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[imsotired]

hi guys,
Sharing my problems online are great, but lately I've been feeling it's not really the same as sharing them with people in real life where you have their physical presence.
my therapist said that when you are having bad moments, it's a call for a change in your life. Advice through a computer is great if you like it but I feel that advice is better if you actually hear it from the person.

I've also come to the realization that you can't help anyone without helping yourself first. it's like if are in a plane crash it may seem selfish if you have children, but you have to put your oxygen mask on first or you can't pour from an empty cup.

Also, i realized if you are struggling to understand what you are feeling, just do something you like to do or close your eyes for 10 seconds and breathe or listen to what your heart is saying

 

[ArgelTal578]

I think you're right on much of this.

Building a bond with a therapist, even if its a more 'professional' one, still involves connection. Their job is to listen and understand how you feel and to help you work through it. People often don't think about this when they are intimidated by seeing a therapist, but it's literally their job to go as slow/fast as you need.

It's best to rely on somebody in person first, ideally an expert. Another issue is many people simply aren't equipped to provide advice somebody needs, so although it can seem like people don't want to help, it's often that they're unable; or, as you say, have problems of their own.

 

[Jonathan123]

As an ex counsellor I agree entirely that nothing can substitute for one to one counselling. But we have to face the fact that it's not always available and when it is it can be costly. On this site we all do the best we can to help those who just can't afford counselling. This is not second best but good in its own way. Be warry of so called 'experts'. They may be all theory and have no idea what anxiety is like if they have not been there. There is no substitute for actual experience.

 

[MATD]

Agree with Jonathan. Also consider that people without faces tend to be more outspoken and honest. They tend to get right to the heart of the answer instead of trying to say softer things to save the relationship you share with them. They can be brutally honest whereas a friend will not so as to not rock the boat. What do you really want? It’s your choice. Your recovery is waiting on you to take the necessary steps to make it happen, because it ultimately is up to us individually. Nobody can do it for us but us. The answers are inside us if we choose to look and put in the needed effort.