std fear

[Bananas]

hi well mine started when my current bf had some wounds on his penis it was months into the relationship and he was a virgin before me it ended up being wounds because of the rubbing on his pants. so we paniced and since then i have a horrible fear of having std's and other sickness lately too mostly its because i rather have anything other than std's so i google and rather choose other sicknesses for example i have period cramp boom google sais its clamidia or something. i dont have symptomes like clisters on the private or in the mouth but i got a horrible fear of hiv because the symptomes are like a flue i was scared to have open wounds to go on public transportation i didnt want to touch things i was like a germaphobe. anyway i got a lipoom in my neck in the frond and i have it for like 6 months and i panic thinking it was a lymph and i had something REALLY BAD the i honestly dont care if i have something. i care that my bf would get it aswell i would never forgive myself that. or that something would happen to me i dont want want him to be alone. but my bf said that the hypochondiac thing was a turn off for him he rather have me behaving normally so do i ofcourse. but on the other hand no one takes me serieus if i actually think something is wrong. but i would really like some advice to get rid of it

 

[matisworried]

sorry you're so anxious. regarding your std fears, assuming your boyfriend was a virgin when you got together, there is nothing to worry about. you're not going to get chlamydia from someone that's not infected with it and you're not going to pick it up like a flu or cold virus. please stay off of google. don't research your health symptoms. it'll only make your anxiety worse.

i'd also highly suggest therapy and potentially medication. this should be discussed with your doctor, of course.

 

[Bananas]

sorry you're so anxious. regarding your std fears, assuming your boyfriend was a virgin when you got together, there is nothing to worry about. you're not going to get chlamydia from someone that's not infected with it and you're not going to pick it up like a flu or cold virus. please stay off of google. don't research your health symptoms. it'll only make your anxiety worse.

i'd also highly suggest therapy and potentially medication. this should be discussed with your doctor, of course.

thank you,i wasnt scare i got anything of my bf but i wasnt a virgin, and i had one accident where a condom broke we did noticed it right away and he told me he didnt had anything but still it made me really scared i went to the doctor and they just said if there was something i would have definitly noticed it and that the chances were VERY small like 0.03% especially because we noticed it and stopped right away. so everytime i get parranoid of it. but i do check ups of my body wich i shouldnt and i get scared and think of situations like. if i touch a pole and someone who has a sickness touches it and i scratch myself i can contract it and i know how ridiculus it sounds but i feel like i cant help thinking like that

 

[matisworried]

...i know how ridiculus it sounds but i feel like i cant help thinking like that

...and this is where therapy can be very beneficial.

regarding your std concerns, at this point, if you were to have contracted anything from a past partner, you'd know by now... nevermind the fact that you've been checked out by a doctor and he's given you the all clear.

 

[TruthHurts]

hi well mine started when my current bf had some wounds on his penis it was months into the relationship and he was a virgin before me it ended up being wounds because of the rubbing on his pants. so we paniced and since then i have a horrible fear of having std's and other sickness lately too mostly its because i rather have anything other than std's so i google and rather choose other sicknesses for example i have period cramp boom google sais its clamidia or something. i dont have symptomes like clisters on the private or in the mouth but i got a horrible fear of hiv because the symptomes are like a flue i was scared to have open wounds to go on public transportation i didnt want to touch things i was like a germaphobe. anyway i got a lipoom in my neck in the frond and i have it for like 6 months and i panic thinking it was a lymph and i had something REALLY BAD the i honestly dont care if i have something. i care that my bf would get it aswell i would never forgive myself that. or that something would happen to me i dont want want him to be alone. but my bf said that the hypochondiac thing was a turn off for him he rather have me behaving normally so do i ofcourse. but on the other hand no one takes me serieus if i actually think something is wrong. but i would really like some advice to get rid of it

Your boyfriend could have got the wounds other ways maybe he had a little to much time on his hands " friction wounds" maybe he zipped it up in his zipper. Just saying from experience it happens.

 

[Bananas]

Your boyfriend could have got the wounds other ways maybe he had a little to much time on his hands " friction wounds" maybe he zipped it up in his zipper. Just saying from experience it happens.

i know it was friction wounds lets just get straight to the point no excuses, he wasnt wearing underwear and i rubbed his pants over it so it was because of that we also googled it and it wasnt blisters or anything just little red dots like half mm or even smaller little needle sized dots only on the head no where else and the wounds healed in like 2-3 days and never came back (i never rub while he wears clothes or grind were very carefull now) he also doesnt have any mouth sores nothing in like 6 months. sometimes i check his private just to be sure because my hipochondria doesnt only effect me i also check him i look at his mouth, i look his skintone, weight whether he has weird lumps or anything very suddle. i hate it i should only be concered about his weight. (he weights himself 2 times a day he is REALLY concerned if he gains weight unhealthy kind of he would skip meals if he gained a kg) but i shouldnt be looking at his skincolor or any of that. i worry about stupid things like oh....hes pale! compaired to ....summer pictures...its winter ofc he gets paler. but yeah mostly after a while while im with him i forget it just every so often like once a week i think about little pains but when i leave him i worry more often.

 

[matisworried]

i know it was friction wounds lets just get straight to the point no excuses, he wasnt wearing underwear and i rubbed his pants over it so it was because of that we also googled it and it wasnt blisters or anything just little red dots like half mm or even smaller little needle sized dots only on the head no where else and the wounds healed in like 2-3 days and never came back (i never rub while he wears clothes or grind were very carefull now) he also doesnt have any mouth sores nothing in like 6 months. sometimes i check his private just to be sure because my hipochondria doesnt only effect me i also check him i look at his mouth, i look his skintone, weight whether he has weird lumps or anything very suddle. i hate it i should only be concered about his weight. (he weights himself 2 times a day he is REALLY concerned if he gains weight unhealthy kind of he would skip meals if he gained a kg) but i shouldnt be looking at his skincolor or any of that. i worry about stupid things like oh....hes pale! compaired to ....summer pictures...its winter ofc he gets paler. but yeah mostly after a while while im with him i forget it just every so often like once a week i think about little pains but when i leave him i worry more often.

i highly suggesting talking to a therapist.

the fact that your hypochondria/health anxiety is affecting your boyfriend so directly is very unhealthy for you, him and your relationship. this is no way for either of you to live and this is the type of behavior that will end up causing long term and potentially irreparable damage to you guys.