Terrified. Found a breast lump

[Hobbit]

I’m scheduled to see the doc on Monday, which alone terrifies me, but I’m sure she will order diagnostic mammograms and u/s and then probably a biopsy. I had a late miscarriage in September after IVF, so I’m convinced that plus the hormones I was in gave me cancer. I’m a lot older too (hence the IVF), so prime age for BC. I am terrified. I didn’t feel it earlier in the week, and last night I did. I am paralyzed with fear I have cancer and will leave my kids motherless. I can’t understand how lumps aren’t cancer. It moves but isn’t squishy. Help. I didn’t sleep at all last night and the HA is red-lining. I keep adding up all the other “symptoms” I’ve felt since the m/c too (like these hot/cold nerve sensations along my rib cage, back and armpit area, and the swollen lymph nodes in that same armpit after my first covid vax in January, but they went away within a few days.) Please help. I feel sick.

Had a scary situation years ago myself , felt a lump , freaked out , went for a mamogram then a biopsy . Turns out it was just a fibro-adenoma . A harmless lump . Most lumps are NOT cancerous . Just try and remember that . I know , its impossible to not freak out.

 

[E.B]

Had a scary situation years ago myself , felt a lump , freaked out , went for a mamogram then a biopsy . Turns out it was just a fibro-adenoma . A harmless lump . Most lumps are NOT cancerous . Just try and remember that . I know , its impossible to not freak out.

Read the entire thread. It was found to be cancerous, however very very early with an awesome prognosis!

 

[Hobbit]

Read the entire thread. It was found to be cancerous, however very very early with an awesome prognosis!

Aww geez I'm sorry to hear ! But yes it's all about early diagnosis , glad the prognosis is good , best thoughts and prayers for your complete and speedy recovery , stay strong and positive !!!

 

[NKS]

It is very normal for you to be scared and it's ok don't bash yourself because of it. It's a valid reason to be overwhelmed.
But on the other hand at that stage of your sickness yes you should just treat it as a mole gone wrong as you said, it will be successfully treated.
I have known two people who had BC at that stage, one even stage 2 and their doctors told them to treat it as nothing more than a bad case of flu. One of the drs was a veteran oncologist and he specially asked her not to take it too serious as he believed that it's a way to treat cancer because you let your body know that the battle is already won. Like confidence boost to your cells.
Eat well meanwhile, keep on being active. Ask around for more opinions about immune system related cancer treatments. I know there are a bunch of them around when it comes to BC.
We are here for you, please be strong. This is a win! 1000%

Thank you. This is super helpful. I know my doc is like “people with high blood pressure are more at risk of dying than you are,” but my brain is not listening. I want to believe it’s a bad mole that needs cutting off or a flu that sure, you *could* theoretically die from but who really does? I like the idea of telling my cells what’s going on and that this is no big deal. Because right now the story I’m telling them we’re toast, time to write goodbye letters. I probably should get some SSRIs going because I’m struggling more than I thought possible and still function to some degree.


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[NKS]

I know this is easier said than done, but it might be time to stop reading for a while. Your doctors are the ones who know about YOUR SPECIFIC case; they'll have the info that's relevant to you personally. There's so much that goes into staging and cure potential and all that. (The gyn/onc who did my hysterectomy years ago walked me through the process on a very surface level; it's fascinating stuff but very daunting when you don't really know how to contextualize any of it.) You're just not going to find what you're looking for online, which is something saying "there is absolutely no chance this could recur and potentially kill you." At least, that's basically what I'm always hoping to see when I let myself get caught up in googling.

Also just a reminder that if you don't like this oncologist, it's safe to get a second opinion. You have time for that. I know it can feel like everything needs to be done IMMEDIATELY, but you do have time.

Thank you. You just echoed what my doc said (and I pretty much want to take her home with me because she calms me down so much. She’s also pretty much the doc that other docs go to, and she’s chief of surgery. So she knows her stuff)—-stop reading anything, because there are 1,000 different types and bodies and environments and lifestyles. It’s very individual. And yes, I am looking for guarantees. But I guess the only guarantee I have is that I 100% will NEVER die or get prostate cancer. Or testicular. But other than that, nothing is risk free or guaranteed. I just am having a terrible time seeing the gray. In my mind (as I sure with many of you) there is no gray. You’re either 100% nothing wrong at all or you’re dying quickly and tragically. Where things can be treated and fine, that’s a foreign concept. But yes, need to stop reading. I can’t see more stories with people with my dx getting it stage 4 15 years later. I just can’t.


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[mollyfin]

Your doctor sounds great! Sounds like you're in the best possible hands, and I can't say enough how much the quality of your medical care affects the eventual outcome. You're doing everything right to avoid the things you fear; beyond that, as my friend said when I was facing a potential diagnosis, "trust the statistics." In your case, the odds are overwhelmingly saying you're going to be okay. Try and be okay with that.

 

[Corey05]

Thank you. You just echoed what my doc said (and I pretty much want to take her home with me because she calms me down so much. She’s also pretty much the doc that other docs go to, and she’s chief of surgery. So she knows her stuff)—-stop reading anything, because there are 1,000 different types and bodies and environments and lifestyles. It’s very individual. And yes, I am looking for guarantees. But I guess the only guarantee I have is that I 100% will NEVER die or get prostate cancer. Or testicular. But other than that, nothing is risk free or guaranteed. I just am having a terrible time seeing the gray. In my mind (as I sure with many of you) there is no gray. You’re either 100% nothing wrong at all or you’re dying quickly and tragically. Where things can be treated and fine, that’s a foreign concept. But yes, need to stop reading. I can’t see more stories with people with my dx getting it stage 4 15 years later. I just can’t.


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Hello, how just wanted to check in to see how you are doing?

 

[SB2017]

Thank you. You just echoed what my doc said (and I pretty much want to take her home with me because she calms me down so much. She’s also pretty much the doc that other docs go to, and she’s chief of surgery. So she knows her stuff)—-stop reading anything, because there are 1,000 different types and bodies and environments and lifestyles. It’s very individual. And yes, I am looking for guarantees. But I guess the only guarantee I have is that I 100% will NEVER die or get prostate cancer. Or testicular. But other than that, nothing is risk free or guaranteed. I just am having a terrible time seeing the gray. In my mind (as I sure with many of you) there is no gray. You’re either 100% nothing wrong at all or you’re dying quickly and tragically. Where things can be treated and fine, that’s a foreign concept. But yes, need to stop reading. I can’t see more stories with people with my dx getting it stage 4 15 years later. I just can’t.


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I just read this entire thread. Wondering how you’re doing?

 

[mollyfin]

Thinking of you! Hope you're on your way to recovery these days!

 

[EMJ]

Thinking of you … hoping you are doing ok and things are going the best they possibly can!

 

[E.B]

Nks how are you doing?