Stuck

[Hopeforcalm]

I feel stuck in life. I can’t move forward or backwards. I live in a very small town and to go do something new or different is like a 2 hour drive. My new life right now has been being with my girlfriend for 5 years. My old life was sitting at a bar by myself. Sometimes I miss my old life of being free. My new life has been good because I’m with someone and we’ve done a lot of new things, it’s better than being alone most of the time. I have a good job in my town so it’s hard to leave but it’s depressing without anything new to do, it makes me want to revert to my old life of being alone and depressed because it got me through the days by having no expectations. I feel depressed because I have nothing to do.

 

[Cuchculan]

Can you not make things to do? I do lots of thing here in my own home. The odd hobby or two. Things I always wanted to do but never got around to it. years ago. Now I do them and it keeps me happy. Just a case of finding out what things you would like to do within your reach. Something new. That you can teach yourself. Take it from there. I model build. My own little private room. Same room I listen to my music in. Have a reclining armchair in there. Fold up table to build things on. Even a lamp for model building. Just a case of me wanting some new to do. Oddly it all began with a 3D jigsaw. Had heard of them, but never done one. It just went on from there. I kept looking for harder challenges. Not saying take up model building. That might not be your thing. I am sure there must be something you like doing.

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

Finding and doing one or more hobbies that you find to be both fun and meaningful can really occupy your time in a good and enjoyable way and make you feel much less bored.

 

[E.B]

I feel stuck in life. I can’t move forward or backwards. I live in a very small town and to go do something new or different is like a 2 hour drive. My new life right now has been being with my girlfriend for 5 years. My old life was sitting at a bar by myself. Sometimes I miss my old life of being free. My new life has been good because I’m with someone and we’ve done a lot of new things, it’s better than being alone most of the time. I have a good job in my town so it’s hard to leave but it’s depressing without anything new to do, it makes me want to revert to my old life of being alone and depressed because it got me through the days by having no expectations. I feel depressed because I have nothing to do.

Coincidentally I am getting married on Saturday, and am nervous because I am used to being alone and having my routine, especially when going thru an anxiety streak. I am also nostalgic and long for the past.

However I can tell you without knowing you that you are better off not being in a bar drinking. Do you have any interests at all? How about travelling some?

 

[Hopeforcalm]

I think I’m nervous about the wedding and commitment. I think I get really scared of commitment even if it’s really good. It’s just something about not being free or something. I think it’s better being with someone as I do way more in life like vacations, going to dinner, and stuff like that. I’m just getting panic attacks again and I hate it.