Stuck indoors with no life

[Guest]

While my family are all out having fun and enjoying the sunshine, I'm stuck at home on my laptop playing video games and writing on here. Fantastic. It's pointless me going out anyway. I have no friends to hang out with, no girlfriend, no money, and no job. Basically I have no life whatsoever. Good going eh?


Can't wait for summer to end, this is so depressing.

 

[RichE8475]

My situation is the same way. I use to be out with friends, working out at the gym, and even working. Starring aimlessly at the same four walls every day. I thought if I got a dog i would at least get outside, but I have the neighbors' kids take him out for a walk. When he has to go out to pee I just open the door and connect his chain on him. I do not even remember really when I went from being outgoing to a hermit. I know that I just need to start making myself go outside and sit on the front steps for about fifteen minutes. Maybe I could start working my way into walking a block over and sitting at the park. It does not seem to matter if it is summer or not with me, because last fall and winter were just as depressing. I hope you are able to find a way to get out more. Definitely stay in touch with members of this community, and hopefully we can help each other out.

 

[joshposh]

While my family are all out having fun and enjoying the sunshine, I'm stuck at home on my laptop playing video games and writing on here. Fantastic. It's pointless me going out anyway. I have no friends to hang out with, no girlfriend, no money, and no job. Basically I have no life whatsoever. Good going eh?
Can't wait for summer to end, this is so depressing.

My housemate says the same thing. "I don't have money to go out and do anything". There are other things you can do that are free and doesn't require an investment. Start by taking walks just get some exercise and get away from the routine of doing nothing constructive all day. At least you'll get the blood flowing again.


Start printing up your resume and start job hunting again. Just make a bunch of them and hand them out. Start texting everyone and asking them if they know of any job openings. At this point I think anything would be better then just staying at home and doing nothing.

 

[WorkAtHomeGal]

I know how you feel Mad Max. I have 1 close friend and during really bad days I will ignore his text or say no to any attempts he makes to get me out of the house. Having a friend who also suffers from anxiety and depression makes it easier for us to talk to each other about things. But I get so far gone someday's I actually refuse to leave the house. I currently have no job either so I often feel like whats the point? I can get enough motivation to walk sometimes but I do live on a busy road so it is not always easy for me to do. My parents live almost an hour away so where I am living with my boyfriend I at least have them I can try to visit 1-2 times a month. My depression is so bad I can't seem to play video games right now, I miss that


I know job searching is hard but I started to again because my online income is crap now I am lucky to pay 1 bill with it. I have limited myself by mostly applying to factory jobs and jobs with little interaction with customers I know that probably isn't a good thing but for me and being as anxious as I am I feel like it is.

 

[sidney]

Sorry to hear that you are experiencing that. I am also stuck indoors, but it's something that doesn't bother me, maybe because I'm always busy, whether physically or mentally. I think that for you not to get stuck in this deep depression because you're idle, then you ought to look for a job as soon as possible! Once you have some money, then a girlfriend would be possible. Friends will come naturally as you interact with people on your job. So get up and start moving!

 

[MellowCat]

I am really sorry that it's so depressing for you. Do you not get any enjoyment out of going out at all? I have had times like this, and I remember spending days on end in bed. I would physically tired and sick after a while just from not doing anything, besides the depression.


I don't know if it would help or not, but reading books helps me a lot. I find them entertaining and a good escape, as well as a way to learn about myself. it's amazing what fiction can do


Also, perhaps if you aren't ready for a 'real job,' you could do some kind of internet job? There are lots of opportunities.

 

[Laneorexorcist]

I'm also looking forward to the end of this summer, if I wasn't working with my dad, my situation would be pretty much the same, and I am conscious about how depressing it can get in there. Productivity it's a big thing for me and just being here doesn't makes me feel that great, that even if it's for school, it would be really nice to go out everyday, learn something new and talking with some friends.

 

[John Snort]

As for making friends, try volunteering. You'll be meeting a lot of people who are interested in doing something for their community and they'll be more than happy to have you join them. And once you start to meet and work with a lot of new people you could ask them about job openings. They have friends who have friends . . . and you just might get the job you are looking for or at the very least any job that will keep you busy for a while.

 

[essennyo]

I'm at the exact same place as you. I feel like I've wasted my entire summer doing absolutely nothing of value. I've only had one friend ask me to hang out. It feels like all the rest have forgotten my existence. To an extent, it doesn't bother me anymore because it's what's been happening for years now. And also to an extent, I'm okay with it. I think having a place like this or joining any other social media where you're a lot more free from judgement, like tumblr, is good because then you feel like you're part of something. The only real advice I can give is to remember to keep your head above the water.

 

[Sue]

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I use to be the exact same way when I lived alone. I had no real friends so I stayed inside. I did work but when I got home from work I went straight home and got on my computer. My online friends are my best friends. They are always there for me. I met my fiance online and when we met up we hit it off immediately. Now we mostly just hang out with each other. We do a lot of things but it is always just the two of us. All I can suggest it get outside if only for a short walk. You don't always need money to have fun and do things. I seen plenty of people alone at the beach or hiking. Just take it slowly and step out of your comfort zone.

 

[kgord]

I also feel the same way. However, it is partly due to the region I live more than social anxiety if I have to say. I really have no close connections at this point even online, but I do have people that I talk to.


I would do more if I had some money and was able to travel a bit out of the area. However, my anxiety doesn't make it any easier to "get out there." It is just one of the factors preventing me from having a life, when I used to. A social life is important.

 

[Norjak71]

I have the same feeling. I actually like winter the most which is strange to most people. I like that everyone gets forced inside, the darkness, it actually makes me happy. Seeing all the bright sunshine and people outside upsets me. I don't really want to go outside though thats the problem, I've become to adept to staying inside I actually kind of enjoy it now.

 

[nytegeek]

You have to get out and make things happen for yourself. You can't wait for them to come to you. If you are unable to because of something like agoraphobia or anxiety you need to seek treatment for it or nothing will change.

 

[AnxietyNerd]

Just try to socialise first with the people who have similar interests like the games which you play and once you are able to do that it would be easier for you to socialise with others as well.


If you let it continue soon enough you would not even find it awkward that you are not communicating and you would start to let i be. Therefore, instead of accepting it as a reality it is much better if you try to change things rather then accepting the way in which they are.

 

[amy88]

I know it's hard. I've been in that boat too. I just posted another thread on my experiences lately with just getting out and walking my pup and trying to say good morning to people who cross my path. It helps me feel better and like I'm making progress. And getting out and walking doesn't cost me a thing - so that's nice too.

 

[Alex]

Sometimes it's hard being stuck at home, but some find it's a safer option. We do have choices though and if you choose to stay indoors and play video games that is your choice. You can still do things alone such as go fro a walk, or a run.


Trying to compare yourself to others doesn't help, and maybe you can tag along with a family member. If you don't make the move to look as if you wish to join them, they may stop asking. Tear yourself away from the computer for a while, because you could get addicted.