clean properly and then paint it white again. Boring old white. Our lovely “happy yellow” walls need to be white . Not to mention that when we moved in the decoration of the flat was kinda, well spotty. They just painted white over spots and left it like that, so that’s what we are going to do.

Oh goodness, that sounds like a LOT going on! Any person would be anxious in all that, whether they normally struggle with anxiety or not. It sounds like you're doing a great job of navigating it all - kudos! Don't forget to take care of yourself in the process...

 

[Hurt&Hopeful]

Hello Rinka!

I agree - rants are good for us! Reading about others' problems lets me know I am not alone.

I am doing pretty well. Numerous posts have helped me a lot - particularly using alternative supplements (I also take Effexor). My anxiety is present but I am learning new ways of seeing it, such as observing, now self-identifying with it, telling my self I am okay and safe, and knowing that I am not alone.

Sleeping is a problem, but I just tell myself when I can't sleep that at least I am resting. I take magnesium, CBD oil, and melatonin at night, and they really seem to be helping.

Hope you are having a better day,
Peggy

This sounds so positive and hopeful, Peggy! I really hope you find a good sleep answer soon...

 

[PeggyJoan]

This sounds so positive and hopeful, Peggy! I really hope you find a good sleep answer soon...

This sounds so positive and hopeful, Peggy! I really hope you find a good sleep answer soon...

This sounds so positive and hopeful, Peggy! I really hope you find a good sleep answer soon...

Adrienne, thanks so much! I am working on my perception. This is really true: "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Framing what happens to me in a positive and hopeful way does seem to reduce my anxiety. I am not consistent, but I am determined.
Thinking of you and your new care plan! Peggy

 

[Hurt&Hopeful]

Adrienne, thanks so much! I am working on my perception. This is really true: "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Framing what happens to me in a positive and hopeful way does seem to reduce my anxiety. I am not consistent, but I am determined.
Thinking of you and your new care plan! Peggy

I LOVE the term "framing." And yes, our outlook definitely affects the outcome. It's not ALL of it, of course, but it helps us not get carried away into the negative. Thanks for sharing so much - I have been learning a lot here...