Unhappy, discouraged

[Hopeful22]

Hi,

I’ll start off by saying I hate my job. For the past month I have been job searching with no luck. I’ve had two interviews so far however, my anxiety always gets so bad to the point where I screw up. I’m currently at work feeling so miserable. I have a lot of days where I have to walk to my car for a few minutes to just cry. I can’t quit because I have bills to pay. However I don’t know how much longer I can continue to work here. I feel so discouraged about screwing up during every interview. I don’t know what to do. I wish I had more confidence

 

[RobbyH]

have you considered seeigna doctor and getting soemthing for your anxiety? Anxiety is something that is VERy difficult to treat by yourself

 

[triceps]

Hi Hopeful. There's a couple of ways to attacks jobs that you hate. You can continue to be miserable and build up all kinds of resentments which in turn places more pressure on new job interviews. Or, you can change your attitude to being thankful you've got even a bad job, doing your best at it knowing that it is not your last job. Just try to make the best of it, despite all of the problems (which you try to sluff off, pay as little attention to the them knowing they're temporary in the long run) and be proud of still doing your best at a job you hate. It really will make getting the next job easier.

 

[Hopeful22]

have you considered seeigna doctor and getting soemthing for your anxiety? Anxiety is something that is VERy difficult to treat by yourself

Hi Robby. I have thought about seeing a doctor, but for a long time I kept telling myself that I can deal with it alone. But I will consider seeing a doctor soon because anxiety sucks

 

[RobbyH]

I have struggled with health anxiety for most of my adult life. I finally broke down and got some help from doctor in terms of meds - made a world of difference

 

[Hopeful22]

Hi Hopeful. There's a couple of ways to attacks jobs that you hate. You can continue to be miserable and build up all kinds of resentments which in turn places more pressure on new job interviews. Or, you can change your attitude to being thankful you've got even a bad job, doing your best at it knowing that it is not your last job. Just try to make the best of it, despite all of the problems (which you try to sluff off, pay as little attention to the them knowing they're temporary in the long run) and be proud of still doing your best at a job you hate. It really will make getting the next job easier.

Hi. This is very true. I never thought about it like that. Of course it’s way easier said than done but I will try my best to make the best out of it for now.

 

[Brad66]

I was in the same situation 2 years ago. I ended up just walking out of the job.

What exactly do you hate about your job?

 

[Howlingvapor]

Hi Robby. I have thought about seeing a doctor, but for a long time I kept telling myself that I can deal with it alone. But I will consider seeing a doctor soon because anxiety sucks

Try therapy as well, medication can help, but it’s important to also learn to build up personal HEALTHY coping mechanisms with a licensed professional. Sometimes just being able to talk through your issues and organize your thoughts is all it takes to make a world of difference. That being said I encourage you to seek medication as well, because just as anxiety effects us all differently it is also remedied by everyone differently. I would try both, however as someone that has experienced being on medication for ADD since the 2nd grade I can tell you that medications aren’t always long term solutions and can lead to a dependence on them. My medication is very different from anxiety medications granted. But still, I relied on medication as my only means of coping with my ADD and had to learn the life skills needed to cope with it as an adult when the medication was no longer as potent for me. I’m now addicted to them and when I don’t take them I go through withdrawals.

I would look up the side effects for whatever you are prescribed as well as what others have experienced taking them. I’m not saying don’t seek medical help, but I am saying make sure that whatever you’re taking is safe and effective and ask your doctor plenty of questions. Like I said everyone experiences these drugs differently. Some find them to be useful tools, but others have a neutral or even negative experience. So do what’s best for you, you’re the only person that knows what works for you and what doesn’t.

So try some therapy and meditation, learn to empty your mind and find peace during stressful times and situations. Will it always work? I can’t guarantee that, but if nothing else it’ll be a valuable tool in your wheelhouse. I hope this helps.


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[Hopeful22]

I was in the same situation 2 years ago. I ended up just walking out of the job.

What exactly do you hate about your job?

I really feel like I’m on the verge of walking out, but I’m trying to hang in there. There’s a lot of gossip going on everyday, a lot of unfair treatment, favoritism, etc. I’m just over it. The only reason I haven’t walked out yet is b/c I need the money.

 

[Brad66]

I really feel like I’m on the verge of walking out, but I’m trying to hang in there. There’s a lot of gossip going on everyday, a lot of unfair treatment, favoritism, etc. I’m just over it. The only reason I haven’t walked out yet is b/c I need the money.

I was in about the same situation but I also had the added stress of just having moved to a new area and have no friends or family around. I would cry almost everyday on my way home.

My boss was a jerk and both the workers in my department were so negative all the time.

Eventually I walked out and a few weeks later I had a much better job.

 

[Steeplechaser915]

Hey Hopeful - Hang in there! I'd encourage you to keep submitting job applications and try and analyze each interview afterwords in terms of what worked/didn't work. I'd also try and apply to companies where you may have an in (i.e. you know someone who works there or went to the same school as they did). That's a huge reason why I got the job I have today in spite of my anxiety.

 

[RobbyH]

There is nothing worse than having a job you hate but unfortuantely it happens from time to time. Once I had a job I loved but a boss i couldn't stand and it made it miserable. Fortunately i was able to get another job very quickly and found something else to do with a great boss. hang in there - it will eventually get better or at least hang in there long enough to find another job. As a person who hires a bunch of folks I can tell you, you will do much better finding a job if you are currently employeed than if you aren't