The Passing of a Loved One

[joshposh]

I think everyone can sympathize with this one. Everyone here has experienced the passing of someone they really cared about. I had it to me once when I was a kid and that pretty much toughened me up for each passing person that was close to me. Dealing with that first loss was difficult. There was nothing up to that point that could prepare me for that moment. I wasn't born into way and conflict, so death was unfamiliar.


For a year I pondered over it. I had weird thought of why this was happening and how I could overcome it. Eventually I learned to deal with the loss. I had to deal with it alone as I was always a loner and didn't rely on anyone for help. No one should be put into that situation of helplessness, but it happened to me because I was ashamed to seek help.

 

[ReadmeByAmy]

When I read the topic of this thread it brings back memories of my father who had died already and I just can't keep crying remembering him again. The passing of a love one always brings sadness, pain in the heart and missing the person everyday. When my father died all of us in the family are not ready to faced this kind of loss and it took us years to accept the fact that he is not with us anymore. In fact until now he is always in our minds especially when we are seeing his big portrait that we put in our living room so that everyday we can still see his smiling face which always touched our hearts. But life must go on because all of us will also depart in this world to be with our love ones who had passed away.

 

[bangtanboys]

When I read the topic of this thread it brings back memories of my father who had died already and I just can't keep crying remembering him again. The passing of a love one always brings sadness' date=' pain in the heart and missing the person everyday. When my father died all of us in the family are not ready to faced this kind of loss and it took us years to accept the fact that he is not with us anymore. In fact until now he is always in our minds especially when we are seeing his big portrait that we put in our living room so that everyday we can still see his smiling face which always touched our hearts. But life must go on because all of us will also depart in this world to be with our love ones who had passed away.[/quote']
A similar story: My dad passed away when I was only fourteen, and all I can remember was how I couldn't stop crying. It was the first time I had to deal with the passing of a loved one, and unfortunately it had to happen to someone who was the head of the household. I didn't want my friends' sympathies or it'll make me feel worse about myself, so I never told anyone about it for years. I kept it all to myself, and just silently cried when everyone was sleeping. What only made me stop was realizing that if he was watching me, he probably wouldn't want to see me in this state.


My brother, too, was never one to share his feelings with others, so he dealt with it on his own. I remember one night when he was showering, I heard his staggered sobs from behind the door and that absolutely BROKE me. He probably thought the sound of the water masked his cries, but it obviously didn't.


But that was seven years ago. Since then, I've been able to talk about it comfortably like I am now. Time really does heal all. No matter what happens, life moves on and you got to realize that you are ultimately going to be okay. I hope you are feeling better about your death, and learned that it's okay to seek help the next time you are put in that situation of helplessness. I know I did.

 

[kelden]

Thinking about the unavoidable mortality of your loved ones is quite tough for me. Accepting something so horrible really drives me into the depths of bitterness, but I have a habit of flooding my mind with thoughts in regards of the future.

 

[John Snort]

The death of a loved one is something that can be hard to deal with and many initially try to escape reality because they are unwilling to accept the fact that someone they loved is gone forever. This hardly ever helps because to move on you have to accept the loss. Don't try to fight the pain. Embrace it. Cry if you have to and let time soothe the heartache. You could also try some meditation, I've heard that it can help.

 

[Sue]

My Dad passed away in 2000 and my mom passed away in 2014. They were two very difficult deaths for me. Life is so different without them. I think of both of them everyday and I miss them so much. I do my best to get through each day the best that I can. I have lost many people I cared and loved but my parents deaths were the hardest thing I had to deal with. There is an ache in my heart that just never goes away. So many times I wish I could talk to them. They were the two people who were always there for me no matter what. Two people who loved me, supported me and believed in me no matter what.

 

[ReadmeByAmy]

When I read the topic of this thread it brings back memories of my father who had died already and I just can't keep crying remembering him again. The passing of a love one always brings sadness' date=' pain in the heart and missing the person everyday. When my father died all of us in the family are not ready to faced this kind of loss and it took us years to accept the fact that he is not with us anymore. In fact until now he is always in our minds especially when we are seeing his big portrait that we put in our living room so that everyday we can still see his smiling face which always touched our hearts. But life must go on because all of us will also depart in this world to be with our love ones who had passed away.[/quote']
A similar story: My dad passed away when I was only fourteen, and all I can remember was how I couldn't stop crying. It was the first time I had to deal with the passing of a loved one, and unfortunately it had to happen to someone who was the head of the household. I didn't want my friends' sympathies or it'll make me feel worse about myself, so I never told anyone about it for years. I kept it all to myself, and just silently cried when everyone was sleeping. What only made me stop was realizing that if he was watching me, he probably wouldn't want to see me in this state.


My brother, too, was never one to share his feelings with others, so he dealt with it on his own. I remember one night when he was showering, I heard his staggered sobs from behind the door and that absolutely BROKE me. He probably thought the sound of the water masked his cries, but it obviously didn't.


But that was seven years ago. Since then, I've been able to talk about it comfortably like I am now. Time really does heal all. No matter what happens, life moves on and you got to realize that you are ultimately going to be okay. I hope you are feeling better about your death, and learned that it's okay to seek help the next time you are put in that situation of helplessness. I know I did.

I knew how you feel when your dad passed away and like what you said no matter what happens life must go on for those who was left behind by their love ones who had passed away. I am feeling fine already and our family just think of my father as our guardian angel who will always watch over us in our everyday life. I hope you are feeling better already too.

 

[Corzhens]

When my father died in 1994, we were afraid of our mother because we knew that she loved her husband so much. By the way, my father was in the hospital for a month before he succumbed to liver cancer. He was emaciated like skin and bones from his usual big physique so you can imagine the sufferings that he underwent and my mother was always there by his side. During the wake and after the burial, we were all so conscious of my mother, we were always checking on what she was doing. Sometimes she would wake up at midnight and cry. We understand her depression but all we can do is to console her because we, her children, also feel sad with the loss. Fortunately, my mother was able to overcome the grief and after a month she was back to her normal self.

 

[ReadmeByAmy]

My Dad passed away in 2000 and my mom passed away in 2014. They were two very difficult deaths for me. Life is so different without them. I think of both of them everyday and I miss them so much. I do my best to get through each day the best that I can. I have lost many people I cared and loved but my parents deaths were the hardest thing I had to deal with. There is an ache in my heart that just never goes away. So many times I wish I could talk to them. They were the two people who were always there for me no matter what. Two people who loved me, supported me and believed in me no matter what.

Like what I had said my father had already passed away too and I am feeling the same way you are missing your dad. I can't imagined what will happen to me just in case my mother will pass away. That is why everyday I always hug her and say I love you to her to hear those words while she is still with us in our family. It is true that if we will lose both our parents in our life it would be the hardest thing to deal with because they are the one who gave us life in this world. Like me I knew that the pain is still there in your heart and I just hope that time will come that you can overcome this thing that had happened in your life.