Thinking people are out to stop me

[SentinelJames]

Hi,
My name is James, I'm 19 and live in the UK. Recently, I got an apprenticeship placement in my dream job, railway engineering, which I am so excited about starting. However, currently I'm having a really bad time trusting my family. My underlying fear, is that they can, and will stop me doing my apprenticeship for these reasons: when I was 3, i was diagnosed with asperger syndrome, which for me, meant I just needed additional support through school, which was fine. I have also suffered with OCD in the past, in which i used to have have to take medication for. I now have this overwhelming fear, that my family can stop me moving out, moving to another city, living on my own, finding a significant other and generally living an independent life. I feel like they are always talking about me behind my back, planning how they are going to stop my apprenticeship, talking about my diagnosis of aspergers. I have chosen to keep myself to myself around my family, because it keeps my worry more at bay. I planning maticulously in my head, what I'm going to do if they do try and stop me doing my apprenticeship, who I'm going to call and what im going to do. My parents are so condescending because of my diagnosis of aspergers, explaining to me the meaning behind the things the say, eventhough I know exactly what they mean, just like any 'normal' person would. I'm afraid I just don't trust any of my family at all, which is why I just keep myself to myself. My questions are: does my diagnosis of aspergers and previous anxiety mean people can stop me doing things, and what should I do if it turns out my family are being decietful? Thank you.

 

[triceps]

Hi and welcome SentinelJames. Please keep in mind that it's difficult for parents to let go of their kids in most circumstances. I know it was very hard for me for both of my kids. I am very familiar with aspergers as my father had it all of his life. The lack of confidence in you from your parents perhaps is from the many years of protecting you from a world that didn't always accept your way of thinking or interacting. I would tell your parents that you feel confident in being successful with your apprenticeship and would just like the chance to see how you'd do independently. Let them know you're aware of the chance that it might not work out but you're young and that not working out now wouldn't be the end of the world. It would be a very informative test of what's in store for you as an adult with aspergers.
Good luck and again welcome. By the way, my father managed to become a very good psychiatrist. He didn't have many friends which was fine with him. But he had a very fulfilling life, as can you.

 

[ManaClash]

James just talk to them about how you feel buddy it can't hurt to express your concern maybe your overthinking it and they just want what's best for you.