Kaynil
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I am usually good enough to keep my cool about most things. I do get nervous about life situations but I think there is something about the phone that really gets me anxious. it doesn't matter if it is ringing or I am the one that has to make a call.
It would be too easy just to blame it to using my second language and knowing I have a marked accent I am resigning I'll never lose. Too easy, and a lie to myself. I was exactly the same growing up in my hometown. It is not that.
Calling for something as simple as to inquire about a product get me so nervous that I will do my best to delay them or to avoid them. For a while, I just would have my friend do them for me. he found it at first hilarious I got so affected by the prospect of doing a call. I must have a piece of paper with the questions, and roleplay things in my head before I feel enough courage to pick up the phone.
If they go out of my head roleplay I freeze in the spot. I find hard to string a coherent sentence because the pressure of knowing they are waiting for me is overwhelming. I know it is not a big deal but it feels like it is, and a small pause makes me feel like I am taking ages, which makes me even more nervous. Being ask to repeat myself more than two times also pretty much destroys my courage, because I already tried to be loud and slow so if they didn't get it I just think my accent stink and they will never understand me so I am wasting their time.
I might call people I have absolute trust, but acquaintances and people I don't know, even if they're being paid to cater to your inquisitions, I just get intimidated. A lot.
Do any of you have something similar when it comes to handling the phone?
It would be too easy just to blame it to using my second language and knowing I have a marked accent I am resigning I'll never lose. Too easy, and a lie to myself. I was exactly the same growing up in my hometown. It is not that.
Calling for something as simple as to inquire about a product get me so nervous that I will do my best to delay them or to avoid them. For a while, I just would have my friend do them for me. he found it at first hilarious I got so affected by the prospect of doing a call. I must have a piece of paper with the questions, and roleplay things in my head before I feel enough courage to pick up the phone.
If they go out of my head roleplay I freeze in the spot. I find hard to string a coherent sentence because the pressure of knowing they are waiting for me is overwhelming. I know it is not a big deal but it feels like it is, and a small pause makes me feel like I am taking ages, which makes me even more nervous. Being ask to repeat myself more than two times also pretty much destroys my courage, because I already tried to be loud and slow so if they didn't get it I just think my accent stink and they will never understand me so I am wasting their time.
I might call people I have absolute trust, but acquaintances and people I don't know, even if they're being paid to cater to your inquisitions, I just get intimidated. A lot.
Do any of you have something similar when it comes to handling the phone?