Spoke with the ex

[Howlingvapor]

On impulse I sent and angry text to my ex girlfriend. I know it was stupid, but it actually turned into a conversation. She’s apparently been going to therapy and has realized that the way she treated me and the relationship was really immature. She’s been learning to care about others and while what we had can never be again it was nice to see that she’s becoming a better person. I’ve hated her so much for so long, and I’m going to try to let go of that anger. I’m afraid if I do though I’ll be sad again, but I was never meant to hold this much anger and it’s done a number on me mentally. I used to be a really loving person. I loved my fellow man and treated everyone I met with respect. I was the type of person to talk perfect strangers through hard times. When I started hating her I began hating everything and everyone else too.

So how do I let this anger go without being sad again? I use anger as a way of avoiding anxiety and depression, it’s unhealthy I know, but sometimes it’s the only relief I have. If I stop hating her, I’m afraid I’ll just be sad that she didn’t have this turn around when we were together, but if I keep hating her I’ll never be able to truly move on.

God put me here to love others, that’s why he gave me such a big heart and kind soul. I’m so tired of anger, I’m so sick of hatred. I want to love people again. I’m just hurting so much.

If you have any tips for letting go of anger or have dealt with something similar please let me know. Some advice and understanding would be really nice right now.


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[Brad66]

I struggle with anger too. I also find that once it boils over and a have a day where I am irritable and argue with my wife I follow that up with a few days of feeling depressed.

I probably sound like a broken record at this point but exercise helps a lot to relax you and help you think more calmly about the things you are angry about. Also writing it down and getting the anger out that way works well bc once you have it written down you will stop trying to figure it out in your head all the time.

Also I find I am more susceptible to anger on the days after I have had too much sugar. This past Wednesday I ate one too many cupcakes, which I rarely allow myself to have, for a special event. The next day I was depressed and angry all day... I also slept like crap that night too.

 

[Mandyhiero]

That’s awesome, Howlingvapor! Wishing you luck with everything! I think what Brad66 said is true. Too much sugar can cause some crazy stuff. I just started Keto about a week ago and I have to say I’m feeling so much better anxiety and depression wise! Might be worth a shot to try and cut out some sugar.

 

[Michelle2005]

On impulse I sent and angry text to my ex girlfriend. I know it was stupid, but it actually turned into a conversation. She’s apparently been going to therapy and has realized that the way she treated me and the relationship was really immature. She’s been learning to care about others and while what we had can never be again it was nice to see that she’s becoming a better person. I’ve hated her so much for so long, and I’m going to try to let go of that anger. I’m afraid if I do though I’ll be sad again, but I was never meant to hold this much anger and it’s done a number on me mentally. I used to be a really loving person. I loved my fellow man and treated everyone I met with respect. I was the type of person to talk perfect strangers through hard times. When I started hating her I began hating everything and everyone else too.

So how do I let this anger go without being sad again? I use anger as a way of avoiding anxiety and depression, it’s unhealthy I know, but sometimes it’s the only relief I have. If I stop hating her, I’m afraid I’ll just be sad that she didn’t have this turn around when we were together, but if I keep hating her I’ll never be able to truly move on.

God put me here to love others, that’s why he gave me such a big heart and kind soul. I’m so tired of anger, I’m so sick of hatred. I want to love people again. I’m just hurting so much.

If you have any tips for letting go of anger or have dealt with something similar please let me know. Some advice and understanding would be really nice right now.


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[Michelle2005]

I thought you were my ex when I read this at first. Why do you say you can never be with her again? I'm having a hard time letting my ex go too. I actually saw him yesterday and he still looks mad. I didn't want to leave him to begin with. But I thought the right thing to do was to go back to my husband b/c he seemed to be changing. Turns out after a year and a half, he's back to his old uncaring self though. I feel stuck with him b/c I don't want to put our kids through another separation.