Were you ever bullied when you were younger?

Jemina · Jul 6, 2016

I was bullied in school, from reception until I left school. It wasn't as bad for me in college at least, but I was bullied throughout school and didn't have a particularly good home life either which didn't help. I did have a few good friends outside of school at least though and they helped me to be a bit more confident than I would've been otherwise. Even now though I'm a lot more withdrawn than I think I would've been had the bullying not happened. It made it more difficult for me to interact with other people my age. Even now most of the friends I have are older than me because I don't feel comfortable with people my own age. I think it definitely can affect the way we are as adults.

amy88 · Jul 7, 2016

I was, in 7th-8th grade, those awkward transition kind of years. I guess to a degree it probably did impact my social anxiety - it made me not really want to be noticed, or loud, so I suppose that is kind of in line with my social anxiety now - I am happiest just being a wallflower and hate being the center of attention.

Alex · Jul 7, 2016

I was bullied most of my school life, and while it can make you stronger you can never forget that feeling of being rejected, an outsider, and wondering what did you do wrong, when it was probably nothing. I think it can have an affect on you, but I think that to be positive you can't let them affect you any longer.

When I see people being bullied something kicks in and I stand up for them regardless like a reflex action. I just wish someone had done that for me when I was younger.

shcoo · Jul 7, 2016

I was teased a little by kids in high school, but the worst was being bullied by teachers and staff in elementary and middle school. There were really weird nonsensical things and abuse going on. Head staff basically just hired their unqualified family members. Nepotism. They would lock kids in the dark in the library as a punishment instead of structured detention, and they called my friends' parents and told them not to talk to me for no reason. It gave me a lifelong distrust of authority and my panic attacks and anger issues are triggered more easily by people in positions of power than by peers now.

kelden · Jul 7, 2016

Contrary to the usual bullying perception that popular belief has. The bullying I experienced was receiving cold shoulder from the rest of my classmate, when they soon or later realize I was not up to do anything but avoid others, I was purporsely ignored for everything. I got a group of study partners but they didn't respect me and also were not my friends either. My school years sucked big time.

joshposh · Jul 7, 2016

I was bullied everyday of my life. My brother was my greatest enemy as I could not get away from him. He is the reason why I am so sheltered and social unable to cope at times. He pretty much created the self doubt and insecurities that I suffered from in my early age. I wan't until the moved out and away is where I started being more independent.

ineedmystrength · Jul 11, 2016

I was constantly bullied. When I was in 2nd grade, it was because my best friend was a boy...the girls in my class literally beat me up for it. Then 7th -12th grade happened; that was a constant stream of negative comments, gossiping behind my back, and public humiliation. My school was small to begin with (63 kids in the whole high school, 80 kids in 1st-8th grade), so rumors spread like wildfire and the cliques were set in stone. Add to the mix the fact that I have a debilitating autoimmune disease that left me hospitalized for long periods at that time, and I became the "perfect" target. I suffer from night terrors, panic attacks, and overwhelming fear of being in groups as a result.

rz3300 · Jul 12, 2016

Well to be honest I had a little trouble remembering back to my school days and finding times when I was bullied. I think that means that I really was not, for one, but also that my memories are pretty bad because I know that I had a rough time, so there has to be something there. I think that I was always so quiet that nobody really made a point to publicly bully me, but I was made fun of certainly. I did have a good group of friends, though, which always makes things easier.

WorkAtHomeGal · Jul 12, 2016

In elementary school well my first school I was not bullied but made fun of a few times. When we moved after my father was in jail the new school was awful. I was bullied and beaten up I was 11 then. Pretty bad and sad. I was to scared to defend myself so I ran home covered in mud crying. I remember our drunk neighbor drinking with my mom in the porch and calling me a coward for not fighting back. High school was worse in the sense of just constant rudeness and people being very mean to me for no reason. I was made fun of a lot for how I looked, my developing breast at the time and later some family stuff that many people found out about. I never was picked in gym I was always just the last walking to my group. And projects, I never had a partner the teacher would have to pair me with groups. A lot of what happened then has really messed me up as an adult. Sometimes I won't leave the house for fear of the outside world and what they think of me. And I often have a lot of self hate and self loathing because of those days too.

mariaanca · Jul 12, 2016

I was not bullied but I was left aside when it came to different activities, and that affected me. I do remember I was an active happy child when I was younger, but after a series of social negative events I became more private, solitary, never revealing too many things to my friends. And this is a problem that I have until this day at 28.

I always avoid to many encounters during the day. I would love to be involved in social activities but this is going to be at a slow rhythm.

Bea · Jul 12, 2016

Not to my face - but I knew people gossiped about me behind my back. I was the awkward kid in school. I moved countries in high school and had to speak a language that wasn't my native tongue, and that made people interested in me. The bullies talked about my awkward English (which I thankfully got rid of after a few months), my unfashionable clothes, my short stature. I had a classmate who once looked at me in the face and exclaimed, "WOAH YOUR EYES ARE SO BLACK!" As if it were a bad thing. Since then, I've been incredibly conscious of how I carry myself, of what I wear, of how I speak. I've been more paranoid about how people see me outwardly.

greeken · Jul 13, 2016

I think I was, but I never really paid attention to it. My mom says I had a lot of kids and people tease me and she felt so sad about it, but I can't remember having that many occurrences.

Androlo · Jul 13, 2016

Were you ever bullied when you were younger? If yes, do you think this may have started your social anxiety?
I was bullied when I was in primary school (in year 6). I am not sure if it had any long term effects on me but it might have. Since then I've always been looking for ways to improve my confidence.

Yes, I was. I went to a very small Primary school which only had two teachers, one of them being the head mistress. It was her who bullied me and there was nothing I could do about it. I definitely think that it had an effect on my social anxiety and the way I dealt with other people. I did then also get bullied a bit later on in comp but only for the first year or two.

kgord · Jul 13, 2016

Not really no. I think I just inherited any social anxiety I had. I had some problems stemming from an incident that happened in school when I was in 6th grade, that kind of ruined my reputation with some kids, but I was likable and not really a target for bullies that much. Even so, I think it colored some of the ways I felt about myself as a social being. Sometimes it just does, and there is not much you can do about it.

Androlo · Jul 14, 2016

The schools that I went to when I was younger were always quite strict. They would teach us that you were not to speak unless spoken to first. That applied even outside of school. Many of us were too scared to talk to anyone, especially strangers, and then people would accuse us of being ignorant. The way we were brought up in those schools was quite narcissistic. I think a lot of that rubbed off on some of the children who went on to become bullies in comprehensive school. Inevitable really, I suppose. The worst thing about it is that it was the teachers who were the bullies who initially started it all.

cecejailer · Jul 14, 2016

Yes but I don't think it was that bad, just normal high school bullpoop. I think it traumatized me to an extent because that's when I first started talking about killing myself, feeling anxious and depressed. There was this time a girl went to a masturbation article and made a terribly embarrassing comment using my name. My mother called her mother (I was grounded the day she posted it, my computer was with my mom) and she ended up coming to my house to apologize, and the next day she had to stand in front of the whole class to say it was her who wrote it. It was a really sad but funny situation.

GrecianShamrock · Jul 15, 2016

I was in elementary school and in junior high. I used to cry every night and ate way too much (didn't help that my grandmother felt the whole 'food is love' The years of high school are hazy because that's when I first developed my neuro condition and my dad passed away. It was hell and I tried to stay positive but I told a counselor in 8th grade I wanted to kill myself because I couldn't take the hazing. It hurt my mother more than anyone and that's when I knew I needed help dealing with it all

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