Trying to seek help.

[anxiousseagull]

Hello all.

Im a new member to this forum so forgive me if ive posted in the wrong place or something. For a while now i have been trying to get some help to deal with my anxiety problem, it is getting to the point where i cant talk to anyone with out sweat dripping off me or i just cant talk properly. I really would like to get driving lessons so i can get mobile and go to places like the seaside again which i havn't done for about 20 years its actualy not to far away between 90 and 100 mile away. I had a driving lesson a few months ago and it didn't go well while taking the lesson my anxiety kicked in and i started to sweat and shake i was making mistake after mistake i couldn't concentrate and it just went wrong. When it finaly finished i came back home and had to get changed and then got into bed for about 2 - 3 hours just to calm my nerves, i felt so depressed . I have been to see the doctor about my problem 3 times and each time all hes said to me is get more exercise and go out in public and just gives me a paper to these healthy minds group meetings. I have always been a shy person and have always been a loner due to excessive bullying at school and other reasons, and going out in public is part of the problem. Ive even seen a specialist ive seen in the past due to some blood problems, she even said i could take something for my anxiety to control it and even wrote a note to my doctor but again he either hasn't read the note or hes not interested and hasn't helped me and just said the usual. I have tried many off the shelf remedies like Kalms, Rescue Remedy drops and pastilles and other off the shelf herbal remedies but knon of these have helped. Its as though know one wants to help me and im just banging my head at a brick wall, i dont want to go to group meetings i just want something that will calm my anxiety and nerves that is all. Only thing i can think of is going to see a different doctor for a different opinion or if anyone on the forum has had a similar experince and can offer some helpfull advice then it would be gratefully welcome.

 

[Concernedgal]

The doctor you are seeing sucks.. definitely go to another doctor. If a doctor will ignore your symptoms. .. then ditch them. You deserve better than what you are getting. Although we have all experienced this.... a doctor that just doesn't get it. They think that it'sjust all in our heads and we should just get over it but, it not... we have real physical symptoms from this crap. You have social anxiety disorder and that requires better treatment than ( exercise more and get out) wtf is that about. Although that's some if the thing's that should be done... there's more to it. You will need a psychologist to help you sort things out. If you don't feel comfortable with your doctor... change them. You should find someone who cares and has understanding of what you go through. This isn't cool. You should change doctors. Welcome to the forum.

 

[anxiousseagull]

The doctor you are seeing sucks.. definitely go to another doctor. If a doctor will ignore your symptoms. .. then ditch them. You deserve better than what you are getting. Although we have all experienced this.... a doctor that just doesn't get it. They think that it'sjust all in our heads and we should just get over it but, it not... we have real physical symptoms from this crap. You have social anxiety disorder and that requires better treatment than ( exercise more and get out) wtf is that about. Although that's some if the thing's that should be done... there's more to it. You will need a psychologist to help you sort things out. If you don't feel comfortable with your doctor... change them. You should find someone who cares and has understanding of what you go through. This isn't cool. You should change doctors. Welcome to the forum.

Thank You for the welcome, admittedly exercise is something i do need a bit more of. I do have a allotment which needs some work but for other reasons to do with home improvements which are still on going i havn't had much chance to do so. I live with my my older brother and parence so getting on with them isn't a problem its just getting out and talking to other people but because of my troubeled passed i find it difficult to say the least. Ive always have had this issue over the years but always managed to put a brave face on about it until recently. Unfortunately its not so easy and its become more and more of a noticeble problem, my brother has a similar problem himself with anxiety but hes never really hidden it much. Anyway yes i am seriously considering getting a second opinion and wont stop seeking help until i finaly get some help.

 

[Concernedgal]

It's always a good idea to seek another opinion.

 

[janemariesayed]

Hello all.

Im a new member to this forum so forgive me if ive posted in the wrong place or something. For a while now i have been trying to get some help to deal with my anxiety problem, it is getting to the point where i cant talk to anyone with out sweat dripping off me or i just cant talk properly. I really would like to get driving lessons so i can get mobile and go to places like the seaside again which i havn't done for about 20 years its actualy not to far away between 90 and 100 mile away. I had a driving lesson a few months ago and it didn't go well while taking the lesson my anxiety kicked in and i started to sweat and shake i was making mistake after mistake i couldn't concentrate and it just went wrong. When it finaly finished i came back home and had to get changed and then got into bed for about 2 - 3 hours just to calm my nerves, i felt so depressed . I have been to see the doctor about my problem 3 times and each time all hes said to me is get more exercise and go out in public and just gives me a paper to these healthy minds group meetings. I have always been a shy person and have always been a loner due to excessive bullying at school and other reasons, and going out in public is part of the problem. Ive even seen a specialist ive seen in the past due to some blood problems, she even said i could take something for my anxiety to control it and even wrote a note to my doctor but again he either hasn't read the note or hes not interested and hasn't helped me and just said the usual. I have tried many off the shelf remedies like Kalms, Rescue Remedy drops and pastilles and other off the shelf herbal remedies but knon of these have helped. Its as though know one wants to help me and im just banging my head at a brick wall, i dont want to go to group meetings i just want something that will calm my anxiety and nerves that is all. Only thing i can think of is going to see a different doctor for a different opinion or if anyone on the forum has had a similar experince and can offer some helpfull advice then it would be gratefully welcome.

Getting out to your allotment is a great idea to help you overcome your anxieties a little. If not just to get you some fresh air which will give you the feel-good factor for a while. I think you need to change your doctor and see if you can get some medication. Once you have sorted that out, you may find yourself more capable of having driving lessons again.

 

[anxiousseagull]

Just as a quick update i went to see a different doctor for a second opinion and she was alot more helpfull and prescribed me propranolol 40mg. I havn't tried them just yet but i will no doubt require them soon, so i hope they work im feeling a little more positive about that. Thank you all for your kind words of advice

 

[Concernedgal]

Anytime. I wish you the best of luck with this new medication.

 

[janemariesayed]

Just as a quick update i went to see a different doctor for a second opinion and she was alot more helpfull and prescribed me propranolol 40mg. I havn't tried them just yet but i will no doubt require them soon, so i hope they work im feeling a little more positive about that. Thank you all for your kind words of advice

You are so welcome. I'm glad you have some new medication and good luck with it, I hope it works for you.