Tainted anxiety ocd

[Jonathan123]

OK!!! So don't read the books. But no one needs books to practise acceptance. Dr. Weekes' methods work fine for many, but I am sure she would have been the first to say that not everyone will respond to them. We can only speak from our own experience. Like all advice the books can only point the way. To go through the door of recovery you have to open it yourself, no one can do it for you. There is a classical painting of Christ standing at a door and knocking. There is no handle on the outside, it has to be opened from within.

'Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears me and opens the door, I will come in and sup with him and he with me'.

In those days to enter someones house and have a meal with them was a great privilege.
This is an invitation to open the door. But why do so many ignore the knocking?

 

[Nutmeg]

I have read the book, it’s very good!
Although there’s a line, as one size does not fit all, and when it comes to anxiety from false memories caused by intrusive thought OCD, the acceptance method isn’t really suitable, and could even be quite dangerous for that individual. Especially if someone has fully convinced themselves that they have committed a dreadful crime and can’t live with that guilt.

 

[Jonathan123]

I have read the book, it’s very good!
Although there’s a line, as one size does not fit all, and when it comes to anxiety from false memories caused by intrusive thought OCD, the acceptance method isn’t really suitable, and could even be quite dangerous for that individual. Especially if someone has fully convinced themselves that they have committed a dreadful crime and can’t live with that guilt.

Yes, counselling of any sort needs to be tailored to the individual. We are all very different and, as you say, there is no fit all method.
I doubt anyone would say acceptance is easy. It can be frustrating because it takes time. I do agree with you that there are many cases where something more may be required. Extreme cases may need extreme methods. All this has to be assessed at the first interview.
But counselling is not for everyone either. The cost involved often stops people going there.

 

[Phil10]

I got some silicone in my finger nails after cleaning my bathroom. I wiped it off and I noticed a white mark probably not silicone but scaped it off. I still have a white mark in my smallest finger mail but towards bottom I think it’s the marks you get in nails it was there before but I have very bad ocd right now and worry if any silicone gets near my nails I will get unwell. I managed to take off my nails came off in shower. I mean it’s unlikely to be silicone as I never used my smallest finger nail but my ocd is that bad I spent 30 mins scrubbing my finger nails in the shower. I have same issue with dog poop someone in my family picked up dog poo so I showered and wouldn’t let them in my house for 3 days. How can I relax?

 

[Cuchculan]

With the silicone you seem to be answering your own question. That it is just how a nail looks as a rule. We all have those whites bits on our nails. I wouldn't be worried about that at all.

Someone in your family was not allowed near your house for 3 days because they cleaned up some dog ****? People don't use their hands when doing that. Plastic bags or even plastic gloves. Can get fined if you don't pick it up. They would not be using their hands. If they did, there is something wrong with them. Has to be cleaned up at times. Honestly, I have never seen anybody just pick it up with their hands. Plastic bags mainly. They do wash their hands. Everybody washes their hands. Is the right thing to do.

 

[Phil10]

When my anxiety is low my ocd becomes chronic. I used a xmas gift early as my ocd says i need do use it to test it out.

With my nail I have had aches and pains around my fingers. Urge to pull the whole nail off doubt that will help. I am finding small issues become over inflated. I become stuck in these ocd patterns. Why? I am having less panic attacks which is great but it’s instantly replaced by awful ocd. I am bad for wasting food right now. I have had to this ocd before and it flares up when things get bad. I worry it takes me to new extremes for anxiety and ocd.

 

[Cuchculan]

That is what happens. One always replaces the other. Try to use some logic around things. Dog **** and the likes. Nobody would just pick it up with their hands. I think even an OCD mind can accept that one? Nobody would just pick it up.

Nails wise, if we are doing things, it is not uncommon to get a few aches after it. Happens to all of us. If I played a piano, bad example, for 1/2 hour, my fingers would be sore. Same with gaming. But they are pains that always go away. They are normal. They are part of life.

 

[Phil10]

So I had a few stains in my poach area. I painted over these 6 times due to ocd and it wouldn’t go. It still had a slight mark. Anyway I decided today get a painter and decorator and he primed it and comes back tomorrow what’s to paint the whole wall. I can’t afford to repaint the house as I just got it done in March but it’s a different paint brand so I worry it will set my ocd into over drive. Maybe I won’t notice but if I painted the one area there was a difference in shade of what’s already painted. It cost me more money to get a decorator out so feel guilty about it. Leaving it would have left a large stain on my wall and that also set my ocd off? I can’t win?

 

[Phil10]

So I cancelled the painter. He wanted to paint the whole poach. My ocd has gone into over drive I had a few options

Leave paint with wet stain
Paint over the affected area
Paint whole poarch
Paint entire living room most expensive job I only done this every 5 years .

I couldn’t settle on a full porch repaint so I am annoyed when anyone opens the door the paint doesn’t match up. Doing nothing was stressful. No easy solution. How can I relax?

 

[Cuchculan]

Paint it yourself. That way nobody else will be involved. Nobody else coming into your porch. How long could it take the paint? Is only a porch. And I don't think you can ever relax with all these problems you keep on seeing. Problems that others wouldn't see.

 

[Phil10]

Paint it yourself. That way nobody else will be involved. Nobody else coming into your porch. How long could it take the paint? Is only a porch. And I don't think you can ever relax with all these problems you keep on seeing. Problems that others wouldn't see.

In the end I painted it myself only the affected area the guy went over it with the primer. Sadly I wasted £50 on a 2 minute prime would have been £60 if he painted it all. I never painted whole thing as I worried it would set my ocd off worse. So two issues I wasted more cash I do this a lot right now and secondly my ocd about the shades of paint. Hopefully I forget it. Lots of areas of imperfections in my house sadly. Many bits of paint I want going over. Leaving the wet mark wasn’t a good plan and I couldn’t change it I think it happened when I was on holiday.

But yes i need to work on these ocd themes. I am throwing alot away still. Obsessing over things like cupboards being messy. As my anxiety has been lower I get these ocd situations more.

 

[Phil10]

On close inspection there’s still a slight mark so I am annoyed with myself I paid £50 pounds due to my ocd to make it barely any better. For some reason I have areas of paint discolour doesn’t appear to be any damp. Bit frustrating really. I mean it is better and to most people looks fine but if I am being picky I don’t feel it’s fully solved.

 

[Phil10]

this is the affected area probably can’t notice it maybe it’s just I know it’s been repainted and guy said it all needed done but I only done a small square

 

[Cuchculan]

All look good to me. So you are just aware of were it was. If that was me posting that picture, you wouldn't notice anything in the picture.

 

[Phil10]

Right now i want to go for a full repaint of entire living room and hall way. I had areas of inperfection I repainted before I redecorated in March. Problem is it may cost hundreds of pounds to repaint. I wasted £50 already. During my worst ocd i can give good items away or pay lots to fix imperfections. And yes i have better things to spend on but my ocd thoughts niggle away and i give in and replace. I mean there’s also bigger issues i could worry about but i often worry about cosmetic issues.